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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to say DS can't go on holiday with his friends?

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turningvioletviolet · 22/02/2015 13:18

I'm ready to take this on the head if i really ABU....

DS (18) strolled into the kitchen last night and said he and a group of friends are thinking of going on holiday this summer, after A'levels.

To Magaluf.

Over. My. Dead. Body. I said.

I mean, i know IBU. But ugh. Magaluf?

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ilovesooty · 22/02/2015 13:20

If he can pay for it are you seriously planning to try to stop him?

RhinestoneCowgirl · 22/02/2015 13:20

Can you stop him at 18? Or is he asking for you to pay for it?

Bowlersarm · 22/02/2015 13:21

Of course YABU. He's 18. That's what they like to do. Magaluf, Ibiza, ayai Napa, (sp), anywhere like that.

TurnOverTheTv · 22/02/2015 13:21

He's 18, you know you're being ridiculous.

thatsucks · 22/02/2015 13:21

He's an adult. You really really must 'let him go' (in inverted commas because he doesn't need your permission). You are being ludicrous.

You will get this response about 500 times.

TurnOverTheTv · 22/02/2015 13:22

And o think it's actually known as 'shagaluf'

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turningvioletviolet · 22/02/2015 13:22

Unfortunately he can pay for it. And no, i can't stop him. But whatever happened to nice cultural places like Paris?

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ImperialBlether · 22/02/2015 13:23

Tell him to start saving up, then.

What are you objecting to? The place? The fact he's going with friends?

RhinestoneCowgirl · 22/02/2015 13:23

I went and worked at festivals the summer after my A-levels, I'm sure my mum felt some anxiety about what I might be doing whilst away, but I went anyway.

Cornettoninja · 22/02/2015 13:23

Presuming he's funding it himself you get precisely 0 input on where an 18 year old man gets to go.

He'll be fine.

NynaevesSister · 22/02/2015 13:23

LOL terrible destination but what can you do :D

YANBU to not pay for the trip. You already know you can't stop him if he pays for it himself.

AGirlCalledBoB · 22/02/2015 13:24

After A-levels he deserves to be able to wind down and have some fun. If he is paying for it the YABU. Just tell him to make sure he is safe on his holiday but you really can't do anything about it.

LongDistanceLove · 22/02/2015 13:24

To be honest wherever he goes there will be that kind of nightlife in spitting distance.

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turningvioletviolet · 22/02/2015 13:24

It's the place. I've watched enough episodes of Sun Sea and A&E to know exactly what will be going on.

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PtolemysNeedle · 22/02/2015 13:25

I'd feel the same as you, but you are powerless to stop him and you shouldn't even try.

You're better off making sure he knows exactly what the risks are and what he should do to protect himself.

kennyp · 22/02/2015 13:25

have you watched the tattoo addiction programme? loads of "malaga 2013" tattoos on buttocks. so brace yourself! (especially if he's NOT in malaga when he gets that one done!!)

i wouldn't be happy about my daughter going to a place like that but i've always said to her to let someone else get the most drunk; don't let it be her. i guess your son has some sensible qualities?!?! and will not be a total lunatic??? i can understnad your worrying. if my parents said don't do something i wouldn't do it, even in my 20s, but that was my parents etc etc and i was petrified of the fallout if i had been found out etc.

Cornettoninja · 22/02/2015 13:25

Ha! 'Nice' and 'cultural' are hardly the most popular search terms 18 year olds use when they want to let their hair down after a-levels!

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turningvioletviolet · 22/02/2015 13:25

Mind you, he doesn't have a current passport and he's such a dozy arsed teen that i doubt he'll get round to sorting one out in time.

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PuppyMonkey · 22/02/2015 13:26

Imagining a riotous lads' trip to Paris now

DeladionInch · 22/02/2015 13:27

You can't stop him

You can however refer to it as Shagaluf and make lots of lewd jokes about how much "fun" he's going to have

Which should with any luck embarrass him out of the idea

thatsucks · 22/02/2015 13:27

I went to all the 'dreadful' resorts from age 17 to 25 with friends.

And yes we did get stupid drunk and have sex.

We were also just on the right side of being totally irresponsible twats (no drugs, no unprotected sex, no passing out in the street) as I'm sure your son is.

Chill. Trips to Paris will come later when he's older and with a girlfriend etc.

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turningvioletviolet · 22/02/2015 13:27

sensible qualities? well, he doesn't take drugs and he's not got anyone pregnant (that i know of). i think that's probably as far as his sensible qualities go. and christ knows, if he goes to Magaluf, both those qualities might have gone up in smoke by the time he gets home.

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reddaisy · 22/02/2015 13:28

I had a great time in Magaluf when I went when I was in my early 20s

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turningvioletviolet · 22/02/2015 13:29

maybe i'll tell him that we can go shopping together for condoms. He'll never bring the holiday topic up again.

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Fluffyears · 22/02/2015 13:29

I went to santa ponsa for years right next to magaluf and the tv are over the top about it. I also went to palma nova last year with dP which is attached to magaluf and it was fine. Let him go and experience life a bit.

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