I am never going to be a granny.

[CameliousHumph]

And I am actually. Quite upset about it.

D2. Let's be honest here. I can't imagine anyone. Actually choosing to live with her. I adore her but fucking hell, she is difficult (AS is a bastard).

D1, however, is NT. But just announced that due to the impending Oil War (in approximately 60 years) she won't be having children as it will be immoral to expect the next generation to deal with our mess..

Which means I won't get to be a granny and I am very upset about it.

Send D2 to Silicone Valley and she can find a AS boyfriend! I know plenty of AS with families. As for D1 her hormones might one day overtake her world salvation efforts.
My parents used to be worried about the same, them wham, 4 grandkids in 4 years, swiftly followed by a 5th. It's like buses....

As for DH, when I met him, he was never going to live in an estate (we do), he was never going to marry (we have), he was never going to have kids (we have 3, including one with AS). O how we laugh...

Nitpick: it's Silicon Valley. (Silicone Valley would be somewhere where they get lots of breast implants and such, probably somewhere in the vicinity of Hollywood) In Silicon Valley, the odds will be good, though the goods may be odd... If she's got any aptitude for computers, as some AS people do, she might find a good job opportunity, too. (I used to live in the San Francisco Bay area)

My mum is very unhappy that she won't be a grandmother as well. I'm in my late thirties, happily married and fruitlessly trying to conceive. My brother is divorced and unlikely to remarry tbh.

One reason it took so long for me to be in a place where I wanted to try have kids is partly because I didn't enjoy my own childhood at all. I love my parents, they did their best and I am very appreciative but I spent my childhood walking on eggshells around my mother, who was a highly stressed person. All the usual stuff, financial worries, some health issues etc... things that all families go through but whenever I think back to it I just remember her being angry or on edge with me all the time. Having a family just seemed to be a way to create stress and anxiety to me for many years. When I first learned of her desire to be a grandmother some years back I was truly shocked because she seemed so unhappy and miserable as a mother.

Of course I can't tell her this, there's no point now.

I know, only my iPad autocorrect is determined that silicon should be silicone. Since it is a computer, it must be right...

And the people who programmed autocorrect to do that probably were in Silicon Valley...

Overslept that is dreaddreadful. Sympathies.

I don't think the OP sounds remotely like that though.