Maintanance - he's got me doubting myself.

[horseygeorgie]

I have a 3.5 year old DD. Her 'Father' was an ex boyfriend I drunkenly decided to see again. We had a 1 night stand and I haven't seen him since. He's never met DD and firmly believes I should have had a termination. He has in her life given me 2 lump sums of money accounting to £200.
Over the last 6 months I have explained to him we are really struggling and would he please start a monthly contribution. I finally said to him tonight if I can't have a amicable arrangement I will go to CMA on Monday. He has agreed to a monthly payment but says I shouldn't ask him as it was my choice to have her and if I couldn't afford a child I shouldn't have had her. I thought I was infertile and had lost my marriage because of it and I suppose he feels hoodwinked.
AIBU?!? I wouldn't ask him but we really do need help.

[Andrewofgg]

Unless he had kids before you . . . that he might not even know about. It's no use worrying about it.

[Bogeyface]

I am ok on that score, he was virgo intacta when we got together!

[revealall]

I really don't think that most men give a second thought before they have sex as to what happens if they get you pregnant.
Which is why they act stupid when they do.

I think if more men left the woman out of the equation and just considered before sex,what would happen to their child if it was concieved it would help everyone.

The CSA is one way of trying to make this change. I agree with the poster who said it should be like a tax. However what the Daily Mail would do without it's 20 children single mum stories remains to be seen.