to leave one month old 'alone' on the train.

[MrsDutchie]

OK Mumsnet jury. I am expecting to be flamed for irresponsible behaviour here. DM didn't have a problem with it so maybe this is a generational thing.

I was travelling alone with one month old dd to visit DM and DF so they could have some quality time with her.

Looking after a newborn is exhausting work and like usual I'd forgotten to eat my lunch and by 5pm after dd's feed I was really hungry and I could feel my blood sugar was really low and I needed something to eat. I asked the train conducted who was operating the tannoy next to my seat if she could keep an eye on dd for one min between station so I could run up the train and grab a sandwich . Dd was sleeping peacefully in pram and I was away for 5 mins.

WIBU unreasonable and putting dd in danger?

Patsy who are the total neurotics obsessed with paedophila? If I'm reading the same thread as you, the majority have said the op was fine. A handful of posters have saisd they wouldn't have personally done it

I would have found it more odd for the OP to ask me to go to the buffet carriage for her rather than just keep an eye on the baby. I wouldn't have the gall to ask someone else to do that either.

BMO I'd considered the 'baby out of the window scenario' as well as 'child eating conductors' and I concluded the more likely event was the conductor running along the train roof a la James Bond (because what man doesn't want to be Bond) jumping from carriage to carriage eventually dropping to his stomach as the train hurtles towards a low tunnel and finally jumping onto the back of a motorcycle expertly ridden to match the speed of the train to then vanish into the distance with the baby leaving his life as a lowly conductor behind.

Alternatively he could smile and coo at baby for a few minutes until OP came back. Sensible money is on Bond, obviously

Ds2 has been minded by cafe staff numerous times as Ds1 has needed taking to the toilet quite urgently (was new to toilet training). It seemed to be safer to leave him happily eating under supervision than pull him away from his dinner, risking a choke hazard on food that could be hidden in his mouth then piling 3 people into a toilet cubicle, putting Ds2 on a dirty floor while I assist Ds1.

think this is a society thing. question about social norms. we americans are very untrusting so i personally would not do it. but where i live now, ppl do that all the time. so i'm not judging from previous posts looks like accepted thing to do in the uk.

If someone asked me to go and get them a "snack" on a train I'd be rather taken aback and say no. Leave my seat for someone to nick? Drag myself and my baggage along the carriages to run the errand? No way.
If they asked me to keep an eye on a sleeping baby in a pram I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Worst case scenario - the train crashes or derails or is hijacked by terrorists while you're at the other end of it and unable to get back to your baby or check they are okay.

Really, really unlikely, and not worth worrying about.

Hahaha, I almost said the worst case scenario would be the conductor being a psycho baby murderer who throws it out of the window!

But that doesn't even add up anyway. Firstly surely someone else in the carriage would notice and shout and people would jump on him and wrestle the baby away.

Secondly he would have been witnessed by several people so would lose his job and most likely go to jail for a very long time.

Thirdly it's not exactly the only place anybody ever has access to babies. It's not like he never sees babies and suddenly thinks "Aha! Here's my chance!" - there are hundreds of babies in much less supervised situations and much easier to make look like an accident.

And that's all assuming the train even has windows which open. Most modern ones don't.

I did a weird thing again didn't I?

Haven't read the replies but sorry. Yabu.

If you know you're travelling then plan better and take some food and snacks with you in your bag or little ones changing bag.

Bubalu- why is she being unreasonable?

Bertie that's why we love you

Bubalou so you haven't read the thread and you don't give a reason. Your post is valued. Truly.

HOLD ON EVERYBODY! I HAVE NOT READ ANY OF THE THREAD AS OBVIOUSLY ONLY MY OPINION IS IMPORTANT AND SO I CAN NOT BE ARSED TO READ ANYONE ELSES VIEW - KLAXON.

Or IHNRAOTTAOOMYOIIASICNBATRAEV for short

To be fair; Why is commenting on the op without the benefit of everybody else's wisdom so frowned upon? Are you supposed to change your opinion to whatever the majority consensus is, or are we allowed an opinion of our own?
Just asking as this isn't the first time I've seen someone savaged for daring to not read the whole fucking thread...

No that is not it at all. My point (and always is so this is not anything against bubalou ) it seems a bit arrogant to assume that everyone on the thread wants to read your opinion (whatever that may be) if you can not be bothered to read anyone elses.

Threads move on. Ops change their mind.

bertie your post reminds me of the inside of my head

Totally fine!

Ahh ChippingIn loves me

Don't see the problem here, you asked a member of staff (ie person of trust and responsibility, atleast in theory) to keep an eye out, and you did not go far away. :)

Always Bertie, always :)

My mum accidentally left my sister (first child) at the butchers when she was 3 months old. She said she'd got home and had a nagging feeling she'd forgotten something.......followed by a manic run back to the shops. The butcher had put her behind the counter and added a price sign!

Of course it was fine. You asked the a member of the train staff to look after your baby while you nipped away for a few minutes. What are they going to do in that time - throw it out of the window, or sell it into slavery?

Snakes - that made me laugh