To wonder where you stand on flowers being delivered to work....

[Behindthepaintedgarden]

from DPs and DHs for Valentine's day. Is it romantic or show offy? I can't decide.

I think it's a step away from marking someone with you scent - it's basically saying he/she's mine stay away! I work in an office where lots of people have flowers from their other halves who WORK IN THE SAME OFFICE!!!!

My DH did it once. To congratulate me on getting a new job . I normally drove in but for whatever reason I had got the bus that day so had to walk 1.5 miles across the city centre with them.

I wouldn't mind if he sent me flowers at work at all.

I doubt that many men do it for that reason Double. Yes, I'm sure it can sometimes be an empty gesture from a man who treats his partner with little or no respect in day to day life; or a shallow bit of showing off. But it can also be well intentioned, a practical means of getting flowers to a full time working partner, or genuinely romantic.
It depends on the people involved, the circumstances they're in, and even sometimes on history and baggage that has gone before.

I think Double might be thinking of this episode of Friends

Controlling Ross has a lot to answer for!

Obviously views are split on this, which is as it should be life would be boring.....

My position is, flowers are lovely. I'd rather have them attached to the bush/plant so they last a bit longer, are better value and I don't have to change the water then watch them die. I like them just because, not ever to brush over something he's done wrong and certainly not because the shops have told him it's Valentines so he should.

I want them delivered in person, unless there's a very compelling reason they can't be. What does having them sent to work achieve other than showing other people how great he is/that you're taken? Why would you want to do that, why does it matter to anyone but you?

Having them sent to work on Friday for a celebration the following day, when you'll be together all day is beyond cringey. Having them sent to work when you'll be together in the evening isn't much better....IMO

dopey what a wonderful man!

I think if you live with your partner then it's absolutely ridiculous sending them to work. Why not just give them privately at home? Because it's more about show than the sentiment.

DH sent me flowers at work when we were first dating. But I think that was okay because we weren't living together and we were actually long distance at the time, so he wouldn't have been able to give them in person. It wasn't valentines day either, it was just because, which I think is more romantic.

I have to say, personally I'd rather get them in private, and that I do sometimes look at someone squealing and gasping and making a big production out of taking delivery of the flowers and think 'jeeze, get off the stage'.
But sometimes it can be lovely, as in dopey's example. Or a woman I worked with who was approaching retirement age and whose husband of nearly 40 years just out of the blue sent her a bunch of chrysanthemums one Valentine's day because he remembered she'd has some in her wedding bouquet. That nearly brought tears to my eyes.

When I first met DH he used to do it all the time.

Of course it was for show. He wanted to show me and everyone else how delighted he was to be going out with me. What's wrong with that?

I'm single but can't imagine being able to get them home safely.

Personally I am not keen for 2 reasons. Firstly the only bloke who ever did it for me was a git so feels that it was just done for show. Secondly I travel to work by tube so a bunch of flowers is a pain to get home in rush hour.

Good grief my husband's done it a few times! Should I LTB?

There aren't many women in my co. so flowers have rarely arrived in the office in the decade + that I've been there.

Only time I can recall anyone receiving flowers was a colleague after a client told her to fuck off down the phone (dispute about an unpaid invoice. Client was at fault and incredibly rude. Hence the flowers as way of apology)

I'd dislike it personally. I'd be annoyed at the money spent I'm a girl who loves a bunch of daffs but I would also find it embarrassing.

My colleague had to spend the day telling our other work colleagues why she had a massive bunch of flowers in her desk.

I think it is a lovely thing to have happen two or three times in a lifetime. But weird and embarrassing if he decided to do it all the time. There is also a difference between a workplace where you have your own desk/space to keep them and a workplace where you only have a locker out back. Finally, if she is commuting, make sure the bouquet can be comfortably carried on trains and with other baggage.

I have never had it happen, but think it is lovely on the odd times that it has happened to others.

Why would anyone send Valentine flowers today?

I was going to send some to my friend at work next month for her birthday, is that just as bad as valentine ones!? Maybe I should have a rethink

I don't think it's show offy.
If I was to receive flowers I'd be embarrassed.
If I sat next to someone who got flowers I'd find it funny

I had a now ex boyfriend deliver flowers to my work. It was to cheer me up but we had an up/down relationship. I wasn't that happy considering he was making me upset most of the time!

when he sent me a single red rose for V Day at start of our relationship that was nice but a bit cheap though!

It depends on the context.
Valentine's day is unprofessional. It's work not the sixth form common room.

I've only once been sent flowers to work and I was so embarassed I collected them from reception and hid them in the boot of my friend's car.

They weren't even from my boyfriend but from a colleague

I used to work in a massive building and on valentine's day reception would just chuck all the flowers on a big table and people would have to rootle through them to see if they'd been sent any

It's an expensive cliché but that works for some people.

DH once flew home from Amsterdam with a massive bunch of tulips (my favourite).

Sending flowers to a recipient at their place of work is never wrong, IMO.

I always enjoyed receiving mine and was equally happy for my colleagues when they received beautiful bouquets. I love fresh flowers and can't wait to get started growing some in my new garden.

I've only ever received flowers at work 3 times.

Last time was my wedding anniversary, and I'd not told DH I was on site all day and not in the office. My mate took them home and tagged me in FB. She was the git that day

Another time was my 30th and they were from my mum, and I live 3,500 miles away. That was lovely.

The other time will put me majorly Nd was hugely embarrassing. I was single for ages and had a few flings. Me and a friend decided to send each other roses to work on V day to cheer oursves up. The week before, I'd met my bosses son. Who also sent me flowers. And so did a random bloke id been shagging seeing on and off but hadn't seen for about 2 months. My boss's face he's now my FIL was a picture seeing the three bunches