to move DD from her nice independent school where she has a scholarship because her brother didn't get offered one? (PART 2)

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...just in case there is something else I need to hear.

I have the solution. OPs daughter MARRIES yacht boy, and Daddy's millions keep them all in the style to which they'd like to be accustomed, and its happy endings all round. How about that?

jeee one of my best mates had only seen Shakespeare until she went to university...

Not because she was terribly cultured but because she lived in Dudley .

I went to an independent school.
Parents' salaries were just not discussed.

Yolo I believe that that's what will have happened by the end of thread 7 if MNHQ haven't stopped this ridiculousness by then

I would be very upset if my DC were discussing family income with their classmates. I don't tell them detailed numbers as I don't want them blurting it out.

We share it with them as they're family, but it's not for general discussion outside Casa Wordfactory.

Well, exactly.

I do wonder if yacht boy gravitates to OP's DD as his slavering neophyte for these types of conversation whilst most other pupils wouldn't entertain him. I hope so or that school is falling down badly in terms of pastoral care re: general values and failing to teach how not to be an obnoxious boor at cocktail parties 101

Well it used to be considered terribly poor for to discuss money at all among the middle classes.

This was one of the ways to keep the working classes in check . Don't leak knowledge.

But things change. Knowledge is power.

There is no reason not to know that a teacher earns X and a headmaster Y. That an editor earns A and an MP B. That the partners at that law firm all do better than the partners at the other one.

I'm still wondering why isn't yacht boy at Eton?

There is no reason not to know that a teacher earns X and a headmaster Y. That an editor earns A and an MP B. That the partners at that law firm all do better than the partners at the other one.

There is no reason not to know this in theory. There is every reason not to be discussing your own family's financial affairs at age 13 with other 13 year olds. That is just gauche and crass.

I went to shit schools. Both Primary and Secondary. I left without a single qualification. I can trace my family tree back a fairly long way to the point where my ancestors didn't go to school at all. My dh went to a good grammar but was the first, and so far last, in his line to do so.

We both now have professional qualifications and good degrees (from ex-Poly's)

We could afford to send our children to private school and not struggle because we have worked bloody hard. But we didn't. DD didn't even do the 11+

Put that in yer pipe and smoke it!

Because yacht boy is a fantasist.

APot, today is the first day of her half term. It's a PD day so I pity the poor teachers that were out until midnight too. I know this is not exclusive to the independent sector and that state school teachers are also hugely dedicated.

Another friend was involved in the discussion of father's jobs/salaries. Her dad doesn't have a job (retired), he just makes money by investing in different things now (I'm paraphrasing). DD thought the convo was interesting, bless her. I'm beginning to think that maybe YB likes her, she says she loves him (in the way that teenagers do). I tried to suggest that he maybe bragging/trying to impress her but she said he's not like that and he's lovely. Perhaps he just doesn't have the social skills to engage DD in a different type of conversation??

I'm still wondering why isn't yacht boy at Eton?

Me too - or Harrow at the very least. OP - can your DD ask yacht boy if the reason he is being kept out of the way of the buses at a mediocre day school in East Anglia is because his father can't afford boarding school fees?

That would be a useful question to ask if she wants to entertain a discussion on individual family finances

Why can't she engage him in a different type of conversation?

or maybe he doesn't exist

Well I think yacht boy is a figment of somebody's imagination but just for laughs can I point out that senior executives tend not to quote salary per annum. It will be part basic salary and the greater part in share options and bonus which will a) be variable and b) highly confidential.

I don't believe anybody in that position would give their brat chapter and verse on it. I also don't believe that teens out at the theatre spend their time talking about it.

Stop attention seeking Op and go and do something useful with your life.

My parents never discussed their finances with me. If we couldn't afford something, they told us and we accepted. Nowadays my mother will tell me when she's bought a new house or piece of land and we will talk vaguely about her plans for it (she's a developer and I call her a philanthropist because she's built a school and a clinic ) but still no mention of money. I actually have no idea of the extent of my parents assets, either as a child or now.

I've grown up quite financially savvy. I don't think telling your kids your income is that common? Or is it?

My youngest asked me the other day what a paleontologist earns as he was thinking he might like to be one. I don't see the problem in DC being aware of such things.

I'm beginning to think that maybe YB likes her, she says she loves him (in the way that teenagers do). I tried to suggest that he maybe bragging/trying to impress her but she said he's not like that and he's lovely. Perhaps he just doesn't have the social skills to engage DD in a different type of conversation?

I can hardly wait for thread 15 of this saga when he proposes. said no poster, ever

Gosh - it's just like a Catherine Cookson novel

Also - doesn't have the social skills?? Isn't that the whole point of this hugely expensive private education that you can't actually afford?

So what does a paleontologist earn then, op? Is there a sliding salary scale based on what University you attended?

careful OP, if this follows a typical Catherine Cookson plot she will become pregnant at an early age, be abandoned by the villainous Yacht Boy, left to bring up her baby in grinding poverty while all around wonder about the mysterious white streak the baby carries in it's hair...

run, run! head for state school quickly!

flogging there are DC at independent schools with social issues you know. ASD traits, aspergers etc.

Expensive schools can't remove all special needs!

Well just to indulge you...

You sound like a snob OP. Your DD is probably a snob too. Don't take her out of the school, she will be crucified in the State system. Instead send DS to live with a more down to earth relative so he accepts his shit education amongst the proles with ease and isn't too sad when he has to go down t' mines.