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To feel like shoving my sister's lasagne up her behind!

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Lottie5 · 22/02/2015 23:09

My sister made a freezable lasagne for my ds's birthday party but unfortunately we had to cancel the party twice due to DS being poorly. Now my sister has said that as we aren't having a party now she wants it back.

Is it me or is this a bit mean? I know it cost her a bit to make but hopefully not that much and we did originally offer to cover the cost of the ingredients but she refused. If the situation was reversed I would feel so sorry for her having to cancel a child's birthday party I wouldn't even think to ask for something back that I had made!! Especially with family - but am I expecting too much?!

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thatsucks · 23/02/2015 10:49

This thread is v funny but I don't honestly think it is that outrageous to ask for it back.

I wouldn't ask for it back out of principle or tightness, though I might say 'ooh can I have that lasagne back if you don't mind, as that'll save me cooking on Sat night' or whatever.

WireCat · 23/02/2015 10:51

How weird. If I'd made something for so done, I certainly wouldn't want/expect it back.

It's bizarre.

rivetingrosie · 23/02/2015 10:54

ha wow!!! How petty! Is it possible she's actually angry about something else and displacing...?

Behindthepaintedgarden · 23/02/2015 11:28

Well seeing as she's being so childish, now might be the time to remind her of the day she borrowed your Bunty annual and tore the cover; and the time she robbed your favourite hair bobbin and lost it in the school playground; oh, and she never gave you back that frosted pink lip gloss that you loaned her in 1985 and .......

And then shove the lasagne in a jiffy bag and post it back to her Grin

SoupDragon · 23/02/2015 11:35

TBH, as the lasagne was provided fr a specific event that didn't happen, I don't think she's being outrageous in asking for it.

Would I ask in similar circumstances? No. I'd probably ask if she wanted it back as we weren't using it for the party though. I'm not sure all this anger is justified.

Behindthepaintedgarden · 23/02/2015 11:38

It was a flippin' lasagne Soupdragon, not a bowl of caviar.

MangoBiscuit · 23/02/2015 11:41

Pretty odd of her to ask for it back. Seeing as it's in your dish, any chance you can pop it out of the dish, and wrap it in clingfilm or something to hand it back? Grin Petty? Me? Never.

Weebirdie · 23/02/2015 11:44

Even if it was Caviar you just don't ask for food back because food is life and to share food/break bread together, whatever you want to call it, is something special.

I think the sister just wanted to bask in lasagne glory at the party and because it didn't happen her lasagne thunder was stolen and she's in the huff.

SoupDragon · 23/02/2015 11:46

It was a flippin' lasagne Soupdragon, not a bowl of caviar.

Gosh, was it? Silly me for not being able to read. Hmm

Behindthepaintedgarden · 23/02/2015 11:49

Maybe you should learn to read 'irony' as well Soup.

SoupDragon · 23/02/2015 11:51

No need, thanks.

Osmiornica · 23/02/2015 11:52

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expatinscotland · 23/02/2015 11:56

Just tell her you already ate it. What a weirdo.

BishopBrennansArse · 23/02/2015 11:57

Defrost and re freeze repeatedly so it gives her food poisoning.

cookiefiend · 23/02/2015 11:58

I would politely just give it back to her after sprinkling cayenne pepper liberally over the top.

Datahub · 23/02/2015 11:59

i dont think its the end of the world.
You cancelled - give it back. Or do you expect her to provide all your family meals?

Behindthepaintedgarden · 23/02/2015 12:07

There's a bit of a leap between holding onto a lasagne that had been donated for a party that had to be cancelled; and expecting 'all your family meals' to be provided.

QueenBean · 23/02/2015 12:16

Plllleeeaaaasseeee do what Dognato suggested then come back and tell us!

ohhhhpieceofcandy · 23/02/2015 12:22

If my sister was having to deal with a sick child I'd probably be making her another lasagne or something else easy to heat up to help her out.

Is this typical behaviour for her OP orIis it out of character?

Datahub · 23/02/2015 12:24

similarly a bit of a leap to saying to sister " REALLY?" to shoving it up her anus

To feel like shoving my sister's lasagne up her behind!
Clutterbugsmum · 23/02/2015 12:25

Take it out of the dish and give it back to her. Tell her you needed the dish. I was thinking the same thing.

BartholomewCrouch · 23/02/2015 12:26

Actually I think YABU she made it for a specific occasion, that occasion didn't happen, so she knows it's still in your freezer, and she maybe thinks 'oh Fiona/whoever/whatever may be coming over at the weekend I'll ask sis for that lasagne we never ate to save me making another'...then I really think it's perfectly reasonable and makes sense.

And I think you're weird to come on the internet to bitch about her over this, rather than go 'oh yeah, it's still there we didn't eat it yet, pop round and get it.'

icelollycraving · 23/02/2015 12:39

I think it's ok to ask for it back as I'm assuming it's a whopper party size one. If you were dealing with a vomming ds it probsbly wasn't your top priority,however if the occasion didn't happen,I don't think she is being that odd.

Waitingonasunnyday · 23/02/2015 12:43

I read this thinking 'well of course, a lasagne is far too sloppy to shove up anyone's backside' - however as is frozen YANBU :)

ARoomWithoutAView · 23/02/2015 12:44

All this deliberating.
When does it go past its Best Before date OP?

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