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To wonder where you stand on flowers being delivered to work....

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Behindthepaintedgarden · 13/02/2015 13:49

from DPs and DHs for Valentine's day. Is it romantic or show offy? I can't decide.

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LulaPalooza · 13/02/2015 13:51

I received a bunch of flowers from DH at work today because it's my birthday. He made me happy, because he is never rarely romantic.

PuppyMonkey · 13/02/2015 13:53

I think it's a bit cringey tbh.

MimiSunshine · 13/02/2015 13:53

Embarrassing. I'd hate that.

Presumably the flowers need to be delivered between 9-5 and the recipient isn't at home so the sender puts the work address.

brightreddress · 13/02/2015 13:54

Don't stand on them at all, that will make you look utterly crazy.

angelos02 · 13/02/2015 13:54

I used to work with someone that thought it was show offy/cringy. I think women that say/think this are just bitter because their husbands don't send them any.

MaCosta · 13/02/2015 13:54

Its a very clear public display. Some people like that some don't.

SaucyMare · 13/02/2015 13:56

Send them with a vase, the last time i got some i had to put them in a bin.

Apatite1 · 13/02/2015 13:56

Urgh no. Very teenager-y thing to do.

Viviennemary · 13/02/2015 13:57

Well Ifirst thought why would you. But if the person is out all day I suppose it makes some sort of sense. But no Iwouldn't be keen.

zfactor · 13/02/2015 13:57

Show-offy; cringe-makingly-so. Makes me wonder who is trying to prove what to whom.

Gileswithachainsaw · 13/02/2015 13:57

cringey tbh

if they beer delivered to my work they'd be no where to put them and if I was on my own they'd be in the way until i could put them out the back and watch them wilt in a plug less sink in the dark.

It's almost as much of an epic fail than petrol station flowers Grin

MadeInChorley · 13/02/2015 13:57

Well there's no point in trying to get flowers delivered to the house if you're at work and no one's home. I wouldn't say "no" to a bouquet myself, but yes, it is all a bit public for

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Behindthepaintedgarden · 13/02/2015 13:58

Not necessarily Angelo. I know a couple of people who were furious when their husband's sent them flowers at work because they are quite private people who don't like being the centre of attention.

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TSSDNCOP · 13/02/2015 13:58

Someone sends you a nice gift. What's not to like?

Women where I work receive them, they "die of embarrassment" but only after everyone has seen them Hmm

Apatite1 · 13/02/2015 13:58

Husband always brings two dozen roses home on Valentine's day. I can't dissuade him, so I just pick the colour. (Have specified white this year). I'd bollock him if he sent them to work.

PrimalLass · 13/02/2015 13:59

Nothing is romantic about doing something because it is Valentines Day. I find the whole thing so forced and cringey. I can't imagine anything worse than being in a restaurant full of other couples trying to be romantic either.

zfactor · 13/02/2015 14:00

angelos02 - not at all; I've had ex partners do this (note they are exes!); DH knows better - flowers are presented to me at home alone, which is far more romantic/meaningful (why would you want to share a romantic moment with your work colleagues? - that's seriously weird!).

DoubletheRage · 13/02/2015 14:01

I think it's horrid. Not, just cringey, but controlling, as if the man needs to mark his territory. And, as a general rule it's the horrible men that do it. The woman get to spend 20 mins gushing over her perfect man when for the other 300+ days pa, the colleagues have to listen to tales about how awfully he treats her.

Anything to do with Valentine's day is yuck IMO though. I'm all for romance, but just because please, not because the marketing machines tell us we should.

PurpleSwift · 13/02/2015 14:03

I think as a person receiving it could be lovely. But for everyone else at work it will look "show offy". I'd hate it. And secretly love it.

HermioneDanger · 13/02/2015 14:04

Valentine's day is tomorrow so sending them to work today is doubly cringy and demonstrative. What's wrong with giving them privately tomorrow if you're someone who does V-day?

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Behindthepaintedgarden · 13/02/2015 14:06

I suppose it depends on the person sending them. Some men probably do it because they genuinely think it will cheer up their partner's day at work, and it's a genuinely sweet thing to do; and others do it as a big, grand, gesture type of thing.
And then there are some men who are probably 'ordered' to send a bouquet to their dp's workplace Smile

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savemefromrickets · 13/02/2015 14:07

I'd be happy.

DP would be appropriately rewarded.

Win win.

Smile
AliceLidl · 13/02/2015 14:10

I had a giant box delivered to work once.

It had a giant balloon in it, filled with tiny balloons.

When I opened the box the giant-balloon-filled-with-tiny-balloons floated out and up to the end of the ribbon, and we all looked at it for a moment and then I put it on the floor behind my desk and nobody mentioned it again.

I think we were all a bit surprised.

DH once had flowers delivered to me at work, but he was working abroad at the time and I was obviously out at work and not at home, so he had to send them there.

One of the other women in the office was clearly put out about it, my boss just said "oh shit, Julie will kill me" and had some flowers sent to her at her place of work, and everybody else ignored them.

It wasn't as embarrassing as the day a zebra finch flew in and I caught it and had a birdcage on my desk all day though.

Goneintohibernation · 13/02/2015 14:10

It would make me cringe if I received flowers at work. I think it really does depend on the people involved, and what kind of personality they are.

squoosh · 13/02/2015 14:11

'I think it's horrid. Not, just cringey, but controlling, as if the man needs to mark his territory.'

I think that's a ridiculous assumption to make.