To think that most people don't like having sex with overhead lights on?

[ElectraInExcelsis]

I quite like my body and it's in reasonably good shape. But I would never want to have the overhead lights on while having sex. I prefer soft lighting for obvious reasons.

Am I alone here? Or am I desperately insecure?

I have never given the lighting of the room I'm having sex in any thought whatsoever.

Maybe I'm odd!

Lighting also doesn't bother me one iota either.

Definitely agree. Too operating theatre and not flattering.

YANBU. I like all the lights off with maybe a glow from the landing. Bedside light on at the most. But then I am NOT in good shape and wouldn't want to put DH off for life!

I also feel that when I'm having sex I kind of go into myself a bit and I can't concentrate with lights full on or if my partner is taking too much.

Mind you, I was the same when I was in labour - wanted lights off and no talking. Maybe there's a connection?

Lighting doesn't bother me in the slightest. In fact, if anything, I like the full light. I like to see everything :)

Doesn't bother me - when it's on, it's on.

Yes, for some reason it's so much harder to fake an orgasm when the lights are on . . .

I'm not a fan, but it's nothing to do with insecurity. It's more that if you're in the missionary position, the glare from the bulb gets in your eyes. Daylight is fine.

Why are you faking orgasms?

We rarely have overhead lights on at all (except in the kitchen) so it would be really weird for them to be on during sex.

We have bedside lamps on and we don't hide under the covers either, never have done.

heavy workload, stress, anxiety, depression etc

Meh, I've never thought about it. I wouldn't turn them off if they were on, or the other way around. It's nice to see what's going on I suppose - or if you don't want to you can close your eyes whether the lights are on or not.

I can't stand the big light on at all. For any activity. Let alone sex. It makes me tense to have the big light on. Hate it.

Fleetfoxes!

We always have the big light on. We have no lamp in there and I don't want sex in the dark.

YANBU, I don't like bright lights on if we're having sex in our room. The lights are too bright. But then I have stupid LEDs in the ceiling -_-

I've never liked full glare on even when I was 18.

It's never bothered me. If it's on, I'm not about to stop proceedings to get up and turn it off. Likewise I wouldn't get up and turn it on either!

I take it whenever I can get it these days. Lights on/daylight whatever. It comes with the territory of shift work

Morning light or lamp light is surely preferable.

Well I don't like the big light on but then I don't really like the big light on at any time apart from sometimes when I'm eating.

I don't mind the lamp on but I prefer to just have the TV on mute in the background. I find it really hard to orgasm if I can't concentrate and the lights sort of keep me in the room rather than let me get into what I'm feeling if that makes sense?

Doesn't bother me at all. DW prefers it with the light on so she can see me in all my glory .