Unashamedly a TAAT!

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AIBU to think MN should ban grammar and spelling pedantry on all forums except the one explicitly for this purpose.
It is so F*cking tedious!

I think it is far far worse to pull someone up for their spelling & grammar, than to make an error with either.

It is rude! And it doesn't take into account the potential issues that people may have that could cause spelling errors.

Ignorance at it's best...especially when it is on a thread where the op has asked for help! I have seen time & time again people saying they can't read a thread because of lack of paragraphs & grammar.

Who the fuck do you think you are?

Much politer just to ask them for clarification than to shoot them down if they are asking for help.

I'm sure someone who has a poorly child or a potentially abusive partner has other things on their list of priorities!

FWIW, I am quite pedantic in r/l. The of/have thing makes my teeth curl. I use a mobile to MN most of the time though, it fucks about with my spelling and grammar constantly, but I don't fret about it; I'm not at work or uni being asessed on my writing.

FarFromAnyRoad You say that now, but wait until you are asking for advice & they do it to you. Then you won't see it as a learning curve.

MrsTawdry But why is it needed at all, whatever the intention is? You have no idea as to the state the op/poster is in, correcting grammar is not necessary! This isn't a literacy forum, it is a parenting forum to make lives easier for parents! A whole gang of people bundling in to pull

LuluJakey1 Oh please! We are not at school, we are not doing GCSEs, no ones livelihood relies on poster spelling & grammar.

It's bad manners not to make a reasonable effort to write clearly, and with things like "could of" the dyslexia excuse just won't watch - Oh dear....

Oh the irony.

This thread is very enlightening.For reasons that have nothing to do with spelling or grammar.

I have called people who correct the grammar and -or spelling of posters who have simply rocked up for a chat or for help, twats and oafs and ill mannered dumb fucks.

That's because that is what I believe their behaviour deserved. People in return are welcome to regard me as rude. Fortunately that bothers me little as I tend to disregard the views of ill mannered dumb fucks.

But the vast majority of posters on here who are objecting strongly to the gleeful, smug 'it's have have have FFS' posts have done so politely and patiently, in spite of the nonsensical 'it's for their own good' argument being their only excuse.

So to now reach for accusations of rudeness and bullying to deflect from the fact that correcting grammar on here is mean spirited, unnecessary and designed to make a poster feel bad, really is scrapping the barrel.

It's pretty pathetic. Just stop doing it.

Well said Pagwatch.

I have bad spelling and grammar, I do not have to give you a back story or justify why that is. It's non of your business. So I have the right to defend myself and others any way of choose. Calling me out for these things is nasty and rude, and if you still cannot see why correcting someone on here is. Then you will just have to suck it up. Why should I have to put up with you blatantly ignoring so many people saying that it can be hurtful and it is rude. You used antagonistic last night, maybe apply it to your self as it is clearly the only reason you are carrying on on this thread

Anti-grammar is such a stupid phrase. What does it even mean?

If mumsnet were anti-grammar people would presumably troll pedants corner and deliberately mangle their posts.

The objection is to a post being torn apart simply because it contains a mistake by posters using correcting grammar as an excuse to be vile and petty.

Is this challenging? Because it seems pretty straightforward.

Dressing it up as something else really is starting to seem deliberately dim.

Anti-arsehole. That's the camp I am in.

I think people are just goading now, and if I've made somebody's 'shitlist' for speaking out against rudeness, well I'll not cry into my coffee over it.

And what Pagwatch said, much more eloquently than I.

I am not jumping on a bandwagon, I just can't work my self up into a lather about grammar, and think it is shallow to focus on someone's grammatical errors on a chat forum.

If other people happen to think the same way then I guess we have caught the same bus, but a bandwagon, no.

"I say that because if people were so anti grammar police they would be crucified on the thread. But they aren't."

It is challenged in thread, I know I do it when I see it, but you have to weigh it up, the op's thread has generally been derailed enough by the grammar police, to start a bunfight on thread would derail further and that is unfair on the op who just wants advice/support/a discussion.

confused
You are only digging yourself a bigger hole, and showing your twattish side more, by continuing to on this thread

ConfusedInBath

Is it actually possible for you to be posturing as a defender of all things correct and proper and yet you seem to struggle with the simplest of concepts.

Would it help if I used smaller words?
Perhaps I could find some pictures? They must be good books out there which explain in an easy to follow format why correcting someone on the Internet whilst ignoring the substance of their post is dumb and rude.

I'm not sure how to help. This seems so challenging for you.
[head tilt]

Depends how they correct it confused.
If an op mentioned she was visiting the German capital Munich and immediately got a response of ' Berlin Berlin Berlin ffs' then that is pretty vile as the intention is obviously to belittle the op.
That is what this TAAT is about. Not so much about the corrections made by the eye-bleeders but the manner in which they do it. And specifically on the original thread.

Excellent.
Because pulling people up on their grammar is monstrously twattish.

We are all agreed.