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Examples of weirdness from inlaws.

356 replies

lovelydoggies · 17/01/2015 23:56

Not sure if I'm posting in the right section but I'm talking about weird, unreasonable or plain bonkers behaviour from Mils, Fils, Sils....the lot.
I could write a book about mine, I don't know where to start.
One example comes to mind of Mil....she totally refused to spell any of my children's names right. When I used to tell her all she would say was "does it really matter"Shock.....
I mean what do you say to that. Confused

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Cocolepew · 18/01/2015 01:18

Sorry for multiple posts, my phone is playing up.
She was eventually comitted to a psychriatic ward for weeks.
I still dont know if she has mental gealth problems or is just an evil, manipulative cow. She has pretended to have MH issues to get DH to go and she her.

Marylou62 · 18/01/2015 08:43

Not my MIL, my Dms MIL...She nagged my DM to be able to take me and my DB (approx. 6 months and 18 months) out for the day...DM said no but eventually after my Dad intervened she took us to the beach...we got very wet and were then left in a big pram out side a pub, in the dark, till a policeman found us crying and miserable...GM drunk in the pub...Mum was absolutely beside herself and reunited with us next morning...Then my Dad got why DM had said no...
My own MIL was a saint compared with her..

SunshineBossaNova · 18/01/2015 08:55

My XMIL sent me an anniversary card two weeks after I'd left her abusive tosser of a son.

squaretoes · 18/01/2015 08:56

When DD was born, my MIL sent us a card which said 'congratulations on the birth of Elizabeth'. DD is called Sophia.

When SIL had DN she sent her a card with the wrong dob on she has issues with cards.

GoodbyeToAllOfThat · 18/01/2015 08:59

Jesus Coco, I think you win the weird MIL award. Does she have a relationship with your husband?

youarekiddingme · 18/01/2015 09:04

coco has yiur crazy MIL taken over yiur phone?!

Royalsighness · 18/01/2015 09:05

COCO! OMG!

My FIL said, while i was in the room holding my 5 week old son "do you think if Royal died that DS would remember her? He wouldn't would he? He could just come and live with us"

And when I had a suspected miscarriage last year (baby hung in there as I'm still pregnant) MIL pulled me to one side and said "has it come out yet? You will probably find bits come out like arms and legs, some people just can't make babies"

SHE USED TO BE A MIDWIFE!

LumpySpacedPrincess · 18/01/2015 09:09

When mil met me for the first time she was horrified as I have ginger hair and apparently all women with ginger hair are evil witches. Confused

We stayed with sil and bil once never, ever again. They got really drunk and started pulling each other around on the floor doing rolly pollies and farting, which they thought was hilarious. I did not think it was hilarious.

Cubee · 18/01/2015 09:11

Ds was about 10 months old, dh worked away m-f while I was at home with the baby (breastfeeding, no sleep, struggling through on my own), and I worked just one day - Saturday. Dh had baby on Saturdays. He took ds to visit ILs. They had a friend round. MIL told friend "John is so good with the baby. He does everything, and cares for the baby all of the time, even though his wife doesn't work. She does nothing for the baby, it's all John".
DH told me this, backed up by his brother. But they both found it funny! I was furious.

CombineBananaFister · 18/01/2015 09:11

Shock ROYAL !!! Iam never going to moan about my mardi mil again - it's lightweight compared to these posts

happystory · 18/01/2015 09:14

Omg royal that's horrendous

CombineBananaFister · 18/01/2015 09:15

Cubee your DH really needs to learn 'when not to share' Wink. My Dh doesn't tell me stuff Mil has said anymore if I don't need to hear it, I don't get irritated and we don't row and he has to deal with the passive aggressive crap = win/win Grin

Cubee · 18/01/2015 09:17

Wow Royal amd Coco have some shockers!

(Mine should say GMIL - MIL is actually pretty nice)

Costacoffeeplease · 18/01/2015 09:27

When we announced our engagement my MIL said 'I hope you're not going to wear white?' I was 21 and we didn't even live together!

Notagainmun · 18/01/2015 09:39

DH bumped into my SIL's friends husband one day. He said how lucky we were that SIL was so good to us. Apparently she came from work every day to our house and had take over care of the children, feed them bath them put them to bed etc and she baby sat loads because we went out lots. We were young and daft she told him.

DH was jumping. He told him the truth and that if anyone babysat it was Nots mum and sister. I could count one one hand the times I went out when DC were little and I was 26 and DH was 30 when DS2 was born. He also went and put his sister straight.

Not sure why she said those things as I often took the DC to visit MIL and SIL was always there as she has never had a partner or much money so always lived with her mum. It is not as if she had little contact and we had always got on fine up until then.

Idontseeanysontarans · 18/01/2015 09:40

Costa my MIL said the same when we got engaged Grin
We were living together with DS so in a traditional sense I suppose she had a point ...
She wept when she realised I was not going to carry on BFing.
Complained that DH was not marrying a local girl (parents grew up 20 miles away).
Calls me wilful on a regular basis to this day - 18 years after I started to date her son.
We actually get on very well 90% of the time, we just find each other odd Grin

LornMowa · 18/01/2015 09:41

When DH and I got married and moved in together, MIL bought DH some new passion killer, high percentage polyester, open fly type pyjamas. She sewed name tapes into them.

Don't know if she thought I would mix them up with PJs belonging to my other lovers!

Spadequeen · 18/01/2015 09:46

Wow! There are some nutters out there!

Theboodythatrocked · 18/01/2015 09:47

Good god!!!

Just to balance my mil was ace and my stbdil is lovely and we love her very much.

Theboodythatrocked · 18/01/2015 09:48

Her own mother on the other hand is nutty as squirrel poo.

Theboodythatrocked · 18/01/2015 09:49

Name tapes Grin

Nocturne123 · 18/01/2015 09:51

Oh dear lord some of these are horrific . I have nothing quite so crazy just a weird obsession of my in laws to compare dd constantly to sil .

Dd likes to play with my make up brush after seeing me do it I guess. When FIL saw this they said oh sil she'll be just like you . She'll be very glamorous. " We know who that'll be after" ... Weird!!

Firstly dd is 20months .. The word glamorous is a ridiculous word to use in describing dd and secondly , I wear make up ! I make an effort and surely dd is more likely to take after her mother ( or father) than sil . I find this weird.

I should let it go but it irritates me . As does printing out photos I've taken of my Dcs and framing them in their house even though they've a million of them .

Petty yes ... Irritating , definitely

Roomba · 18/01/2015 09:54

My exMIL always bought me clothes for Xmas and birthdays, and often as random gifts. This was lovely as she always got me stuff that I liked, but she started getting really funny if I visited wearing something that I had bought for myself. She's say, 'Is that top the one that I got you for Christmas? I don't remember that one?' and when I said that it was one I'd bought, she'd say 'Oh' is this weird flat voice then barely talk to me for the next hour. Very strange indeed!

Midori1999 · 18/01/2015 09:59

It's not anywhere near as bad as some of the stuff on here, but DH's grandmother, after I'd had a horrendous pregnancy eventually resulting in the premature birth at 24 weeks of twin girls who died shortly after birth and at 9 days old and then had two early miscarriages after that, as if it wasn't bad enough on it's own, said 'well, there aren't any miscarriages in our family'.

LennyCrabsticks · 18/01/2015 10:06

My SIL is amazingly hard work.

She was invited for our first Boxing Day at our first house together with her dh (DH's brother) and then infant son. She accepted the invitation but then went on and on and on for months that they may not be able to come because of his routine, they wouldn't stay long if they did, etc.

On the day, she didn't turn up. BIL came and brought the baby. They stayed all day.

Months later he let slip that the reason she couldn't come was because we lived in a house (bought it that November) and they lived in a small flat.

A couple of years after that I turned 30 and invited everyone to a James Bond themed party. Not everyone cup of tea but I wanted cocktails and glamour. Everyone wore black tie. Except SIL who came in a track suit with unwashed hair and no makeup.

The bizarrest part of that is that she is very very polished the rest of the time, never without makeup and accessories. I never found out why she did that.

She declined the spa part of my hen do saying that the £60 was too expensive. Which I was totally fine with until she met us in the evening for the pub part and went on and on and on at great length about the new top she was wearing which had cost her £60.

And then she turned her back in the group photo.

There's loads more.

I have distanced myself now.