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I am never going to be a granny.

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CameliousHumph · 11/02/2015 22:52

And I am actually. Quite upset about it.

D2. Let's be honest here. I can't imagine anyone. Actually choosing to live with her. I adore her but fucking hell, she is difficult (AS is a bastard).

D1, however, is NT. But just announced that due to the impending Oil War (in approximately 60 years) she won't be having children as it will be immoral to expect the next generation to deal with our mess..

Which means I won't get to be a granny and I am very upset about it.

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DurhamDurham · 12/02/2015 08:17

My 21 year old tells me frequently that she has no intention of having children, she just doesn't like them very much

My 17 year old assures me that she may have children one day, when she has finished Uni and has travelled the world.

I used to claim I didn't want a baby all through my teens and then had my first daughter at 22. Things change, I wouldn't be too concerned just yet.

I'm happy not be a grandma in the immediate future and am more than happy to wait 10 + years as I would like my girls to have a life of their own first.

Babiecakes11 · 12/02/2015 08:19

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babygiraffe86 · 12/02/2015 08:36

Jeez - if anything my DM would have hated it if I had made her a granny when i was 17 or 18! currently 28, shes still not one yet but will be in the coming few years (we hope).

enjoy them - and let them enjoy themselves, so what if you might have to wait 10 years??

BrendaBlackhead · 12/02/2015 08:45

Yeah, when I was a teenager I used to spit at the notion of children, an estate car and a retriever. Er......

DoubletheRage · 12/02/2015 08:46

My parents must have thought they were highly unlikely to have GC 15 years ago, but they have 4 now ,both daughters were eventually swayed by our body clocks.

It does worry me that if my DC wait as long as DDsis and I did, I'll be in my 80s before the first GC comes along. Worries me in terms of missing out myself, but also what use I'll be as a GP and, bigger picture, what that trend will mean for society as a whole. If whole generations grow up without the benefit of involved GPs. But that's probably a bit deeper than this thread intended

Mrsjayy · 12/02/2015 08:50

Dd1 said I am never having babies some of the girls she went to school with have babies and toddlers they post a million baby photos on facebook dd says quite snootily urgh babies are so dull!

dd2 watches births on call the midwife and says nope never happening

so I might never have grandbabies either.

Mrsjayy · 12/02/2015 08:52

I made my mum a granny at 40 she was not amused

BrendaBlackhead · 12/02/2015 08:59

I sold dd's cot and it was bought by a local woman who said it was for her dd. "Oh," says I, "When's she having the baby?" The woman said she wasn't pregnant yet, but was 17, so it was likely to happen soon. I suppose that says something about the town near me!

Sallystyle · 12/02/2015 09:01

It could be worse.. my 6 year old says she is going to have 6 babies by the time she is 25 and give me four of them! Mind you she also went through a stage where she wanted flamingo babies when she grows up instead of human ones

My 15 year old son says he doesn't want children because he plans to work none stop and it wouldn't be fair to have a child he never plans to see.

I know I would be a little disappointed if I never have grandchildren but would obviously much rather my children be happy with whatever choices they make.

deadenddan · 12/02/2015 09:05

I sometimes think I should start a "Lend a granny" service. Matching all those knitting obsesses baby cuddlers to frazzled working parents with no support system.

You could be subject 1!

Mrsjayy · 12/02/2015 09:06

Aaw flamingo babies are cute

Degustibusnonestdisputandem · 12/02/2015 09:13

I was never in a million years going to have children throughout my 20s... At 32 I had my beautiful DTDs

Dowser · 12/02/2015 10:16

So pleased my daughter changed. Her mind , going from not wanting children to having three .

My son was a single father of one. Now he has three.

So, I'm one proud and well thought of Grannie.

There's plenty of time for them to change their minds. My daughter was 27 before she had her first. My son was 21 .

drudgetrudy · 12/02/2015 10:19

What people say at 17 and 18 isn't usually what they do.
Also its early for you to be thinking about being a grandmother.
Enjoy your own life and wait to see what happens.

Dowser · 12/02/2015 10:20

Found out on the eve of my daughters wedding that we were going to be grandparents.

That was a fun night that was.....not!

NancyJones · 12/02/2015 10:40

I was approaching 40 before I felt ready to have my first. Then I had 4! But if they choose to wait as long as I did then I'm unlikely to be a granny. Certainly not a particularly useful one.

Bananasandchocolatecustard · 12/02/2015 11:29

I don't understand why you are bothered! You have had your children, get on with your own life.

TheFecklessFairy · 12/02/2015 11:34

My only son informs me that I will never be a grandparent. "There is no way I'm passing fucking Aspergers on to a child of mine so they can suffer like I do" he says.

Owllady · 12/02/2015 11:41

My mum was a 43 yo granny and similarly not amused :o

Seriously though, they're young.

My son has said he is marrying his girlfriend but they're not going to have any children. She won't be working either, whilst he goes to work, as she's decided she's going to stay at home and look after their jack russell and sausage dog.

Thankfully he's only seven

NancyJones · 12/02/2015 11:47

Blimey! At 43, I had a preschooler, a toddler and a big pregnant belly!
Mind you, my children don't have any grandparents at all so having a 43yr old GM must be fun. Must be nice to have help when a new mum too.

Owllady · 12/02/2015 12:01

God she's never helped!
To be fair she still works full time (she's 59 now) and we do live some distance away.
I didn't factor in the having babies young means when they're teenagers you feel old though :o I'm 37 now (children are 15, 13 and 7) and some of my friends have only just started having babies and it makes me feel old. They all seem younger, somehow.
Is that odd?
I'm wondering whether I'm having some sort of mid life thing early....

Mrsjayy · 12/02/2015 12:05

my mum was working full time when I had my baby and I had a much younger sibling still in primary school so she did help a bit which was a great support but she had her own life to get on with so it is swings and roundabouts grannys age I think

Mrsjayy · 12/02/2015 12:08

No it is not odd that your friends seem younger I have a friend my age 43 with primary school children my eldest is 22 (almost) it blows my friends mind

Endler32 · 12/02/2015 12:09

I don't think I will be a granny either, I'm not too bothered tbh, I might get to be step granny ( im sure dsd will have kids one day ). Both my dd's have ASD, Dd1 has AS but she doesn't want to have children and I think she is too selfish to love anyone other than herself ( though this may change ), dd2 has more severe ASD and loves her own company too much.

Micah · 12/02/2015 12:09

My mother jumped to the conclusion I'd never have children when I was young. Was utterly convinced. I'd never said either way, but knew I did want them, so where she got it from I don't know. Apparently I'm not the maternal type.

When I told her I was pregnant her immediate reaction was to tell me I still had time to "do something about it".

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