...to ask MN-ers NOT to join in this glorification of domestic abuse? (contains spoilers)

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Fifty Shades of Shite

Can't believe the naivety and abuse deniers on here and amongst my friends.

DV campaigners such as Womens Aid & National Centre for Domestic Violence are urging people not to see this film.

It is not "just a piece of fun" it normalises abusive, controlling relationships as sexy, and it really bothers me so many women are colluding in supporting such crap that could hurt other more vulnerable women.

The BDSM community are frothing too as if done properly between 2 consenting adults with lots of planning, mutual respect and lots of affection and downtime after it can, for some, apparently be mindblowing. ( doesn't lift my skirt but respect those who do enjoy) this is not portrayed safely in this film.

Yes I am but hey I apologised a couple of times now and you wont and your intolerant of others views.

Thoughts can never be wrong they are thoughts and to start judging people's characters based on their thoughts is wrong and not very nice

What, specifically, do you want me to apologise for?

Oh god - very much ot - remember the poster who came on because her dp wanted to cannibalise her, so she was giving him bits of skin off her fingers!!

Of course it is okay to think that it's when you do it that you have crossed a line. Also she was posting a lot about me and accused my dh or raping me without fully understanding or trying to understand our relationship

So dreaming of drowning kittens or eating babies = fine and natural
Saying dreaming of drowning kittens or eating babies is not fine and natural = so wrong and not very nice, mean and nasty person.

For saying offences things such as bdsm is wrong and all those who enjoy it have issues or are vulnerable and that it is a shameful. I want you to apologise for causing offence to me even though that was not your intent

Why not just let people think what they want and try not to police people's private space in their mind

Get to fuck pineapple I did not accuse your DH of raping you.

Slice described rape. She later wobbled over whether she was not consenting or pretending not to consent although she never clarified. On her own words, sex when she was not consenting, she described a rape.

Yes you did you said he anal raped me. Also I think about eating babies...jelly babies mind you and on a regular basis

There is no such thing as normal it is all relative. At the end of the day we will never agree

For saying offences things such as bdsm is wrong - not going to happen

and all those who enjoy it have issues or are vulnerable - I didn't say "all" but you are certainly vulnerable the way you practise BDSM.

and that it is a shameful. - I didn't say that

I want you to apologise for causing offence to me even though that was not your intent - not going to happen. If you talk about controversial topics, you might be offended.

So. Fifty shades of grey, anyone?

There is no such thing as normal it is all relative.

This is dangerous bullshit. It's the type of attitude that lets abusers get away with things. "Who am I to judge" can go too far and lead to people turning a blind eye to abuse.

You can say it's not okay to act on it people generally know the law enough to know you don't kill someone just cause you think it. You can't police thoughts you may as well arrest people for thinking about committing a crime to prevent the possibility of may happen

Ted has it

This is the loopiest thread i have seen in quite a while

Sorry for the delay I was buying paint in B&Q and it was packed out with deranged women all buying cable ties as they have read a book!

Yes Maryz that was the comment you made and yes I think it's dangerous for the reasons I already stated.

Flora mmmm deluded might be your earlier comments about chopping legs off and not seeing the difference between fantasising about an action and doing it!

That's bloody deluded.