Will try to keep short but not drip feed.
Friend is getting married and me and the two other bridesmaids arranged to meet up to discuss hen night. Me, friend and bridesmaid A are equally friendly, all met 5 years ago through work. Me and BM A had never met BM B prior to meeting up. She is friend's fiancée's very close cousin and is on the wedding on his behalf not friend's.
Me and the bride were meeting for lunch yesterday (the morning after meeting the hens -she didn't know we were meeting). When we got there she said she had a bone to pick with me and said that I upset her fiancée's mother, that she rang her and said bm B said she didn't like me. I asked did I say anything to offend/do anything wrong. She said no, BM B just felt a bit intimidated by my personality so "for now on, if you could try to be a few shades less you, that'd be great thanks".
The only thing I can think of was that BM B was really pushing the one idea that we all hated and friend had said she definitely didn't want to do and I said (nicely) that it was definitely out as it was the one thing friend said no way to.
Absolutely mortified! Me, friend and BM A are all equally "big" personalities (I would probably be the quietest, ironically). I apologised, went home and sobbed all day and text BM B and basically said I'm really sorry if we got off on the wrong foot/had upset her and could we start again. She text back and said she had no clue as to where my text had came from but it had been lovely meeting me.
I was with BM A last night and told her what happened, apologised if I was a dick and she was just like wtf? There was nothing wrong with how I was.
AIBU to be raging that rather than ask me what happened I just got told off straight off the bat? And that how dare she tell me to try to be a little bit less me?
Or should I just brush it off and put it down to wedding pressures and stress and trying to keep fiancées family happy? And should I bring it up to her, especially how much she has actually hurt my feelings?