To wonder where you stand on flowers being delivered to work....

[Behindthepaintedgarden]

from DPs and DHs for Valentine's day. Is it romantic or show offy? I can't decide.

Agree it depends. I have one friend who would love it. I would hate it.

Jesus, I can't actually believe some of the posts on here I think it's horrid. Not, just cringey, but controlling

Men sometimes just can't do right can they?

You sound like a bunch of bitter old hags

Now getting a bunch of old hags sent to work would be a different matter.

DoubletheRage you think it's controlling. You have a very warped view.

I would love to receive some flowers

Urgh my DP did that to me once. I was mortified... And that's why he did it!

It wouldn't suit me. That's all.

(I am neither ungrateful, unloved or bitter. I am an old hag.)

Ok, maybe but I'm entitled to it

IME all the women who regularly receive flowers at work are in miserable relationships - it's different if it's a genuine one off for a special anniversary or to show support to someone going through a particularly bad time, but I really do have to listen to a lot of tales of woe about appalling treatment by men who then make everything better by sending flowers.

Dh did it once, years ago, before we were married. I was happy. Bit difficult carrying them home, got a friend to help me onto the bus

Never thought it was cringey. I used to nearly live at work so made sense to send them there.

Now we've been married 5 years and don't 'do' V Day. not bothered any more.

It was quite nice as a youngster to receive flowers at work. Now, after 20 years of marriage, my immediate reaction would be - what's he done?' Closely followed by 'what a mammoth waste of money'. I'm romantic like that.

Not Valentines, but...

My mother never allowed her husband to formally adopt me.
He was a very undemonstrative and private sort of man.
Additionally funds were very very tight, so Interflora didn't happen in our family, even for 'special events'.
He was made redundant after 40 years as a printer to trade (Wapping...) just as I got my first PA job in London, earning more in my first job than he did in his last. I didn't brag, but it must have been hard for him.

He had 21 red Carnations delivered to me, at my office, on my 21st Birthday. I will always remember that.

Hmmm. I suppose if it your birthday and you are at work then ok. Fair enough ... But if it valentines day TOMORROW and they are being delivered today that's very cringy

Gileswithachainsaw
beer delivered to my work

Freudian slip? I'd definitely prefer beer though... Agree that flowers are a bit cringey.

My dad used to bring my mother petrol station flowers fairly regularly, but she loved it.

Aww, that's so sweet Dopey.

That's a lovely story Dopey

Yes, squoosh it really was.
He bravely defied my mother by acknowleding me himself, and that took some guts. And he did it publically, and with money that he really didn't have. It is one of the nicest things that have ever happened to me.

Oh Dopey - that's made my day reading that. No wonder that's always stayed with you. Bet you had to read the card over and over again to take in he was the sender.

That's gorgeous Dopey. I think the intention behind the gesture is the difference between genuinely sweet and moving, and a bit cringey and show offy.

It sounds as though he loved you a lot. Gorgeous memory to have.

I have never once thought of it as being embarrassing! I've had flowers at work a few times. Why is it show offy? It's nice.

How on earth is it controlling? [confuses] Please explain.

It just seems to me that it's a very ostentatious way of reminding all her colleagues she's taken.

Double I think that's an extremely jaded view of relationships in general. My DH does it from time to time purely to cheer me up! He knows I like it...so he does it. I think it's very negative way of looking at the world to assume it's a man marking his property so to speak if he sends flowers!

I think its lovely, not that it ever happens to me, but I enjoy seeing my colleagues all happy and surprised, its sweet.

In public I'd say it's cringy and embarrassing and show offy. But deep inside I'd love it!