to move DD from her nice independent school where she has a scholarship because her brother didn't get offered one? (PART 2)

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...just in case there is something else I need to hear.

Rather the opposite............

Those of us who send our children to major public schools, plus the majority of well educated parents who choose the state system and recognise quality when they see it.

major public school/minor public school just smacks of one upmanship

Sweet Jesus

Major and minor public schools are terms thwt have ben in use for a very long time and have nothing to do with oneupmqnship.

OP has no sense of irony, has she Molly?

Oh OP ...

I first heard the term "minor public school^" used by a sixth former from the boys' school that was sibling to mine, during an interview-school debate. The boys' school has gone up in the world since then, the girls' has ceased to exist.

I'm sorry if this seems like piling in but - as you don't care about Latin and you're not bothered about your daughter playing fives if she's "not interested" I'm struggling to see what you want this school for. (Big mistake btw, if she'd got into the fives team she could have been popping over to E several times a year for matches ...)

inter-school ...

(Phone's too rich to care obviously.)

Generally, a MAJOR public school is one that most people have heard of, ie Eton, Harrow, Uppingham, Winchester, Marlborough (ad infinitum - oh look, Latin IS useful afterall.

MINOR public schools are ones that only the local town has heard of.

A lot of things should be sounding wrong to you and you should be addressing them instead of trying to buy things you can't afford.

We were relocated by the company OP works for, and in between selling one house and buying another, it was so tempting to blow the equity on two Ferraris. But we didn't. Because a) that would have been a stupid thing to do when we can't really afford it b) the sensible thing to do was to buy a house and provide a decent roof over our children's heads for many years to come.

Loved Latin - so much that I took it at A level and seriously contemplated reading Classics at uni. Being my father's daughter, I was more pragmatic and read Law instead. As you were... (runs away fast from the Mean Girls!)

dougie, thanks for that definition, did I forget to mention that I taught at a major public school?

Why then did you need the Eton New Foundation scholarships explaining to you?

Why then did you need to have the definition of a minor and major public school before suddenly recalling that you taught at a major one?

Why then do you feel your children are at a disadvantage to all those who may have had cousins thrice removed educated privately when you have been involved with this world yourself?

Why then, are you so starry eyed at a theatre trip and a song before supper? Surely this is al old hat to you.

Why then, are you so impressed by someone owning an expensive yacht?

I think you began your original thread with a genuine query and are now so anxious to keep it going that you are resorting to fantasy.

Your children are not academic enough for full scholarships and you cannot afford to send them without. As you will know, the fees are only the tip of the iceberg in public schools, even minor ones.

I think it must be OP's lack of cultural capital that made the explanations necessary. I've always been a nosy bugger and I read newspapers and so forth. That must be why I was aware of such expressions without actually moving in those circles. In fact I move in very lowly circles. I missed the tale of Yacht Boy - does that mean I can't go to bed yet? I do love a good story though.

OP, it is good that your DC are okay with the situation - that's what matters most really.

Chopin Still not lying. How do you think it is that I know what I want for my children?

dougie I think you're the one that missed the irony.

Topaz thanks for the friendly words.

You're absolutely right, OP.

Said no one on this thread.

Chopin, you summed it all up perfectly: had a genuine query, articulated it poorly, had a flounce which was populated with fantasy and piss-taking, can't quite let it go.
You do NOT simply remembert that you used to teach at a major public school.
Yacht boy does not likely exist - or, if he does, those conversations are completely made up.
Just tell the bloody truth!!! Am embarrassed for you, woman

Yes, you did forget to mention having taught at a major public school. You mentioned, at least twice on the previous thread, that you had taught in the local catchment school.

Obviously you're not obliged to divulge your entire life story for my entertainment but I'm inclined to think that a clear statement of wanting what you had seen when working at X major public school might have given a very slightly different slant to responses ...

And it does make your lack of active interest in your daughter pursuing the exact things that distinguish a higher tier independent school all the more surprising.

I am almost annoyed on her behalf that you did not push her into the fives team ...

Don't forget the Latin. We made DD take it purely because it was a different subject. One of our friends is a senior partner in London; he loved reminiscing about Caecilius (sp?) with her!

My kids were at the same school and are now at different schools. At each place there have been teachers and boarding staff flogging themselves to provide the means to educate their kids at those schools. High fives and total respect to them.

Your real issue, Op, is that you don't want to get off your arse and get a proper job to pay for your son's education. Rather than "protect" your CV, why not enhance it with... say..... an actual permanent teaching job?

Well I came to this late but I can see after about 5 posts that's it's blatantly a troll.

Why is it still running??

Not a troll - I know the OP in real life and she is a lovely lady and an excellent parent having to make a tricky decision.

And anyway, i thought the proper protocol was to report the thread if you think troll?

I think you began your original thread with a genuine query and are now so anxious to keep it going that you are resorting to fantasy.

^ this ^

I am seeing this a few times atm on mumsnet. Posters just desperate to keep their threads going. Is it the attention?