To be so upset that I've failed my driving test AGAIN!!!

[Lottie10000]

I'm so so upset.
I've got young children and it would make our lives so much easier.
I've been practising for a year, have taken well over 60 hours of lessons, mock tests all go brilliantly well and then I fail the real test.
I can't keep paying out for these tests as well as the instructors time but we have an automatic yet thought best to learn manual in case I ever need to change although after this last awful test today I'm thinking of buying the manual first so I can at least not have to pay the instructor again.
The first test was last month and just awful, I was so nervous , the instructor didn't talk at all, my nerves were shot to pieces with him and I missed a mini roundabout completely, bumped the kerb doing a turn in the road and then forgot to do the blind spot check as we pulled off so 3 majors ( no bloody minors! )
Today I got the guy who passes everyone my instructor said, he was lovely, chatted the whole way, I thought it had gone brilliantly and then he said id failed!
3 minors for gears and 1 major.
The major was for after doing my emergency stop, even though I checked all around me, in the distance was another car and I should have waited for them to go .
Just feel really shit that at 36 I'm finding this so fucking hard.
Passed the theory first time with 2 wrong answers.
Maybe it's just not meant to be.

When you don't pass, I mean!

Best drivers pass 4th time! (Guess how many attempts it took me?!)

You've only failed twice! I've got my eigth test booked end of September!

I passed mine on 3rd attempt! I kept leaving it years between attempts and lessons but I passed in July and I was determined to do it differently this time. I bought myself a £500 golf and insured, taxed and mot. BEST DECISION EVER!

I stupidly decided to book my test and complete a maternity nurse qualification and go on my two month backpacking trip all in the same week so the pressure was on. I knew I couldn't fail, I wouldn't let myself think it. I booked 12 lessons so over the course of three weeks, double lessons and a few with my family, taking them here and there really helped me learn the ropes.

I had previous taken lessons in London but this time it was by the coast in Eastbourne. Scary!! I was driving 70mph and talking huge multi roundabouts and this was just practice! I didn't tel anyone I had my test(they were waiting for me when I got back lol as they figured it out with all the cramming) and it was a lot less pressure.
Two days before I watched 100s of videos on driving techniques and maneauvers. Helped me a lot! I'm 31 and passed a month ago. I never ever thought I'd drive, if I can you can. Relax and invest in a little car!!

I passed somewhere around the eleventh attempt. Horrendous but had some useful benefits. Even now, twenty years later, I try not to take things for granted. If I realise I'm getting into bad habits I consciously try to correct them. Very rarely get road rage because I tend to assume someone's just made a mistake! So please keep going. Good luck

Has the instructor been sat in the back whilst you take your test? If so no wonder you are nervous - I would hate someone in the back during the test. Is this a new thing? Perhaps tell him to wait say the test centre and give it another go alone?

It took me five gos to pass. The first when I was 17 I freely admit was just awful but the ones after that I kept failing for parking related errors because I was so nervous.
I would drive fine outside the test and would get really annoyed when I would read in the paper about 17 year old boyracers who had been done for speeding or dangerous driving but who probably passed first time.
In the end I had a Beta blocker before the test which calmed me right down and I sailed through although I didn't feel I drove particularly well on that occasion!
I still view myself as not being a good driver so am very careful as a result. I have been lucky enough never to have had a crash so far.
You will get there in the end! X

I kept failing my test due to nerves, I realised that a lot of the nerves was due to thought of telling people that I'd failed so test no5 I didn't tell anyone except my dsis. Took a lot of tbe pressure off and I passed.

If you can get away with not telling peope you've got your test it might be worthing trying

5th time and proud - and I bloody love driving.
Having had a DS who learned to drive last year, I got him to drive us whenever we went anywhere. The hours behind the wheel give you so much confidence and experience, and having a manual will help for sure.
Good luck - you WILL get there