to leave one month old 'alone' on the train.

[MrsDutchie]

OK Mumsnet jury. I am expecting to be flamed for irresponsible behaviour here. DM didn't have a problem with it so maybe this is a generational thing.

I was travelling alone with one month old dd to visit DM and DF so they could have some quality time with her.

Looking after a newborn is exhausting work and like usual I'd forgotten to eat my lunch and by 5pm after dd's feed I was really hungry and I could feel my blood sugar was really low and I needed something to eat. I asked the train conducted who was operating the tannoy next to my seat if she could keep an eye on dd for one min between station so I could run up the train and grab a sandwich . Dd was sleeping peacefully in pram and I was away for 5 mins.

WIBU unreasonable and putting dd in danger?

Of course thats fine. Why on earth wouldnt it be? She was hardly likely to jump from a moving train with your baby was she? YANBU

I'm presuming she was in some kind of seat, why didn't you just carry her with you?

he could have been anyone

Well same here I'm a bit PFB but there comes a point when you're struggling so much by yourself and you need help!!!

I don't think I would have done this, but I'm a bit of a worrier to be honest

Perfectly fine.

I wish I had shared my babies round more. I took 7m ds to see my uncle, in a nursing home, and the JOY on the faces of the elderly ladies in that thankless 'residents lounge' was priceless. I swallowed my nerves and handed him round and it made their day.

It's just wierd that anyone would think there was anything wrong with leaving a sleeping baby in a pram being watched by another adult for 5 minutes under any circumstances. Worrying about a uniformed member of staff on a moving train is taking paranoia to a whole new dimension!

Blimey, I think I would have asked anyone nearby who looked reasonable! I might have chosen someone who looked like they were a mum or granny themselves, but that's more me making assumptions about middle aged businessmen not wanting to be disturbed than anything else.

However, I have seen threads like this descend into you forcing the responsibility for your child onto a stranger who doesn't know how to decline and doesn't need the extra responsibility and how absolutely awful it is for the person to be asked.

YANBU. What on earth do people think the conductor would have done to the baby?

jemima1988 "he could have been anyone"

Huh?

Theres also a differenve between asking someone and accepting help. Chances of the person you ask out of the blue being a child snatched are surely minute. Chances of someone who offers being a child snatched - still tiny but slightly higher.

If the train was moving you'd not 'lose' your baby and if someone was watching YANBU, look rationally at what the risks were, tiny miniscule amount.

I wouldn't do it myself but only because I'd worry DD would wake and cry.
I really can't see the problem in this case, train between stations so no way baby could go anywhere, baby asleep and oblivious, if baby has woken conductor could have called you on the tannoy. No problem.

My MIL left her dc on an overnight train from London to Devon, regularly. She left their prams in the guard's van and gave the guard their bottles to feed them, while she went to sit in a carriage!!! I was when she told us that.

YANBU :)

I think you were absolutley fine to do this. You told the conducter so he knew not to let the train go before you came back.

A woman did the same with DH last week actually, though her child was 2. He didn't mind at all and he spent the rest of the journey being called "Daddy" by the toddler, he also came home with a pocket full of pictures she had drawn him. Very cute!

YANBU. I've left toddler dd2 with a random lady in the seat opposite her keeping an eye while I took dd1 to the loo on a moving train, and vice versa. Seems low risk to me - nowhere to go, lots of other people.

And even though I'm keen on slings, if I had had a baby who slept in a stationary pram I wouldn't have woken them up and put them in a sling just to nip to the buffet.

" if baby has woken conductor could have called you on the tannoy. No problem."
Visions of the conductor holding the microphone up to the baby and screams echoing through the train :o knowing my luck he'd be holding it to the other end and treating us all to the sound of an exploding nappy

Tbh i dont think yabu BUT i wouldnt do it.I would of picked baby up and taken her with me,

Perfectly fine, (some) people are so over cautious these days - especially on Mumsnet.

I don't think it was fine, actually. But then I'm still mentally scarred from when I desperately needed the loo in a Tescos Express; the loo was cupboard sized so I asked the security guard to look after the buggy for 2 minutes.
When I came out (about 20 seconds later); he was over the other side of the fucking shop!! And the loo is just inside the doors; anyone could have walked off with him.

And the gobshite just shrugged when I screamed at him asked him what the hell he was playing at.

CocktailQueen how the hell did she get away with doing that? I'm astonished that the guard agreed to look after and even feed her dc!

Yanbu. I must have an honest face, I'm regularly asked to watch peoples babies- on one occasion on a plane when the Mum was poorly. She was very grateful as she couldn't take the baby with her to the loo, and I was happy as I got a cuddle from a cute baby! Not that I could have snatched it anyway, being 30000m up!

YANBU.

I don't really see how people could even bat an eyelid at this

Sounds fine to me.

I've watched handbags or babies on a train or whatever before.

There's no where to go on a moving train if he or she would have even wanted to.