I am never going to be a granny.

[CameliousHumph]

And I am actually. Quite upset about it.

D2. Let's be honest here. I can't imagine anyone. Actually choosing to live with her. I adore her but fucking hell, she is difficult (AS is a bastard).

D1, however, is NT. But just announced that due to the impending Oil War (in approximately 60 years) she won't be having children as it will be immoral to expect the next generation to deal with our mess..

Which means I won't get to be a granny and I am very upset about it.

Thanks mrsjay, you've helped me feel normal :o

D1, however, is NT. But just announced that due to the impending Oil War (in approximately 60 years) she won't be having children as it will be immoral to expect the next generation to deal with our mess..

Oh, I remember coming out with something similar when I was young. I was never going to have children, the planet is overcrowded, resources are scarce, etc. etc.

I ended up having 5 of the buggers !

I don't mind whether my children have babies of their own, if that is their choice. It's their life to lead not mine. If they are happy then that's all that matters. I really don't give it a second thought.

My best friend at primary school was a granny at the age of 30, and a great grandmother at the age of 45.

bit selfish really, on the surface, understandable but hey,who wants to live in a world without oil

I'm almost 25 and don't want kids. DP says that we have too much to do any maybe we can revisit the idea when we're 35 but neither of us are fussed.

I told my mum that I don't want kids and she said, "good for you, having kids is shit"

I have AS, I have four children.
About eighteen months ago, at seventeen, Dd2 informed me that she wouldn't be providing me with Grandchildren. Now whe will have them and her boyfriend will be a stay at home dad when they finish uni. Things change.

camelioushumph dd 2.maybe she will need a man with the same mind set.my boy nearly 16 .high functioning autist..give me your address and i will get him to write or email in about 10/15 years .you never know .my hubby always says god who would put up with these obsessions .

Dh step muns parent were the same 2 children no kids.... Then she married fil... a few years later great grandchildren....

She says she is not a a nanny she's a great nanny :-)

When I was 18 I wasn't going to have children because of the impeding all out nuclear war (1970s).
I think the all clear rang out in 1995 and DS1 was born.

You'd rather they had children now?

When I was 17, I think my mom thought no one would ever be able to live with me, either. I suspect I have AS, though have not been diagnosed. Teenagers just are hard to live with, that's the nature of the beast. I've got a 2.5 year old DD now, and am expecting a DS in July. Someone who is hard to live with at 17 can mellow a bit with age. Or she might find someone whose definition of "hard to live with" isn't the same as yours.

Well, you're not unreasonable for being upset about it - it is their life and so on but if I had children I'd went to be a gran! I don't think I will although my parents died young so never got to be grandparents which is a shame.

Well, I was 37 when I had my first - so you still have 20 years or so of 'hope'.
And I ended up with 4

My mother's parents built her a granny annex at their house, they were so certain she would never marry/have children/leave home. She was married at 23 and a parent 2 years later.

I told my mum (apparently) when I was a late teenager than she wouldnt be getting any grandchildren out of me.

She was so shocked when I announced my pregnancy, because of what I claimed when I was younger (I dont even remember saying it).

*Found out on the eve of my daughters wedding that we were going to be grandparents.

That was a fun night that was.....not!*

What do you mean Dowser?

I can't have children and my 2 sisters have decided never to have children, they are set in the fact they won't. Thankfully my mother is fine about all this.

My partners mother is not. Me and DP are both mid twenties. His mother absolutely hates me (despite the fact I was friends with her before I had ever even met her son). She tried all kinds of things to sabotage our relationship.
She spoke endlessly about "when he has children" in an attempt to make me feel semi-permanent. She invited me shopping with her and I agreed to go, until she said she had seen a rocking horse in a shop that we were going to pick up for "when DP has children".
Stated that he needs to get a move on because he isn't getting any younger. Tried to make me more like his ex (who was baby mad and couldn't wait to have kids). Told me about a mutual hobby that we share that when DP had children the child would be doing it and she would buy this and that for them, carried on until I left.
Insisted he contacted his ex, said she had things to send to her and wanted him to drive for miles to see his ex to take the things, he refused as he doesn't even speak to her any more. Attempted to get them back together behind my back, DP stopped talking to her for a few months for that stunt. Tried to get him to move to another country where he has family knowing I wouldn't be able to go with him.
Even once said "Well he only has to get somebody pregnant and then he can just fight for custody or we can have the baby at weekends" I was almost sick when she said that.

Please do not turn in to that woman.

God overslept :( what a piece of work :(

wow, she sounds demented.

Her comment about him getting somebody else pregnant and then fighting for custody proves it's not just you, all women are merely potential grandchildmakers to her. how would she have liked it if somebody had 'fought her for custody'.

At 17/18, getting married and having children really wasn't on my radar. If pressed, I probably would have said I didn't want to have children, partly because I didn't particularly like young children, and partly for similar reasons to your D1. I eventually had my first at 32.

I wish that everyone whose life turned out differently than they imagined at age 18 would send me a pound, a dollar, a euro, or an Australian or New Zealand dollar (whichever is most convenient, I'm not picky). If your older daughter were 30 and said she didn't want kids, that would be one thing, but she's 18.

OMG, overslept, I admire your constraint writing about her

As somebody said upthread, grandchildren (like children tbh IMO) are not a right.

Although my father was told by one of his friend who already was a grandparent several time over when my DS1 made my father a grandfather for the first time that 'Grandchildren are the reward you get for not having strangled your own children'
I remind myself of that from time to time…