Examples of weirdness from inlaws.

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Not sure if I'm posting in the right section but I'm talking about weird, unreasonable or plain bonkers behaviour from Mils, Fils, Sils....the lot.
I could write a book about mine, I don't know where to start.
One example comes to mind of Mil....she totally refused to spell any of my children's names right. When I used to tell her all she would say was "does it really matter".....
I mean what do you say to that.

*Here's an example of Mumsnet weirdness:

Nobody gets as bashed as mothers in law and midwives. Consistently.

I just don't get it.*

Probably because the bad ones infantilise or bully us at times when we're vulnerable and can't escape. Of course there are plenty of good ones too (my mother-in-law is great), but the bad ones can be really traumatising.

Thank you namechange

I did a fuming mil thread at the time asking AIBU about it and got told by sooooo many people that I was uptight and out of order!!!

They were just a few examples. She was renowned for feeding him just shit food at a very young age when she had him and she wasn't doing me a favour. She's retired and DH wanted her to be involved as she has no other grand children so I used to be 'busy' for a day, do all my shopping, work at the office etc so she could have him.

Don't get me wrong that was great but when she repeatedly would tell me as I drove her home that she didn't give him the lunch I had prepared (sandwich, yoghurt, cheese, grapes, blueberry & a little treat such as Oreo etc) she would let him eat a giant bag of quavers. That's it!

It's not like I'm a hippy that never let him have treats! She does my head in!

Did you end up letting her look after him in the end ?

My MIL wore a long white lacy dress to my wedding.

That was pretty weird.

Andy I like the sound of your MIL can we swap? I love crumpets.

When we told ILs that we were expecting a baby (after 8 years of marriage & 3 years of trying - not that any of the trying had been discussed) MIL said isn't he a clever boy referring to 38yo DH

Bloody hell some insane stories on here.

I've never met my MIL which is definitely a good thing (DH went NC because she abused him throughout childhood)

I've mentioned this on MN before but I'll never get over the time MIL did a naked dance for me.

Naked dance! Wtf!!! I would be traumertised

I've mentioned this on MN before but I'll never get over the time MIL did a naked dance for me.

are you male or female

My ex-MIL who acted like she hated me, went NC with my ex when we divorced telling him that he lost the best thing he ever had this really made me

My late MIL was a poppet and I loved her dearly, she really was the best.

It's bonkers enough if either make , female or little green alien.

I've mentioned this on MN before but I'll never get over the time MIL did a naked dance for me.
Properly the weirdest thing I've heard in a long time, Olympic gold standard weird.
You win, I wouldn't even get a runner up prize for my (lovely and much loved) ma in law who booked a night at The Ritz hotel in London for herself and her son, just a wee Sunday night jolly to a posh hotel for the two of them, sadly he couldn't go as he had no annual leave left and couldn't actually get to his work for his 8am start the next day. He was fairly baffled by the notion of him and his mum in a hotel room together.

There's definitely some bonkers ones out there. My Mil once threw a cup at me because she didn't like what I said.

Andy, your MIL sounds EXACTLY like my nanny! She's been known to offer people cake for breakfast ??

No one ever says it's 'MN weirdness' that most of the posts on the Relationships board are about partners or husbands. Why is there always this disdain about the amount of posts here about MILs? It's bound to happen.

Most of MNers are women. Most have a partner, therefore most have a MIL. Two people thrown together with nothing in common but their relationship with another person plus, from reading this thread, the seemingly inevitable power struggle some initiate and there's bound to be clashes.

Oh and I forgot to add that she's been calling me by the wrong name for the past 18 years. I don't want to out myself but it's along the lines of calling someone called Angela 'Andrea'. DH spent the first year correcting her and then just gave up.

Not so weird, but my boyfriend's mum does my head in sometimes. BF suffers from anxiety (getting better) and related depression (equally getting better). His mum knows this, dealt with it before I did. However, despite that, she seems to be able to say the most stupid things to my BF which will get his anxiety going in to overdrive. Drives me absolutely insane. I am sure one day I'll end up telling her to stop talking bollocks.

To be fair, this post is just a shameless page marker as my story is nothing compared to some of the on here.

Besides, this thread deserves nominations to be moved to MN classics. Disturbingly brilliant thread

My MIL is very religious, she has told me I will be going to hell as I don't believe in Jesus, she also told my ds the same thing when he was 2! Weird thing is she never actually asked me about my religious views just went straight to "you'll be going to hell"

When we announced our pregnancy, she said to dh "there are ways to fix this you know" ds was very much planned and wanted. Bloody bang out of order even if he wasn't.

SIL said to me when playing with 6 month old ds "won't it be lovely when me and my dh have a child, my mum and dad will be so happy to have their first real, legitimate grandchild" I never really understood that. She also said that our marriage didn't really count and ds wasn't a 'proper' grandchild as she was the oldest so was meant to get married/have children before the rest of the siblings!

One visit with dh's grandma, a family friend's daughter came up in conversation, she had qualified as a police officer, doing really well etc etc "she's a lovely girl Trujay, she's the girl I wanted dh to marry. She's currently single too" Dh and I were married and expecting ds, very bizarre!

We have had so many fall-outs with his family but are now finally at a good place with them all, hopefully it will last!

I get on really well with MIL, NOW. It's taken A LONG TIME. (8 or 9 years to be precise!)

DS1 was born extremely prematurely (16 weeks early) and was in NICU for a long time. We were about 3.5 months into our NICU stay and she turned up one day (planned visit) whilst I was feeding him and then started winding him. Apparently I was winding him "the wrong way, and you'll never get him to burp". I explained that no it wasn't the wrong way, it was the right way for a tiny prem as I needed to see the colour of his face whilst I was doing it (he'd grown to about 4lbs by then but still regularly turned blue, especially when feeding/being winded). She decided to ignore everything I'd just said, snatched him from me, threw him over her shoulder and started thumping away on his back like you might with an older and much more robust baby....maybe! Anyway he turned blue virtually instantly, stopped breathing, all his alarms went off, two midwives raced over, re-booted him etc etc etc - - - - and she beamed, handed him back to me and said "there you go - he's burped!" !!!!!!

Jesus please tell me the nurses said something !!

I had the 'you shouldn't be getting married before older sibling' thing too, my husband is the youngest, and first one married!

We had a stay at the IL's with our dog. I took him out for a walk and MIL opened the door to us when we got back. She bent down to talk to the dog: "Did you have a good walk? Where did you go?" etc, then stood aside to let him in, and shut the door in my face.

FWIW, I have a 3yo DS. If/when I'm a MIL, I plan to be an utter bitch. Whoever he/she is, he/she will not be good enough for DS.