To wonder where you stand on flowers being delivered to work....

[Behindthepaintedgarden]

from DPs and DHs for Valentine's day. Is it romantic or show offy? I can't decide.

I suppose it's nice to enjoy the flowers all day rather than late at night or so that you know they haven't forgotten your birthday or Valentines day or whatever. Personally I would prefer it to be private. I did used to work in a large office where the whole day of 14th feb was a delivery and cooing over gifts day and it was a bit cringey.

It's too easy. If you want to show someone how special they are, make a bit of effort. Don't just pick up the phone and get someone else to choose, arrange and deliver some flowers. Go and choose them yourself and then deliver them in person.

I think the odd grand gesture is to be applauded

why? If it's not backed up by other things it's meaningless. who wants something to be done just because there are others around to see it. and who wants reactions based on the fact that others are there to see it and the person wants to save them any embarrassment.

no one can "be mad" or "say no" when all eyes are on you and looking on expectantly. It's not honest. It's almost forcing you into something your not happy with.

and often so called "grand gestures" are stuff they should be doing anyway

If your loved-one knows you wouldn't like to receive flowers in the office then he or she would be unreasonable.

But if you would, and I do, then why bother about upsetting some grumpy-pants?

I'd prefer a romantic gesture. The most romantic thing for me was when my dh scraped ice off my car windscreen in the shape of a heart and went to work without saying. I came out after and my hearty melted too! Sorry if that's too sick making!

Giles I'm obviously not saying that people who act like a wanker 99% of the time should be applauded for sending their partner a bunch of flowers. I'm saying in an ordinary, happy relationship the odd grand gesture adds a bit of fun.

I apologise if this offends anyone , but I think that it is cringeworthy.
I would hate it if dh did this and he knows it.
It reminds me of those public proposals , you kind if wonder what people are trying to prove.

On pretty much every VD thread people always assume that those who celebrate VD only get treated once a year.

I don't work so I have never had flowers sent to me but dh makes an effort on VD but that doesn't mean he doesn't show me love throughout the year or never treat me to flowers or gifts at any other time. He does.

What ever happened to just doing something nice for someone you love? I love flowers so I would happily accept flowers at work/home from anybody.
With regards to Valentine's Day we are so busy these days we forget romance, things get in the way and not everyone feels the love so it's great that there's a day especially for it, helps us to remember why we are together. Plus it's all just for fun.

Apart from the fact that it's a bit naff (in my opinion) to send them on Valentines day, the fact that you can order them on Valentine's day itself from some Florists makes me wonder if some men send them because they forgot all about it until that morning. Hardly romantic..

I sent DH flowers at work for his 50th birthday. He loved it, and he enjoyed the attention of his colleagues' reactions, but he is a very gregarious person and I knew it (and the attention) would be well received.

No I would not like to receive flowers in work and dh knows this. He buys me flowers very regularly - everything from proper boquets to a bunch of tulips in aldi and I have at this moment in time, 3 jugs / vases of fresh flower in the house.

I would be embarrassed with flowers in work mainly as I would HATE answering all the questions from colleagues about why etc. I like to try to keep work/home life separate if I can.

Doubletherage, you sound a tad high maintenance ....I like flowers, but not cut flowers, and not for Valentine's Day, just for no reason, definitely not as an apology, and delivered in person, not sent.

Many years ago, DH used to leave flowers in my pigeon hole at College. It was lovely.

I once worked with a woman who sent herself a bouquet to the office just so she could be one of the women who smugly carry their flowers home on the Tube. I suspect there are many more women out there who do exactly the same thing.

I've said this before on here but it's good for a cringe...

Colleague once got a beautiful HUGE bunch of flowers delivered at work. Later on her DH phoned for her and I answered the call. I said something like "what a lovely bunch of flowers, xxxx was delighted".....

He hadn't sent them, they were from the man she was having an affair with.

I have never made polite chit chat with anyone's partners ever again. About anything. Ever.

I like it when do sends me flowers and there is nothing wrong with our relationship he likes surprising me and cheering up my day at work.

I don't see why this would create any strong opinion either way

Romantic.I've received flowers at work before and I've seen other people receive flowers at work before.Happy for them and Happy for me.

I love it. DH always sends them on a Monday so I can enjoy them all week.

Champagne roses are my favorite.

My husband has done this a few times, not for Valentine's, but if he is away or just being thoughtful.

I find it a bit embarrassing (but lovely). They get delivered to reception so I can shoot out and put them in my car or into a kitchen without anyone noticing.

My ex did this when he's been a twat. All the women at work used to rave about how lucky I was and how lovely he was when in actual fact he was a womanising bully.

I know some people do it for good reasons but I can't help feeling a but cynical.

Almost 20 years together here. Nights out at the cinema whenever we like, I don't need a night off from cooking because we share the load already. He brings me tea in bed on the weekends.

DH is brilliant.

We don't 'do' valentines day. Enforced romance is a bit crap.

We don't do valentines but usually at some random point in the year he will send me flowers at work with a little note saying something lovely.
It is a bit embarrassing but it's also amazing, that he sent me them just to say thanks for a great weekend or something. Makes me feel very lucky.

DH has never sent me flowers at work, but he brought me coffee in bed every morning for 34 years.

The only time I got flowers at work, they were from DD who sent them to thank me on her 21st birthday.