AIBU to be glad I have 2 boys

[Lazaretto]

The lack of respect towards girls in our society is getting worse. I can't believe sending pics of your breasts is now common place for teenage girls. These images are in the majority of cases expected and then shared amongst peers. How has it come to this? I wouldn't even know how to start protecting any daughters I had. Whereas, I think it's easier to instil respect in women in boys than in girls. Can't believe how much times have changed.

well put worraliberty

Not sure what kind of posters I have attracts to this thread. Probably people from the feminist board. Get real if you don't see the changes in society and how they are affecting young girls. Don't shoot the messenger. I am merely reflecting on society. I have not caused it.

Worra thank fuck for people like you.

Ah, so little to say and so many ways of saying it.

You're Wrong.

Interesting argument Sunny. Care to expand?

We don't even have 50/50 representation at any level of government here in the UK, let alone developing nations, so I would be interested to hear your interpretation of these issues and how you arrive at the conclusion we are in a matriachal society.

Lazaretto and THERE you go. Now you've hit the nail on the head. You're not happy that you've attracted feminists to your thread about gender?

What did you expect then?? You're not the messenger thank God. You're nothing.

Some of you really are a bunch of vitriolic narrow minded 'shut/shout down anything you don't want to hear'. Ridiculous.

Now....you're going by the book! Will you drag out the words "Hysterical" and "Witches" next?

lazaretto do you think boys are immune to exploitation or societal expectations?
'probably people from the feminist board'? really? do you not think that men and women should not have equality of opportunity then?

I think worra sums it up perfectly.

In your other thread you asked 'what you were missing' by not having a girl....

To be honest if she turned out to be a 'chip off the old block'

Probably not much

I think men have a bit of a shit time at the moment. DH has said that some of his friends feel stuck between two generations - the one that once provided and was expected to provide and the new generation of men who are capable and competent around the house and share in household tasks.

I don't know what it is like for teenage boys as I only have small ones but I can see that DS1 wants to be like his mates aged 6. I also see that girls in DS' class are obsessed with who is friends with who and who is cool and not - I wonder if this is a girl thing or a parent thing?

"Interesting argument Sunny. Care to expand?"
about the matriarchal society?
sure.
you will find that in infant and junior schools your boys will be treated as a 'problem' when they display normal boy behaviour. The model of good behaviour is feminine. Later they move into the nanny state.

I am a mother of girls and am thrilled to be so, I wouldn't want a boy.

I am a high achiever, I have married a man who loves and respects me and who contributes as much to running our household and bringing up our children as I do.

There are issues facing our children, regardless of gender in today's society but I am confident enough in our parenting that our girls will grow into the strong and happy women that we want them to be.

If you are glad you have boys I would take this as a reflection on your ability as a parent rather than the society we live in.

YABU. Not read responses on the thread but I have one dd and am one of 4 sisters, with a younger brother. You need to instill in your ds's that they do not expect pics of teenage girls breasts to share with their friends. I WILL instill into my dd that liking does not equal send tit pics to boys. Neither me or any of my sisters would even think this. Our mum brought us up to respect our bodies. You are being judgemental and blaming thinking it is all the girls fault.

OP, you're getting short shrift here because of your complacent, rather smug attitude.

It's no easier having boys than girls.

OP did you REALLY expect people on here to come and say "Oh yes...having a girl is SUCH a worry. I'd rather have boys."

Because that's never going to happen. As Sunny Says boys bring about their own sets of issues. And their own problems which stem from society assuming stuff about them.

Could you be any more judgemental and angry? You seriously don't help yourselves. I am an advocate of woman rights. Hence my thread. You have taken it the way that suits you to spit your vitriol and anger. If you don't like my thread...leave. really you are not adding anything but bullying, rude, pathetic and a sad impression of why girls have few role models in this society. The ideology seems to be either join them and submit or fight them and hate. Extremism is no use in the majority of cases. Can you not discuss an important subject as civilised, logical human beings. You are not furthering the cause if equality at all.

I have one boy who is coming up for ten. Normal 'boy' behaviour? What's that then?

Fidgeting? Forgetting stuff? Noise? Loud play?

I can't say he's been feminised at school so far.

I think the problem is more boys' expectations than girls lack of self respect. I had to tell my dd to leave a viber group when two boys were relentless in their 'sex talk'. Tje girls were trying to change the subject back to normal topics.

Sorry, my mistake. I forgot this is why mn becomes boring and monotonous.

" I am an advocate of woman rights."
really so why are you using 'feminist'' as a throwaway insult?

I can't believe you actually think this behaviour helps girls. The hatred towards other women is much more intense than from any other sector of society I have come across. Night all.