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AIBU?

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Original poster

to have refused this delivery after previously agreeing to take it in for a neighbour?

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LipsMovingStillTalking · 24/01/2015 15:43

I have namechanged as my neighbour may be on here.

On Saturday afternoon last week, my neighbour came round and said they were going on holiday on Monday and could I possibly take in a delivery for them which would be arriving Tuesday. I agreed happily, as I have done so before for them and they knew it wasn't one of my working days.

However, come Tuesday, the delivery arrives and its a bloody bed and mattress! At no point did my neighbour mention that this is what was arriving. Neither did I ask, but then other parcels I have taken in for them have been things like clothes and shoes etc, so I wasn't expecting anything out of the ordinary.

I simply do not have the room to store a bed and mattress for four days so I had to refuse the delivery. The two people delivering weren't happy as they had been told I would take the bed in but they obviously had no choice but to take it back. I just shut the door and went back inside stunned that my neighbour hadn't mentioned it was such a large item. The cynic in me wonders if that was exactly why they didn't say anything as surely not many people would be able to take in something like that!

This morning, my neighbour came back from holiday and popped round, clearly quite pissed off at what I had done. I made it clear that had they left me a key I would've been happy to let the delivery people in and lock up again afterwards but that I couldn't keep the bed in my house. She said she assumed I realised what the item was as she had been chatting to me outside when their existing bed had been taken away. When my neighbour left, it was quite obvious I was in the doghouse.

I know I wouldn't have been unreasonable to refuse a delivery that my neighbour hadn't asked me to take in, or even to have refused to accept it when she asked, but AIBU to have refused one that she had asked me to take in on the grounds that it was so large?

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Rosa · 24/01/2015 15:45

No you are not FGS a bed and a mattress...she should have said !!!!

Mintyy · 24/01/2015 15:46

Yanbu. Don't even give it another thought. She is quite clearly mad.

DoJo · 24/01/2015 15:50

I wouldn't expect my best friend to store a bed for me for four days, let alone someone who just happens to live near me! That was spectacularly rude of her to
a) book the delivery knowing she would be away
b) ask you to take it in without making it explicitly clear what it was
c) be pissy about it when you told her that you were unable to house a piece of fucking furniture for her

(Whilst the original phrase 'piece of fucking furniture' was intended to convey my incredulity, I also appreciate the fact that a bed it, as often as not, just that!)

notnaice · 24/01/2015 15:51

Good on you mentioning the key.

If they can't understand why you did what you did, and accept it was a misunderstanding, then they are not worth bothering about anyway.

notnaice · 24/01/2015 15:51

dojo

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 24/01/2015 15:52

bloody hell no, you were not being unreasonable.

where the hell were you supposed to store a bed and mattress for several days?

when it's a massive item, she absolutely should have told you exactly what it was.

she is being ridiculous.

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LipsMovingStillTalking · 24/01/2015 15:52

Oh thank you! I felt bad as apparently my neighbours now have nothing to sleep on tonight, but they really should've told me!

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seaoflove · 24/01/2015 15:52

A BED?

Cheeky gits.

No way would I take that in. I wouldn't have anywhere to store one!

PresidentTwonk · 24/01/2015 15:53

Is she serious!? What goes through some people's heads! If she never talks to you again you should be throwing a party!

christmaspies · 24/01/2015 15:53

You are definitel not bu. Your neighbour is.

Cornettoninja · 24/01/2015 15:53

Yanbu. I would've thought anyone asking would have been perfectly clear by saying explicitly what the delivery was for something large - you'd be checking they had the room surely??

Ignore her huff and doghouse her right back. Silly woman presuming anything, you should have offered to polish up your crystal ball and get her tonight's lottery numbers with your super psychic powers.

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LipsMovingStillTalking · 24/01/2015 15:55

at fucking furniture!

She said the delivery had to be then or they would've had to book it for this Tuesday coming and they wouldn't have had anything to sleep on, which has now happened anyway.

I still don't think that makes it my fault now! I feel bad but I didn't cause this!

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Tyzer85 · 24/01/2015 15:57

Your neighbour sounds like an idiot, of course she should have told you that it was a bed and mattress.

SoupDragon · 24/01/2015 15:58

I would have spent a single day edging my way past a bed and mattress in my hall but not 4! YANBU.

ILovePud · 24/01/2015 16:01

FFS why on earth did she think that was an appropriate favour to ask, and not even properly ask at that? No you are NBU.

Aeroflotgirl · 24/01/2015 16:02

Bloody hell the cheek of some people, of course you are not being unreasonable. What a bloody piss take, she should have been in the dog house, not you. You are not a mind reader, an object of that size, she should have said what it was, and given you the option to decline and redeliver when they are there. Don't take any more in for them, the are very entitled.

Aeroflotgirl · 24/01/2015 16:03

Tell them to go to Argos and get a blow up bed until Tuesday then, the cheeky feckers.

TheReluctantCountess · 24/01/2015 16:04

Not unreasonable of you at all to refuse. Most people would not have the space to store that.

AgentZigzag · 24/01/2015 16:08

YADNBU, especially as they expected you know it would be a bed.

Maybe they're being pissy/shitty because they're having to sleep on the floor and know it's their own fault and just took it out on you without thinking.

Hopefully they're realise it and apologise?

mysteryfairy · 24/01/2015 16:09

I'm not surprised your neighbour thinks you were unreasonable if she thinks you were aware what the item was when you agreed to accept it.

It's an unfortunate misunderstanding. The re-delivery may well cost her money. She has nothing to sleep on.

I would go and clear the air and say you honestly didn't realise and you are sorry that it's left her in an awkward position but you simply couldn't manahe it and you would hate to end up falling out over it. If you have anything you can lend her to help (air mattress?) and it's possible to offer without sounding like it's a pisstake I would.

StackladysMorphicResonator · 24/01/2015 16:11

YANBU! That's utterly ridiculous, the nerve of some people!

Fullpleatherjacket · 24/01/2015 16:11

I've read the OP like this and then this . YADNBU.

Perhaps she was hoping you'd bring it round for her as well

BaronessBomburst · 24/01/2015 16:13

She was trying it on.
A bed! Ha ha ha!
YANBU.

BackforGood · 24/01/2015 16:18

Bit of lack of communication all round. If you normally take in parcels for each other, then she specifically came round to ask, at that point I'd have said "why are you asking about this particular parcel?' and it would have come out it was because it was so big. At which point you could have suggested having her key and leaving it in her house.
Whether YWBU or not, depends on the size of the bed and the size of you hallway (or if you have a garage or side passage it would have fitted into).
To help out a friend, particularly as I had agreed to in, advance, I'd have taken it if it possibly fitted anywhere.

AcrossthePond55 · 24/01/2015 16:20

I think that if someone is asking a neighbour to take a delivery for them, they should specifically mention if it's an out-sized package (furniture or some huge ikea-sized crate), food items, or anything very fragile.

And no one should 'assume' that their neighbour knows what's being delivered just because they see something being removed! That was ridiculous on her part.

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