Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

...to think we as wives and mums deserve a treat or a day off, lets say at least once a month, to enjoy and relax ourselves shopping, eating out, visiting ....

100 replies

btfly2 · 26/02/2015 21:44

a friend, museum or art gallery, spending some money on clothes, books or any treat you like and deciding to put on my diary as an appointment that cannot be cancelled. What do you think?...

OP posts:
squeezycheesy · 26/02/2015 21:59

Sounds more Debenhams-ish to me. AKA shite.

meglet · 26/02/2015 22:01

great. where's the childcare and money coming from for single parents to do it then.

MrsBungle · 26/02/2015 22:02

I get to go out and do what I like anyway if I want to. Dh does too. We both deserve time off at times.

SnapeChat · 26/02/2015 22:02

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

bigbluestars · 26/02/2015 22:05

Sounds like a horrible day- sorry- shopping/eating cake/buying clothes/spending money- yawn.

I'm busy that day I'm afraid.

ghostyslovesheep · 26/02/2015 22:05

I do - I take it because I want to - I don't 'ask' or lie about it

I'm not a wife - I am a mum

Original poster
btfly2 · 26/02/2015 22:08

ok,

sorry, didn't mean to exclude any non wife or mum but generally are the busiest, I know there are exceptions like having to look after your parents, etc but I thought about mainly mums as this is a mums's website

shopping appears first but was just an example you could change that and think about a mini trip to Venice too! or spa day or anything just for you and on your own and I know it sounds selfish but my question is if you manage to do it regularly and consistently

thanks for all the comments ladies!

OP posts:
BlackeyedSusan · 26/02/2015 22:11

so your dh not doing his fair share then?

sports widow?

Cabrinha · 26/02/2015 22:13

Wives and mums are the busiest?
Jesus wept.

Cabrinha · 26/02/2015 22:14

Have you actually READ any of the replies?
Which one agrees with you saying it sounds selfish?

Of course you can go and do stuff on your own because you want to.
Answer my question please - why don't you?

bluebirdonmyshoulder · 26/02/2015 22:15

Actually I was busier before I was merely a downtrodden wife and mother. Have shit loads of free time now because being a SAHM is actually quite a doddle.

Mixtape · 26/02/2015 22:16

Ugh, do I have to put it in my calendar as "me-time?"

I don't what it is about that phrase, but it makes me cringe.

hazeyjane · 26/02/2015 22:17

A mini trip to Venice??

Is this a thing? really??! - 'darling, I am pooped, have been run off my feet all week, so I've booked a might at the the Lido di Jesolo, just to do a bit of shopping you understand'

I would honestly rather arm wrestle a zombie than have a spa day. I am not sure whether you are touting something, writing an article or have stepped out of a Mindless Crap for Mums magazine.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 26/02/2015 22:18

If we say we like to take a break and go shopping, are we going to be labelled as lazy, feckless babyboomerhaters in tomorrow's daily mail? Or tomorrow's Wright Stuff?

Cabrinha · 26/02/2015 22:18

I'm enjoying me-time just giggling at the replies on here!

AnyFucker · 26/02/2015 22:19

spa day ?

this post isn't written by a woman, or at least not by a woman that likes/understands women

CuttedUpPear · 26/02/2015 22:19

Yes a mini trip to Venice is a far different thing to a holiday in Venice.

LapsedTwentysomething · 26/02/2015 22:20

DH and I both work FT. My job is more demanding though, so he picks up a lot of the slack re taking the DCs to nursery, picking them up and cleaning while I get them to bed (it's a hard life). He probably deserves a break more than I do, however we both go and do our own thing when we can. OP, YABsoU.

RuthAaaghhh · 26/02/2015 22:21

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AnyFucker · 26/02/2015 22:21

I thought "me time" meant something quite different....

Nessa (in her absolute deadpan Barry accent): "Got any Double A batteries?"

Gwen: "No, Why?"

Nessa: "Ok, I'll borrow them out of the remote, you don't mind do you?"

Gwen: "What do you need them for?"

Nessa: "I'm having some 'me' time"

Cut to Nessa coming down after five minutes

"I didn't need them in the end"

Nessa starts chatting whilst subtly washing her two fingers under the tap.

CuttedUpPear · 26/02/2015 22:22

btfly2

Here's some punctuation for you. Looks like you need some time off yourself, to work on your grammar and presentation.

,,,
. . .
;

Capitals: S T

WereJamming · 26/02/2015 22:22

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DuchessofBuffonia · 26/02/2015 22:23

I have never felt the need to schedule 'buy myself a book' once a month in my diary Confused

I see my friends and go to museums/ do shopping when I want to. Whoever arranges something on a date first has priority. If I am meeting a friend and DH also wants to go out then, we see if we can get Granny in. It all just naturally happens.

Why do you only get one designated treat a month?

WayfaringStranger · 26/02/2015 22:23

I'd need some money for a mini trip to Venice!

Mixtape · 26/02/2015 22:24

That does put a different spin on me-time!

Quite a few people I know put comments about needing me time on facebook. I will see these comments quite differently now.