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I am never going to be a granny.

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CameliousHumph · 11/02/2015 22:52

And I am actually. Quite upset about it.

D2. Let's be honest here. I can't imagine anyone. Actually choosing to live with her. I adore her but fucking hell, she is difficult (AS is a bastard).

D1, however, is NT. But just announced that due to the impending Oil War (in approximately 60 years) she won't be having children as it will be immoral to expect the next generation to deal with our mess..

Which means I won't get to be a granny and I am very upset about it.

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EatShitDerek · 12/02/2015 00:48

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LikeABadSethRogenMovie · 12/02/2015 01:00

EatShitDerek, I totally read that wrong and thought you had got pregnant at 18 and 37. I was then wondering how old your Mum was when she had the next 2 kids!

BumpAndGrind · 12/02/2015 01:34

I have Aspergers. At that age I don't think anyone could imagine me with a partner and children. I was very difficult and still can be...

15 years on, with the right partner and family support I have a beautiful 15 month old DD and I am getting married in the autumn.

My mum cried sobs of tears onto the hospital floor when she first saw DD.

Mistigri · 12/02/2015 05:56

Isnt it normal and healthy for teenagers not to want children?

My teenager is adamant that she never wants children. And frankly I'd be concerned if, at her age, her life choices were so restricted that "having kids" played a big role in her imagined future. Plus, if she's that anti-children it makes me somewhat more confident that she's not going to end up pregnant out of carelessness.

I had my first child at 36 and I was adamant up until the age of about 35 that I was never going to have any!

arlagirl · 12/02/2015 06:00

I'd be delighted not to be a granny.

Iloveweetos · 12/02/2015 06:22

Yabu

JudgeRinderSays · 12/02/2015 06:51

i was never going to nave children right up until my mid 20s . now I have five of the blighters

Bowlersarm · 12/02/2015 06:57

I was certain I would never have children. Babies, ew, yuk.

I gave my DM DGC 5,6, and 7.

Never say never.

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eurochick · 12/02/2015 07:17

Surely we will all be in solar powered flying cars in sixty years?

You are being silly. Lots of people feel like that as teens. I certainly did in my teens and through my 20s. Biology caught me eventually though and I became a parent in my 30s.

feckitall · 12/02/2015 07:18

At least, for while, until they meet someone who they want kids with, that is their view.
DD aged 23 doesn't want kids
DS2 aged 25 doesn't want kids
DS1 aged 27 has 3
So I am a granny but spend my life trying not to be that MIL! Grin dil is definitely going to be one in 20 years

Fairylea · 12/02/2015 07:20

17 and 18?! And you're worried?! That's prime time rebellion "I'm not going to do anything remotely mainstream" time. I said I hated dc and wasn't going to have any, ever. I was too busy drinking and getting off my face every night till 4 am and then crawling into college to do my a levels (which amazingly I managed to get AAB in).

I'm now 34 and married with two dc. There's loads of time for things to change! Having AS doesn't mean no dc either.

RessyMedHair · 12/02/2015 07:24

I used twll my mother to knit granchildren if she wanted them.

Floisme · 12/02/2015 07:39

I sympathise, op. I hope I will be a granny one day too. And a mother-in-law - I want to have a thread about me on AIBU.

toptomatoes · 12/02/2015 07:39

I expect I said I wasn't having kids at 18. I've got 3. My MIL had written off all chances of grandkids before we had even got to our mid-twenties. She then told all her friends we wouldn't have any more once dc1 got to 2 without a sibling. Grrrrr.

greenfolder · 12/02/2015 07:43

love it.

i was never going to have kids due to the impending threat of nuclear war and starving third world. AND I MEANT IT, i had placards and everything.

obviously went on to have 3 kids when met my other half and realised it was my destiny to do so.

SenatusPopulusqueRomanorum · 12/02/2015 07:43

I am 99% sure I am an Aspie. I know I am difficult to live with.
I am married and have 3 DCs.

Notagainmun · 12/02/2015 07:51

So long as my DSs are happy I don't mind not being a granny. Less worry and more money is the spin I would put on the situation.

MoominKoalaAndMiniMoom · 12/02/2015 07:56

Be patient or you could end up on the other side of the spectrum ; I made my mum a nan at 43. Judging by her reaction that is far too young!!

Horseradishes · 12/02/2015 08:02

Wtf, your children are teenagers and you're worrying about grandchildren?! Let them live their lives, a lot of people start careers, get mortgages etc in their twenties and don't even think about children until their thirties I'm glad my mum wasn't like you over this

Aubrianna · 12/02/2015 08:04

When I was 18/19 I was never having children. Had dd1 at 21 now at 31 I have 5.

Taz1212 · 12/02/2015 08:06

I was 30 and was definitely never ever having children, a stance I'd been quite firm on since the age of 16. I now have two. Grin

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2015 08:13

Loads of teenagers say things like your DD and then have children. So don't give up.

I however have one DD with severe non verbal ASD. Grannyhood is definitely not in my future.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/02/2015 08:17

On the upside DD has been in toddler stage for 8 years and I wouldn't want to go through it again with grandchildren. Or any children.

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