...to think we as wives and mums deserve a treat or a day off, lets say at least once a month, to enjoy and relax ourselves shopping, eating out, visiting ....

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a friend, museum or art gallery, spending some money on clothes, books or any treat you like and deciding to put on my diary as an appointment that cannot be cancelled. What do you think?...

That sounds awesome. Will you watch ds for me?

Surely as an adult if you feel that you need a day then you take a day?

I'd settle for one night's sleep tbh.

Spa vouchers. That's what I want. Unlimited spa vouchers....

Are we allowed this even if we're not 'wives'?

I think I haven't a clue why you posted this!

"Wives and mums" at not a homogenous group.

I do all those things.

Why don't you?

A museum? No Ta. The rest - I do at least once a week if not once a day.

I tried to put on my diary.

It didn't fit

I despair that top of your list is shopping though. How dull.

I think my dh deserves all those things too tbh.

Bollocks. Everybody deserves a day off now and then. Doesn't mean it's going to happen, for many it is an impossibility.

How odd.

Just take a day, wives and mums aren't any more special than husbands and carers or anyone else for that matter.

Are you advertising something? [checks op for product placement]

Shopping? Not enjoyable.

What's your beef with men then OP?

How do you mean "enjoy a friend?"

I don't really think you can generalise to that extent. All wives and mothers? What about people who are neither?

Its sounds great if you can get a babysitter

I may be a wife and mum, but I'm also a hell of a lot of other things too. You actually sound patronising.

If I want to do something I'll do it, no permission needed.

You only aspire to do those things once a month? Bollocks to that.

And it sounds like you think you need to ask permission from someone to basically be, you know, a human adult. Bollocks to that too.

Yanbu - and to the snippy posters dissecting your posts (especially Electracute - fgs!)

I need to remind myself to prioritise myself sometimes - I think a lot of parents do

Christ, what infantilising horseshit

I think it's a post sponsored by Galaxy.

Or maybe Boots.

Erm, why just mums and wives? Don't dads and husbands deserve it too?

Ooooooh, a biscuit! Is that my treat?

Food shopping without my 2 year old is almost a treat in itself!

I think if you have to make such a big deal of it then you maybe need to address the reasons why it's a big deal.