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To feel like shoving my sister's lasagne up her behind!

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Lottie5 · 22/02/2015 23:09

My sister made a freezable lasagne for my ds's birthday party but unfortunately we had to cancel the party twice due to DS being poorly. Now my sister has said that as we aren't having a party now she wants it back.

Is it me or is this a bit mean? I know it cost her a bit to make but hopefully not that much and we did originally offer to cover the cost of the ingredients but she refused. If the situation was reversed I would feel so sorry for her having to cancel a child's birthday party I wouldn't even think to ask for something back that I had made!! Especially with family - but am I expecting too much?!

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SoonToBeSix · 23/02/2015 00:03

Yanbu, she sounds like a total loon.

Dognado · 23/02/2015 00:05

Can you tell her you lied about your DS's illness, it was food poisoning from the lasagne, you didn't want to hurt her feelings Grin

Jux · 23/02/2015 00:07

I have a croquet mallet too. In fact I have a whole set of them. And the hoops. And the balls. You can borrow the lot if you like. Can I have a bit of lasagne, though? I do love it and can't be bothered to make it myself.

Momagain1 · 23/02/2015 00:08

DognadoGrin

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 23/02/2015 00:08

YANBU. Sideways.

Staywithme · 23/02/2015 00:10

Can you tell her you lied about your DS's illness, it was food poisoning from the lasagne, you didn't want to hurt her feelings

Grin genius.

You have to send it back without the dish. You dip the dish into very warm water then prise the lasagna out. Pop it in a bag and hand it back to her with a sincere smile on your face. Grin

DuchessofBuffonia · 23/02/2015 00:11

Maybe she's suspicious that you had a party without her and this is her way of checking? Grin

ObsidianEagle · 23/02/2015 00:22

Going against the grain here, as the party isn't happening I think it would have been polite of you to offer it back to her before deciding to claim a free meal out of it.

Dieu · 23/02/2015 00:30

L-arse-agne it is!

Original poster
Lottie5 · 23/02/2015 02:52

Sorry Obsidian but I was too busy cleaning up vomit to even think about bloody lasagne!! But that's me being impolite I guess!

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Weebirdie · 23/02/2015 02:53

Going against the grain here, as the party isn't happening I think it would have been polite of you to offer it back to her before deciding to claim a free meal out of it.

My lot would think each other had lost the plot entirely if any of them offered to return anything food wise.

Original poster
Lottie5 · 23/02/2015 02:57

Btw I haven't "decided" to claim a free meal, I'm not interested in that whatsoever. When she refused payment for it it understood it was a gift so it just didn't occur to me that she would ask for it back. She didn't even ask how DS was!

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CharityD · 23/02/2015 07:03

Give it back, minus the dish, with a fake smile, and say you had no idea it was so important to her. I wouldn't accept anything from her again.

Hope your DS is better.

Notso · 23/02/2015 07:17

Dognado wins Grin

MooMaid · 23/02/2015 08:38

A free meal? As if, OP offered to pay for ingredients and it's her own dish. Hardly trying to score a free meal for the family Hmm

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 23/02/2015 08:45

I think you need to eat that lasagne, and then cook up a new lasagne, a better lasagne, a "special lasagne", especially for her. Make it look like the original one of course :)

Either that or shove it up her arse. I don't have a croquet mallet but I do have a serviceable lump hammer I can lend you.

ShadowSpiral · 23/02/2015 08:49

Is she perhaps having money problems and struggling to afford food for her own family? Because that's just about the only scenario in which her wanting the lasagne back would be reasonable, especially as it's been cooked in your dish.

Otherwise, YANBU. Just remember to remove your dish for safekeeping first.

ARoomWithoutAView · 23/02/2015 09:03

Lottie5 there is a great business opportunity here, if you look at the thread started by Startrek90 who is looking to do a dinner party for four for £20. It seems you could sell said lasagne, pay your sister off, and keep a tidy profit.

SylvaniansKeepGettingHoovered · 23/02/2015 09:13

Up her arse, with a fork too

SisterMoonshine · 23/02/2015 09:19

Is it for another party?

I think usually you would say "party cancelled, you might as well have the lasagne back?"
And the sis would go "nah, youkeep it"
This all seems a bit precious.

TheresACatInMeKitchen · 23/02/2015 09:19

What's all this bollocks about offering food back if it goes un-eaten. Eldest often goes home with a food parcel from our fridge/freezer (that we have offered-he doesn't just help himself!!!) when he comes home to visit. If he doesn't eat it, should he offer it back??? No of course not it was given to him, not loaned ffs!!

Yes i'd be returning the lasagne without the dish!
But defrost the blasted thing first before putting it in a Bag/Tupperware box so that it ends up as a big sloppy mess. Tell her it was the only way you could get the lasagne out of the dish as you need the dish because you want to make......a lasagne!!!!!!

Either that or shit in a jiffy bag and tell her you ate it already but she as she insisted on it being returned......that's that's the best you could manage! Grin

landrover · 23/02/2015 10:16

Tell her that unfortunately it was inedible, so you gave it to the dog!

HonourableKortonRepresentative · 23/02/2015 10:40

Eat most of it, then slop the tiny bit left into a food bag and give it to her. Make sure it gets mushed about a bit first too, and leave the bag out by a window or something for a couple of days, with the sun on it, so it gets a bit sweaty inside. That'll learn 'er!

If that was me, even if I wanted the lasagne back i wouldn't dream of asking for it. And I bloody love my lasagne.

HonourableKortonRepresentative · 23/02/2015 10:41

Hahahahaha cat, shit in a Jiffy bag. How very puerile. I love it Grin

jeee · 23/02/2015 10:45

I think that the joy of family is that you can make a seemingly unreasonable request like this... you'd never ask a friend for a lasagne back, but I reckon it's fine to ask a sister. Yeah, it's a bit odd, but if you can't be weird with your family when can you be weird.

I wouldn't have batted an eyelid... though I have to say that my lasagne is much, much better than my sister's, so this situation would never have arisen.

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