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AIBU to wonder if this is "new" and not like it at all?!

51 replies

Weathergames · 01/02/2015 23:26

On FB (sorry) friends have posted scan pic of baby and clearly have been told the sex and have put "introducing" and the name of the baby, which is not due for a good 20 odd weeks.

Why do people do this?

My mum would never buy anything for a baby until it was born - this almost seems date I say it tempting fate? :S

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KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol · 01/02/2015 23:29

They're excited?

MerryMo · 01/02/2015 23:29

Personal preference but wouldnt be my choice.

They are setting themselves up to start a thread on here saying "Everyone hates our name choice"!

arethereanyleftatall · 01/02/2015 23:30

Most people prepare for their newborn before due date.
I was like your mum and didn't, only buying a car seat and one outfit before due date, but people thought I was really odd.

maddening · 01/02/2015 23:32

what on earth do your mum's superstitions have to do with how other people share their pregancies with their friends and family.

should pregnant women avoid magpies also?

fair enough to say it's not to your taste but tempting fate?

beavington · 01/02/2015 23:32

Theyre probably not superstitious, not everyone is. Not actually seen this myself sounds a bit rubbish to do a big announcement so soon before baby arrives but then i had a longlist of names at 20 weeks Grin

Froggio · 01/02/2015 23:32

It just sounds as though they can't contain their excitement and want to share with the world. No biggie really.

Original poster
Weathergames · 01/02/2015 23:34

I didn't mean about superstitions - I just think it's incredibly naff to share this "publicly" before the baby is actually born.

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beavington · 01/02/2015 23:40

Probably a combination of knowing what you want to call dc, not being guarded, crap at keeping secrets and sick of being asked what plans for names are by everyone they bump into!

maddening · 01/02/2015 23:41

fair enough - I got that from the "My mum would never buy anything for a baby until it was born - this almost seems date I say it tempting fate? :S"

some people like to share more than others - it's not what you would do -though I did put a scan pic up, I did find out the sex of my baby and knew the name I was to call him and did tell people when asked - not over facebook - it was just my scan pics I put on facebook - I also bought everything I needed prior to his birth. I didn't think that was weird or over shary though.

maddening · 01/02/2015 23:41

or naff either

OnceUponATimeAgain · 02/02/2015 08:23

YABU
they are excited and happy, why shouldn't they share their news in any way they want to

LST · 02/02/2015 08:28

We had everything this time before he was even conceived... Good thing about having 2 the same sex.. what should I have done.. removed 2 years worth of clothes, toys etc just because?

I didn't name mine before they were born though.

Mammanat222 · 02/02/2015 08:33

We found out gender this time and we had a name in advance. I am not on FB though and we didn't refer to baby by chosen name, nor did we tell many people the name.

Like others say though its not really your business OP and its certainly nowt to do with your mum!

Mammanat222 · 02/02/2015 08:35

We also bought what we needed prior to birth (didn't need anything big. It was just clothes and bedding etc) which allowed us to spread the cost.

dogelove · 02/02/2015 08:36

YABU, Miss Needlessly Judgemental.

I don't really see how it's any of your business at all how or when these people decide to share news about their pregnancy.

People doing things differently to how you would does not automatically mean it is "naff" or "tacky".

PtolemysNeedle · 02/02/2015 08:37

I wouldn't do it, but to think it's tempting fate is ridiculous. If something does happen and they don't have a safe delivery and healthy baby, would you really think it's down to the fact that they chose a name and posted a scan picture on FB?

OwlinaTree · 02/02/2015 08:41

They are not tempting fate. If something goes wrong you don't feel worse because you had named your baby or bought a pram.

WorraLiberty · 02/02/2015 08:42

I've never got this 'tempting fate' thing either.

People don't miscarry because they bought a pram early, or put a scan pic on Facebook.

TeriyakiStirfry · 02/02/2015 08:48

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Redling · 02/02/2015 08:48

When I was pregnant I was hugely excited and after 20 weeks of vomiting the scan and finding out the sex really lifted me. We shared the sex but not the chosen names.

The pregnancy forum is full of happy people being shot down and terrified about buying things before 20 weeks because if people mentioning 'tempting fate' which is an awful thing to say.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 02/02/2015 08:51

I wouldn't do it because it takes away the surprise element but I'm not at all superstitious so wouldn't bother me from that perspective. We didn't decide DD's name until she was born so wouldn't be able to anyway!

I've seen it on my Facebook news feed too.

Slutbucket · 02/02/2015 08:54

I was invited to a baby shower and I hate them as I believe they are tempting fate. Unfortunately the baby died at 37 weeks. In your mums day this was probably quite common so I think the tempting fate thing was a big worry.

WiiUnfit · 02/02/2015 08:56

YABU. They are clearly very excited and happy to be sharing their news with others. Also, why is the buying anything for their baby bit relevant? You mentioned a scan picture, not that they'd bought anything?

It's all down to personal preference. Like another poster said, people don't miscarry because they announced their news via fb or bought baby stuff before a certain point in their pregnancy.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 02/02/2015 08:57

I'm not sure how anything you can do in pregnancy tempts fate (bar behaving dangerously/drinking heavily etc) and actually think it is offensive to those who have suffered losses to suggest otherwise. It is implying that it is their fault.

Redling · 02/02/2015 09:01

You think a baby shower caused someone to lose their baby at 37 weeks? That's a sick thing to think. Assuming you're close enough to the person to be invited I hope to god you've never indicated that to them.