To think that most people don't like having sex with overhead lights on?

[ElectraInExcelsis]

I quite like my body and it's in reasonably good shape. But I would never want to have the overhead lights on while having sex. I prefer soft lighting for obvious reasons.

Am I alone here? Or am I desperately insecure?

I think that lighting a room with a central ceiling bulb makes everything look awful, either operating theatre bright, or fumble about dim. I only ever use them if I'm coming into a completely dark room and need to light my way to one of the table or floor lamps that we actually use ordinarily.

So no, would never have sex with a central overhead light on, any more than I would sit reading or eat dinner.

Depends who it is that makes me sound like a total lush. When it was guys I didn't know well when I was younger I'd definitely go for the soft lighting if available. Now with DP it's sort of a case of 'well you've seen our child come out of my vagina - if that's not put you off nothing will'

Fleet

On or off it doesn't bother me.

Huh, such a long time since I had sex I don't think electricity had been invented.

Candle light is so much more romantic

I prefer landing or very dim lighting. I have a crap body.

I don't like having the big lights on except in the kitchen and bathroom. I like lamps, much warmer. Getting into bed with the big light on would make me tense, no matter what activity was planned!

I have never given the lighting of the room I'm having sex in any thought whatsoever

Alisvolatpropiis Not stalking, honest, but I seem to remember you saying that you're in your 20s.

I dimly remember those carefree days of bright lights too. Unless there was a spot I was carefully trying to hide .

OP if you're desperately insecure then so am I. How are you about going on top and suddenly catching a glimpse of your jowls?

I too detest a 'big' light in all circumstances, which definitely includes this one.

I wouldn't be able to think straight and that wouldn't help anyone.

I hate, hate, hate overhead lights as it is, never mind getting jiggy under the full glare of one. Yuk.

No mood, no ambience - just stark light. Horrible.

I like it pitch black!

I like soft lighting, not overhead glare. We normally have sex in the daytime though (thank God for weekends and sleeping teenagers) as we're both knackered during the week.

I can count on one hand the number of times I have had sex in the light! Pitch black for me always.

I don't have body issues though it's not as good as it once was, but neither is his.

I do think I have sex issues though.

Is it daft that I almost envy those of you who say you like to be able to see what's going on?

I get distracted if the lights are on, I end up thinking about what I'm going to do tomorrow or if I need to do the washing up! Lights off or low lights are so much better and makes things feel a little bit more intimate :)

Get a dimmer switch :-)

Your pupils get bigger when you are aroused, so it is pretty common to then find that normal light levels seem super-bright and uncomfortable - nothing to do with body image.

I disagree with limiteeperiodonly that you get more insecure and hide your body more with age. It has never bothered me with any men I have been with and couldn't imagine being in a marriage where it bothered me. If someone chooses to have sex with you they should feel lucky.

I don't like the big light either. When my Mum stays, which is for about a fortnight at a time we do a passive aggressive dance of me turning the big light out, and her putting it back on because 'she can't see a thing'. This is not for sex, you understand, just watching tv and messing about on the iPad etc. but i don't like it for sex.
We aren't allowed to use the big light at her house, because of the electricity bill, but my electric and phone is supplied by elves, so it's fine.

Natural light nicer than big light, but definitely some light filtering through is quite flattering
While lights off completely seems a bit prudish in a

"Shall I lift my nightie up?"

kind of way

I don't like going on top much either, it makes me feel vulnerable.

Lol CaptainHolt

Goodness no, its darkness with candles here!

I don't think it really matters op, you're not odd for preferring soft lighting or not going on top. It's just your preferences.

To think that most people don't like having sex with overhead lights on?

True. I always go to the nearest alley.

No rooms in our house have harsh bright lights. Vile.

Reminds me of dressing smelly leg ulcers in hospital or guts on the table in operating theatre!

Lamps and candies make any human body and face look gentler and nicer and a house more a home.

Agree op.

Tiggy