to have refused this delivery after previously agreeing to take it in for a neighbour?

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I have namechanged as my neighbour may be on here.

On Saturday afternoon last week, my neighbour came round and said they were going on holiday on Monday and could I possibly take in a delivery for them which would be arriving Tuesday. I agreed happily, as I have done so before for them and they knew it wasn't one of my working days.

However, come Tuesday, the delivery arrives and its a bloody bed and mattress! At no point did my neighbour mention that this is what was arriving. Neither did I ask, but then other parcels I have taken in for them have been things like clothes and shoes etc, so I wasn't expecting anything out of the ordinary.

I simply do not have the room to store a bed and mattress for four days so I had to refuse the delivery. The two people delivering weren't happy as they had been told I would take the bed in but they obviously had no choice but to take it back. I just shut the door and went back inside stunned that my neighbour hadn't mentioned it was such a large item. The cynic in me wonders if that was exactly why they didn't say anything as surely not many people would be able to take in something like that!

This morning, my neighbour came back from holiday and popped round, clearly quite pissed off at what I had done. I made it clear that had they left me a key I would've been happy to let the delivery people in and lock up again afterwards but that I couldn't keep the bed in my house. She said she assumed I realised what the item was as she had been chatting to me outside when their existing bed had been taken away. When my neighbour left, it was quite obvious I was in the doghouse.

I know I wouldn't have been unreasonable to refuse a delivery that my neighbour hadn't asked me to take in, or even to have refused to accept it when she asked, but AIBU to have refused one that she had asked me to take in on the grounds that it was so large?

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And I thought dh's bike was bad (in his defence it didn't arrive on the date he'd booked) bless em they kept it for a week

If the OP goes round to clear the air, apologise and offer her air mattresses etc mysteryfairy, it looks like she's accepting that she was in the wrong and it's her responsibility the neighbours fucked up with their delivery.

I've never heard anything so crazy! A blooming bed?! I doubt anybody has room to store a bed for four days in their house!

She deliberately didn't make it clear, because she knew damn well you'd say 'no'.
If she has to pay extra for a re-delivery it's her own blinking fault. And having no bed to sleep on, ditto.
She was trying it on, it didn't come off. Tough.

YADNBU op, and do not not not go round there trying to make peace. If anyone wants to smooth things over it should be her. But I bet she won't.
People like that only ever see things their way.
If she blanks you well and good. Who needs neighbours like that?

mysteryfairy
It's an unfortunate misunderstanding.

It doesn't sound like it.

OP said:
(before delivery)
At no point did my neighbour mention that this is what was arriving.

(after attempted delivery)
She said she assumed I realised what the item was as she had been chatting to me outside when their existing bed had been taken away.

It would have taken some effort on the neighbour's part not to mention that the delivery would be a bed and mattress. I think it's fair to assume she deliberately withheld the information.

That's crazy
Yanbu
The cheek of some people

Yadnbu

Bit of lack of communication all round. If you normally take in parcels for each other, then she specifically came round to ask, at that point I'd have said "why are you asking about this particular parcel?'

But the neighbour was going on holiday, so that would seem like a good enough reason to ask about that delivery specifically because it would be in the OP's house until their return rather than something that they would collect when they got in from work. Under those circumstances, I certainly wouldn't expect them to neglect to mention that it was a bed!

Mystery given the nature of the item, the neighbour should hae been clear about what item it was, and given the op the option of declining, she was not! Op is not a fecking mind reader. It is her fault she has nothing to sleep on, next time hopefully she will not make the same mistake.

Op should not clear any air, she has no reason to.

A bed?! Like, a double bed?! Where the Jeff did she expect you to keep it?

Mystery are you the neighbour?

I think your neighbour was being sneaky, I wouldn't ask or expect a neighbour to take in a large parcel, and I'd feel bad even if I collected it the same day. Our neighbour has done this before and I always apologise saying I'm happy to collect it from the delivery office (I drive right past it on my way home from work at it's open late several times a week).

YADNBU. If they were worried they wouldn't have a bed to sleep on when they got back from hols, they should have kept their mattress to sleep on and left it standing in their hallway (in the way) after their bed was delivered until they could dispose of it. Cheeky mare.

An unfortunate misunderstanding?! I think not!

Just because you see a bed leaving a house, you really don't make the huge leap into thinking that the parcel you are taking in is a bed! NDN should have said "now, you do realise, it's a bed, don't you? Will you have room to store it somewhere for us whilst we are away? I cannot tell you how grateful I would be and I will take in any parcels for you anytime because I know this is a big ask"

She's being ridiculous.

Bloody hell, a BED?! Where did she expect you to put it fgs? Ridiculous. I have a fairly spacious house, but there is no room for an extra bed unless it's going slap bang in the middle of the kitchen. I certainly wouldn't be lugging it upstairs that's for sure. Who organises a huge furniture order when they are not home to supervise and check it over anyway-bloody stupid.
I would go and smooth things over for neighbourly relations sake, but I wouldn't apologise.

Never assume anything.

I would have taken it in but I seem to often disagree with the majority of mumsnet that wouldn't be inconvenienced for anyone else.

You must have the room to store it for four days then SoonToBeSix?

OP didn't though.

Hmm, I'm going to stick my neck out and say YWBU.
Had this happened to me, I too would've been a bit WTF but would've worked around the monsteous inconvenience in my hall it for a few days and then had THAT conversation which went "Would've preferred it if you'd told me it was a bed and given me a key". Only because I would've made the assumption that they might not have anything to sleep on when they came back and that's just a bit grim.

Yanbu - a bed ffs! It's not your fault. You shouldn't have to ask what it is. She should have said. I assume she didn't say as u would have said no.

She shouldn't have booked it when she knew she would be away.

This is ever so cheeky xxx

I totally agree thewit, it was her own stupid fault, not op. If your having an order like that, than bloody be in to oversee it!

Nobody would "assume" that you knew it was a bloody great bed without saying so.

She knew that you would have said no if she had told you so she took the gamble that you wouldn't say no when it arrived. Utterly cheeky!

Some people genuinely do not have the space to store another bed.

She should have arranged the delivery for the day they arrived back.

YANBU.

Why the hell should op have to work round it, and inconvenience herself and her family because a cheeky neighbour thought she woukd try it on. I have a largish house, but noway would a double bed have fitted anywhere without causing great inconvenience. The neighbour should have been absolutely clear to op what it was.