To have another rant about friend's wedding

[cathyscarlett]

I posted on here recently about my friend who's getting married in November. I'm a bridesmaid, and the cost is already tipping £1,500 for each of us. She is one of my oldest friends, and she is a really lovely person, but she has become utterly self absorbed and obsessed with her wedding (which she has been planning for the past few years).

I have just received a text from another bridesmaid asking each of the six of us for £45 in order to make a 'bride goody bag' for the night before the wedding, including personalised pyjamas, make up, champagne etc. She has stated that the bride asked her to do this. It's not the cost I mind, I was planning to take champagne for the night before anyway, it's being asked to spend yet more of my money on her wedding.

AIBU to think my friend has a bloody cheek to keep continuously asking us all for more money?

Or slip in a few rogue signs for fun

When did weddings become such a palava? Especially when so divorce rates are getting higher each year (I guess).

I've just read the videographer thing....is this a joke? I can't read anymore it's the heights of cringe

Only1 is absolutely spot on isn't she op?

'Or slip in a few rogue signs for fun'

'You're acting like a fucking turnip'

You're not her friend, OP. You're her entourage, her audience, her backdrop. I can't believe she actually sees you and the other bridesmaids as people at all.

The breakdown of the £1345 costs of being her bridesmaid - the wedding isn't until November so surely some of it hasn't actually been paid out yet? How much better off would you be if you told her to feck off you couldn't be a bridesmaid?

I'm totally gobsmacked at her Love Actually pretensions. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to watch it again without thinking of this bridezilla .

I've been laughing my head off at this thread

But one thing that's struck me, is Bridezilla about 6 years old? Does she still believe in in a 'Wedding' version of Father Christmas? Hence the 'wedding eve' goody bag - including special PJs

No joke Only1, there's links to it on the net. www.youtube.com/user/Marryokes

The £200 hotel bill's one I'm in two minds about. The reception is at the hotel and the wedding party has had rooms booked in it for months already. I'm the only single one, and I don't have a +1, (I did at the beginning, but that was revoked unless I'm in a relationship and even then depending on who the relationship's with. I do realise how bad this sounds as I'm writing it down.) and there will be people there who will be getting a taxi near to where I live on the evening anyway. I'm torn between upsetting her and telling her I'm cancelling the room or just going along with it for the sake of peace and lack of confrontation.

The more I read the more the bride sounds like she's very immature all wrapped up in herself. Like she is stuck in her middle teen years where you actually believe life can be like it is in a film and your groom to be will stand and hold signs professing his love. Real married life will be a huge fall into reality. If it only lasts a year or so I hope she doesn't get a baby involved in the drama of self involved life.

Cancel the whole lot. What happiness is there for you in these shenanigans?

" I don't have a +1, (I did at the beginning, but that was revoked unless I'm in a relationship and even then depending on who the relationship's with"
Fuck me!

Cancel the room and don't tell her.

How will she notice?! She'll be so wrapped up in HER day.

She must be the looking for an award for the most self absorbed .... Entitled ....outrageous zilla of the decade....

Where's her Honeymoon

Grabsville Tennessee??

Please just tell everyone that your are done, you are not spending anymore.
tell the bride that you have to cancel as much as possible, as YOU DON'T HAVE the money, show her the list of things & prices.
Tell her that the normal etiquette is the Bride pays for xy & z
& when you accepted you really had no idea you were going to be forced to foot the bill.
Its is her wedding, not yours

Cancel the lot and book a holiday.

I've just read about your plus one being revoked, fuck me the bride's in lala land surely?

For goodness sake for your own financial wellbeing....stop indulging this vowhunter....

OMG just youtubed maryoke I would have had no wedding.........and no friends.......... The ones I saw were awkward people shuffling and eye - rolling. Who does it?

On another note CathyS are you up north? I only ask because a particularly painful work colleague is getting married in November and all I see on Facebook is wedding fair this / venue that and "only eleventymillion and one days til I'm MrsBridezilla OMG" the only thing that makes me doubt it they have only been together 2 years (unless she's been planning the wedding a lot longer than the groom! ).

Thing is, the Love Actually thing would be really sweet if your fiancé did it independently. But to orchestrate it yourself is whack!

Run run run away from this wedding, OP.

OP - why are you friends with such an awful cunt?

Can one of us come as your +1? I Am sure there are enough of us who would love to see this spectacle that you could sell raffle tickets at a quid a time and recoup your costs

This is madness. I was a bridesmaid recently, and had everything paid for, and was GIVEN a present in thanks for all I had done. There's no way her day will be all she hopes. No one day can live up to this much hype.

Gosh yes definitely cancel the room, if you can easily get home under your own steam the same night.

Op after reading the plus one latest post. Please tell me your self respect is going to launch you into a ....

"With regret zils....I'm unable to attend your circus....hope you have a wonderful show and that the rest of your performing seals do you proud'

With a recording of
"Oh happy day" attached

I'm the only single one, and I don't have a +1, (I did at the beginning, but that was revoked unless I'm in a relationship and even then depending on who the relationship's with.

Really? is anyone this dictatorial, seriously.