To think that lying in bed with your arm up in the air is weird

[Girlwhowearsglasses]

Lighthearted: but still annoying.

DP has always done it, sort of just before going to sleep, or if I'm reading something to him in bed: he puts his arm straight up in the air above him/me. He says it's relaxing and he's done it since he was a kid. I say it's mental and annoying and makes me claustrophobic. He then says I am over sensitive and that all women would love their DP to hold an arm in the air above them.

AIBU?

Yes.

It IS relaxing. Try it. (I'm amused someone other than me also does it. )

Hmmm is it like a spare arm? You know in bed when you just don't know where to put an arm or a leg so it's spare.

YABU. Its his arm.

If he were holding your arm on the air, fair enough. That's odd.

I do it too! Feels good, honest

It makes you claustrophobic? How big's his arm?!

Leave him to it, turn away if it's upsetting you.

I used to do it lots before pregnancy changed my sleeping positions forever! It's fab, and I'm impressed that at least 3 of us do it. Does he also sleep on his back with arms over his head (like the highland fling)? So comfortable!

Weird does he not get a sore arm?

Oh if you mean sleep with your arms resting on a pillow then I'm with your DH I find that relaxing too. I was imagining him lying in bed with his arms raised in the air.

I do this. And I remember my gran doing it too, years ago.
It feels right.

I do this all the time - it feels great. YABU!

annadina - totally with you on the highland fling thing too!

You have to be laying on your side, though. Doing it while laying on your back would be weird.

Ooh I remember doing that it felt nice. I am going to try it later.

I'm a highland flinger too.

Laugh at 'spare arm or leg'. Last weekend I had DH and DS in the bed, plus two dogs and a cat. One of my legs was on top of a dog as there was no room for it.

also do the arm thing.

I used to do this quite a lot, he's right, it is relaxing.

Unless he's the size of a brown bear I can't see how this would make you feel claustrophobic.

Dd1 did this as a baby, I think it's like twirling your hair or sucking your thumb. Just be glad he doesn't suck his thumb.

I sleep like that. I'm less likely to wake up with a stiff neck, if I do.

And I do it lying on my back. Hand goes behind my head, when I'm reading, then above my head when I fall asleep.

YABU. If you get it in just the right position it feels almost weightless.

I do the arm thing too! If you've got your own eyes closed, then how can it bother you?

I do it to relax and get to sleep. I did wake up one morning with my arm above my head and I couldn't feel it. Spent a few minutes wondering where it had gone

My DH does this too, though usually in the middle of the night when he's fast asleep. I find it slightly disturbing, especially waiting for him to 'stop' when his arms just drop suddenly onto the bed/me.

apparently the highland fling is called a starfish and means you are a good listener. ;)

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Hmm, I think everyone else is talking about something different to me. I did mean actually holding my arm up in the air. At a 90° angle to my body while I lie on my side. I thought I'd found validation.