To wish that MIL would just fuck off and when she gets there, fuck off a little bit more

[Fleetfoxes]

I really am at the end of my tether with MIL!! She's so controlling. I've just had the mother of all rows with her due to my washing being out on the washing line for, shock horror, two whole days (due to a busy working life). What has it got to do with her anyway??

She was rooting through our bins the other day to make sure that we were putting all recyclable items in the right bin and completely went off her tits because we had discarded some pizza crusts which is "terrible waste" and we should've eaten them.

She had another ther go because, apparently, DD (20 months) never gets to go outside. She goes outside for a relevant amount of time depending on when I'm not at work and if she's well enough (she's had numerous chest infections and pneumonia last month so no, maybe I don't want her outside all day every fucking day when it's struggling to get above freezing)

She happily chews my lug off but when it comes to her youngest DD (favourite) ohhhhhhh well she can do no wrong. Despite the fact her kids were sat inside all day, everyday on an Xbox through out the glorious spring and summer that we had last year whilst my DD only went inside when it was time to go to bed. She's just said to me "you should take a leaf out of Emma's (N/C) book, her kids get plenty of fresh air". Pffffftttt they must download it then!!

She has a real issue with my DM, accuses her of being lazy and not working (she was a HCA for 20+ years and has recently had to give up due to ill health, momentarily she works in a tea garden). My mum looks very good for her age and in the summer wears, can you believe it, SHORTS! Now, nobody else has a problem with this but MIL thinks it DISCUSTING! Her fashion police radar is going off the fecking wall. She never shuts up about my DM being all fur coat and no knickers (entirely untrue) and has told me that I shouldnt be letting DD spend too much time with her as she's impressionable and last week she was (DD 20 months) stood in MILs doorway dancing, "ugh look at her stood there dancing like that, you're going to be just like your granny" FFS it's what toddlers do you old battle axe. Fucking hell you've bought up 4 kids and lived to see 7 grandchildren grow up through the toddling years have you not learnt anything ?!

She lives just up the street from us and our freezer is on the blink so we are using Hers. I bought all of my freezable items earlier on in the week and most of the meat was from lidl. She has since been through the freezer, rang DP and told him that I should be ashamed of myself buying meat from lidl as I come from a farming family and should be supporting local businesses (which I do as often as I can, when I can afford it but I'm not going to starve my family For the sake of pride)

DP always stands up for me and has told me that she's had control of *Emma and thinks she can do it to everyone else too.

WWYD? Are all MILs like this to some extent?? Am I just being hypersensitive.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

Shameless place marking for more tales of mad MIL.

[Tanith]

Maybe she thought she was turning the shower cold and got the wrong tap?

I mean, no sane person would deliberately and knowingly play such a dangerous trick, would they? They'd have to be a vicious, twisted sadist to do that...

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

her kids get plenty of fresh air". Pffffftttt they must download it then!!

That made me lol.

[drudgetrudy]

Less of the they frozenchips.
This woman's behaviour is bizarre-something isn't right.
Whatever the reason OP should not put up with it.

[flora717]

by this thread.
But, could I ask, What does all fur coat and no pants mean?

[FryOneFatManic]

In light of the update, I think the thread title is a little restrained.

I think you need to go NC, and also your DD. This woman isn't safe to be around your DD.

[FrankelandFilly]

"All fur coat and no knickers" generally means someone who puts on a respectable front but underneath it all they're common/trashy.

[MrsGeorgeMichael]

you must be in a "farming" type house as you haven't responded to all messages about selling

i would put it on the market - get an estate agent that doesn't charge - even if you can't move!

[MeggleVache]

CrystalHaze-absolutely yes there are MILs like this unfortunately I have one , finally found my balls after ten longs years! I have SOOO Many stories! Love "fresh air downloading"

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

Down loading fresh air!
You deserve a medal for putting up with her op.

[flora717]

Thanks

[Nanny0gg]

The older generation love to go on about kids not playing out etc. it was a different world 50. Odd years ago, less cars about for starters. Its a different world now and they have v short memories ( when it suits them)

[Icimoi]

The older generation love to go on about kids not playing out etc. it was a different world 50. Odd years ago

Oh, come off it. In the swinging 60s parents certainly weren't all sending their kids out to play all day. Apart from anything else, the Moors murders were happening. And they certainly weren't complaining about people wearing shorts, not least because many of them were wearing micro skirts. Why is it that people like to generalise about all women over 50 years old as if they're all incredibly old-fashioned biddies who grew up in the 1930s?

[drudgetrudy]

There is something very amiss with OP's MIL.
That does not mean all women over 55 are the same. Ageist generalisation from frozenchips
The "older generation" are not all clones with short memories.

[YouTheCat]

Does she often just turn up on the off chance the door's been left unlocked?

[HotSquashedBun]

She sounds just like my mother! I have very limited contact with her. It's not normal behaviour, my mother was extremely controlling and abusive and was/is much worse with me and my sisters than she is with my brothers. She has never demonstrated empathy ever and can't see anything from anyone elses point of view. She's very religious and believes her way is "The Lords way" and any deviation from her way or any differing opinion is "unrighteous", she just cannot grasp the fact that not everyone thinks and behaves just like her thank fuck.
I'd honestly go no contact or limit it. She sounds awful.

[ohtheholidays]

Op have you told your DP about what happened yet?

That's an awful thing for her to do like you said thank god your LO was not in the shower with you,that would have been beyond awful.

[puppythedog]

Not read all the posts but what I would do is...


... Ensure no dependence upon her whatsoever and then on the occasions she is vile tell her to leave. And say she is not welcome back until she apologises/ then be prepared to cut all contact.

[CharlieSierra]

All MILs are not like this, I am a MIL and am far to busy living my own life to interfere in my DCs. I would be disappointed if any of them married a narrow minded misogynist, but I'd keep it to myself and let them figure out their own mistake.

[Tiptops]

I am agog at her letting herself into your house and deliberately adjusted the shower

Please go NC. You don't have to put up with her appalling behaviour.

[pluCaChange]

Shit! That's it, she definitely hates you and as a result must be considered unpredictable. Don't give her access to you, your house, your DD any more (and kick your DH's arse for not securing the house; you were assaulted!).

Other measures (police or family intervention) at your discretion, but she is dangerous.

[Fleetfoxes]

Thanks for that little dig charliesierra

I'm assuming you've read the entire thread and perhaps share certain traits with my MIL. I don't see any need for the narrow minded misogynist comment. I am far from it!

[lemisscared]

charliesierra do you actually know ehat a misogynist is? ir did you just see that written down somewhere and think it a suitable insult?

[Fleetfoxes]

Hmmmm somewhere like further up thread?

[pictish]

I agree she sounds a lot of a meddlesome, self important cow - I'm glad you stand up to her!

And ffs get the key back!