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AIBU to be glad I have 2 boys

171 replies

Lazaretto · 22/02/2015 21:56

The lack of respect towards girls in our society is getting worse. I can't believe sending pics of your breasts is now common place for teenage girls. These images are in the majority of cases expected and then shared amongst peers. How has it come to this? I wouldn't even know how to start protecting any daughters I had. Whereas, I think it's easier to instil respect in women in boys than in girls. Can't believe how much times have changed.

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Spadequeen · 22/02/2015 22:34

Wow you're in for a huge wake up call if you think it's easier for boys. They have just as much peer pressure, it's just different. They have just as many issues and problems as girls. Good luck, you're going to need it

Mrsjayy · 22/02/2015 22:34

Yabu I have 2 dds they have not sent pictures of body parts maybe as a parent of bpys ypu should think you the girls are sending these pictures to yabu and sexist.

MrsTawdry · 22/02/2015 22:34

Honestly OP you really sound like a woman hater. You do...its not that you've posted a thread which is smug and dumb but your refusal to see that you're wrong...it's like you've done it to get a reaction and allow yourself to come back with things like

really you are not adding anything but bullying, rude, pathetic and a sad impression of why girls have few role models in this society

Which just sounds stupid from a woman.

MrsTawdry · 22/02/2015 22:35

Nobody hates "women" here OP...just your attitude.

SunnyBaudelaire · 22/02/2015 22:35

start a really stupid thread and then insult everyone who answers and then shout good night?
hope that hangover is not too awful sweetie.

Blistory · 22/02/2015 22:35

OP, some of your posts are a bit confused but in essence, feminist would agree with your concerns that young girls face an enormous amount of pressure, more so than young boys.

And I wholly agree that the manner in which some posters have responded to you is beyond rude but I think you'll find that the feminist boards would be more supportive.

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2015 22:35

And this...the first reply on the thread is the sort of utter bollocks that parents of boys have to deal with.

no offence but there is no time for complacency, it is the boys that are demanding this stuff off girls.

Some boys demand this stuff from girls. Some girls send this stuff regardless of whether they've been asked to. Some boys do not want to be sent this stuff. Some girls would never dream of sending this stuff.

So please let's remember that girls and boys are individuals and lazy stereotyping is ridiculous and quite harmful.

Reluctant2ndtimer · 22/02/2015 22:36

I totally agree with you OP. I have A boy and a girl and I've lost count of the amount of times people have told me I'll have trouble with Ds as she's so pretty. She's only 4 ffs. Ds wears what he wants, plays what he wants, is his own little person, Dd is very confident and independent too but she has very set ideas of 'boy' things and 'girl' things already, despite my best efforts.
I will try my hardest to bring them both up to respect themselves and others but feel there is far far more shit directed at girls. Gendered toys, tarty clothes, slebs like fucking Kim Kartrashian...

SunnyBaudelaire · 22/02/2015 22:37

really worra well its a bit personal at the moment as a lovely boy has been demanding naked picx off my girl. so it is not ' lazy stereotyping' thanks.
obviously my dd would not do as he asked.
HIs mother thinks he is a lovely boy of course.

TheFairyCaravan · 22/02/2015 22:38

I've got 2 boys who are aged 18&20. A couple of years ago I heard DS1 tell DS2 he should always treat women how he would want his mother to be treated. I felt really proud that day, as I often do.

MrsTawdry · 22/02/2015 22:39

Reluctant do you not let DD wear what she wants then? Confused

Your best efforts may not have extended to challenging things fully.

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Lazaretto · 22/02/2015 22:41

My posts are confused because I am on my phone and it auto corrects! Stop being so bloody judgemental.

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SunnyBaudelaire · 22/02/2015 22:42

well stop being so bloody rude then hun

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2015 22:42

really worra well its a bit personal at the moment as a lovely boy has been demanding naked picx off my girl. so it is not ' lazy stereotyping' thanks.

Yes it is thanks Hmm

No matter what your or your DD's experience is (and I'm sorry to hear about it), it does not mean that your sweeping statement "it is the boys that are demanding this stuff off girls", is correct does it?

It still means some boys demand these things off girls.

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Lazaretto · 22/02/2015 22:43

Sunny...get a grip. You are the epitome of rudeness.

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SunnyBaudelaire · 22/02/2015 22:43

semantics semantics....

AmysTiara · 22/02/2015 22:44

I don't think OP would have received so many outraged posts if she had posted she was glad to have 2 daughters.

Teenage boys are fair game on MN.

SunnyBaudelaire · 22/02/2015 22:45

'I am the epitome of rudeness'? really can you show me where I reached these heights of rudeness then?
Read back your posts sweetie before you call anyone rude.

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Lazaretto · 22/02/2015 22:45

Sunny, you're just enjoying berating me. Obviously the actual topic of equality and how to help teenage girls bores you.

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cricketballs · 22/02/2015 22:46

not read most of the posts but I have often said that I'm glad I have no daughters for a couple of reasons...

  1. girls in the main are bitches; we are nasty to each other (I say this as a women and as a secondary teacher that has to deal with the daily fall outs) and usually in a sly manner - boys are usually more upfront with their dislikes
  1. prom Grin all it takes for my DS is a hire suit no dress, shoes, handbag, hairdresser, make up etc
moggiek · 22/02/2015 22:46

This is probably the wrong place to post, but does anyone worry about the inevitable consequences of cultural 'femicide' in some parts if the world? I'm a grandmother now (3 DS, 2 DGS), and I think about the future in a world where there just aren't enough women - inevitable male aggression, female sexual slavery etc. It scares me.

jimmycrackcornbutidontcare · 22/02/2015 22:46

Well calling someone you don't know and are arguing with sweetie is very rude.

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Lazaretto · 22/02/2015 22:47

Why can't this topic be discussed like any other without been taken over by extreme viewpoints.

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Blistory · 22/02/2015 22:47

OP, I wasn't being judgemental - I was supporting your view that girls are at more risk.

And whilst I continue to agree with you on that point, I have no desire to continue posting on such a bad natured thread.

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Lazaretto · 22/02/2015 22:48

Please stop calling me sweetie. It's extremely passive aggressive in this case. Something I despise.

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