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To think that lying in bed with your arm up in the air is weird

131 replies

Girlwhowearsglasses · 04/02/2015 12:55

Lighthearted: but still annoying.

DP has always done it, sort of just before going to sleep, or if I'm reading something to him in bed: he puts his arm straight up in the air above him/me. He says it's relaxing and he's done it since he was a kid. I say it's mental and annoying and makes me claustrophobic. He then says I am over sensitive and that all women would love their DP to hold an arm in the air above them.

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CornChips · 04/02/2015 13:22

i think that is what the OP is talking about too, arm in the air.

Smidge001 · 04/02/2015 13:22

I think some posters are now confusing the highland fling position with the arm in the air.

OP you mean properly up in the air don't you - perpendicular to the bed. Not for actual sleeping of course, but just while lying there. As ribbonjar said, if you get it right it feels almost weightless.

rumbelina · 04/02/2015 13:22

I used to do it when I was younger. My dad also did it.

Haven't done for ages but I'll have a go tonight, see if I still like it

rumbelina · 04/02/2015 13:23

Straight up in air that is, not highland fling.

Bifauxnen · 04/02/2015 13:24

Oh good. Thought I'd got it wrong Smile

annadina · 04/02/2015 13:24

Nope, arm in the air first as a sort of relaxation thing - once it's balanced as such, it kind of holds itself there with minimal effort.

SpottyTits · 04/02/2015 13:24

It's a lucid dreaming g technique. When you fall asleep your hand drops and wakes you a little making it much easier to lucid dream.

GoooRooo · 04/02/2015 13:25

Bifauxnen I do it too. It's an actual thing - I Googled it once to see if I was a weirdo but apparently a lot of people do it.

Disastronaut · 04/02/2015 13:25

I do it too! It feels comfy and doesn't get tired. DP thinks it's weird. I shall show him this and he will be chastened, yes indeed.

juneybean · 04/02/2015 13:26

Does he not hit himself when he falls asleep?

BitOutOfPractice · 04/02/2015 13:26

I do it somtimes too. It helps me think

InternetFOREVER · 04/02/2015 13:26

I have literally never heard of this before. Will try tonight... so I lie down, and then stick one arm straight up in the air, as if I'm pointing at the ceiling? And it feels nice?

BreeVDKamp · 04/02/2015 13:26

Haha I do this! I'm not sure I agree with his statement that all women would love their man to do it though... Ha!

NeedABumChange · 04/02/2015 13:28

I do this sometimes, it's nice. Straight up in the air not on pillow above head as some posters sound confused.

Whatisaweekend · 04/02/2015 13:29

I used to do this when I was little. I felt like I had too much energy to go to sleep so holding my arm in the air was a way of expending some of that. Never realised it was A Thing!

NeedABumChange · 04/02/2015 13:29

I like to have my palm flat as though I am holding the ceiling up and arm has to be straight as a very straight thing.

LoblollyBoy · 04/02/2015 13:31

Neither of you is entirely right, I'd say. It simply isn't true that I would just LOVE my husband to hold his hand up in the air. On the other hand it's really normal, we both do it, although I don't as much as I used to. I have always known it was a thing.

Wailywailywaily · 04/02/2015 13:34

His sounds odd to me.reyo all really sleeping with your arms hanging in the air above your partners? Don't you get pins and needles?

Wailywailywaily · 04/02/2015 13:35

*are you

Mamab33 · 04/02/2015 13:36

Nope not weird in this house. I used todo it regularly and the kids seem to be naturally inclined to do it too!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 04/02/2015 13:37

I've never heard of this and, despite so many others (weirdos Smile) saying that do it too, I think it's weird! Just why?! I think I would feel claustrophobic with an arm dangling over my head too!

Bogeyface · 04/02/2015 13:39

H's old housemate used to do this, until he broke his own nose when he fell asleep :o

They still take the piss out of him to this day and it was donkeys years ago that he did it!

openthecurtains · 04/02/2015 13:45

I don't sleep like it but if I'm reading in bed, I usually lie on one side with the other arm raised straight up in the air. As others have said, it's almost weightless and I think it relaxes my shoulder muscles, I find it really comfy. DH says it's really weird though and if I do it when we're chatting, his eyes keep drifting to my arm.

Lozzapops · 04/02/2015 13:53

I do this too. Can't believe there are so many of us!

Colyngbourne · 04/02/2015 14:02

I do this - it feels weightless but also I try to get it really flat so that I can see as little of it as possible if I look along it.

Only my right arm though.