Aibu To think that dss and dh's ex cause my children to lose out.

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I have two dc (15) from a previous relationship with a man who left me 6 months pregnant with twins. I have two dc (8 and 7) with my current partner. I also have a stepson aged 15.

Doesn't matter what her financial situation is OP it's completely irrelevant when it comes to what your husband should be contributing (which he is).

The problem you have is that your husband is overpaying quite substantially by the sounds of things. If this can be afforded then great but if not then your issue really isn't with the fact that his ExW asks him to pay for extras or that she wouldn't pay for half a holiday for her son. Your issue really is that your husband is paying more than what you say you can afford.

It is your husband that you really need to speak with. However, and I am saying this as nicely as possible. What your husband earns and what he deems as acceptable to pay for his first child is essentially his business. If you can't agree on this with him then you have big problems which aren't going to be resolved.

Take the ExW out of the equation, it isn't her fault. Your husband is doing this voluntarily.

Jessica's synopsis is nice and clear and I think YANBU. I even think it was fine to ask to borrow that money. If he can pay above and beyond, why can't she return the favour that one time?

The ex's parents do not have more responsibility to provide for your step son than your DH does.

I'd say that step parents have far more moral responsibility to provide for children than grandparents do.

Because she's a nasty price of work

why can't she return the favour that one time?

Maybe because of the short notice. Most people would notice being £350 down one month with no warning.

I've never said he isn't happy to contribute to his DSS. I said his priority should be his 3. The OP should should fight for cm for her twins.

Could you maybe provide more than one sentence posts, op?

It makes following your line of argument tedious and disjointed to respond as you are currently.

No she's loaded.

I'd say that step parents have far more moral responsibility to provide for children than grandparents do.

That's just daft. Of course a step parent had less responsibility than a blood relative.

That was a response to Ptolemy.

Surely maintenence for 1 is about 15% salary so ex is very fortunate. If she didn't demand all the extras than maybe op and dh could afford to take him on holiday.

Actually dss contantly moans about living with his grandparents anyway I don't know about their finances but ex probably lives off daddy.

His 3 should be his priority but as they are living together as a family can you justifying the twins differently/they get less because they arent biologically DHs.

Because she's a nasty piece of work
So says a mother who gave up on her DC cm

No £350 is the monthly Botox bill ptolemyneedle

Treating the twins that should read.

So ex isn't loaded it is her parents who are?

Does Dss attend a private school and is the maintenance expected to help cover the fees?

In that case, OP, the holiday is irrelevant, the extras and the gifts are for your DH to sort out, and just ignore the ex about the bedrooms.

I did not give up I never tried I don't want a penny from that sickening abuser he slapped me 6months pregnant

Freakin' 'a likemother, how does giving up on an abusive, druggies cm make someone a nasty piece of work? Are you the DSS's mum?

He goes to the same state school as my dc

No she's loaded.

How the bloody hell do you know? Do you have access to her bank statements that even the OP couldn't possibly have?

You should want a penny, its your right and your twins right to have some financial support from their father.

Don't know why he doesn't go private actually that's always amazed me.

Ok OP I actually did try to sympathise with you but you aren't doing yourself any favours. Your updates are making you sound increasingly jealous and childish. You can't be surprised at the responses when this is how you post.