Examples of weirdness from inlaws.

[lovelydoggies]

Not sure if I'm posting in the right section but I'm talking about weird, unreasonable or plain bonkers behaviour from Mils, Fils, Sils....the lot.
I could write a book about mine, I don't know where to start.
One example comes to mind of Mil....she totally refused to spell any of my children's names right. When I used to tell her all she would say was "does it really matter".....
I mean what do you say to that.

Please can I exhumed this thread? I haven't seen anything like it in a while!

My exFIL never allowed me or my DD (his Granddaughter!) into his & MUM's house as exDP & I weren't married! Family only apparently. God knows what DD is to him then! 🤷

*exhume

20 years ago, MIL called all her children into a room at a family party and announced that she had terminal cancer. Group by group she called in her family/siblings and told them. All her children crying, family distraught.

It turned out it was a lie.

We are now NC for last few years as are most of her kids. Vile woman and not the only lie she’s told over the years.

A few months after I was raped, my DH told his DF as he needed to talk to someone too. Next day, I went round and MIL cornered me by the ironing board and told me all about this great book she was reading and read passage aloud to me - a graphic depiction of rape.

Less weird, than actually cruel really, but I was so taken aback that I couldn't reply.

It felt, and still feels, a lot like not fighting back though I wanted to.

My FIL asked me how my stitches were a week after birth, he's a really lovely chap and not at all creepy so not sure where it came from! I just said fine thanks...

My MIL is lovely, but there was a bit of an adjustment period as my DH had never had a serious gf before me really. In fact I do wish she would text me more often or occasionally chat to me on the phone when she calls DH as my relationship with my own mum is quite distant.

My ex MIL was a very very difficult woman and had definite boundary issues. Whenever we stayed with her she would burst into the room at random times without knocking, once at 2am, which scared the life out of me. She would let herself into the house and rearrange stuff and once when we were on holiday she repainted the living room as she didn't like the colour. She also insisted on picking the wedding menu, there are only three foods I really don't like and she made sure they featured in all three courses so I didn't eat at my own wedding. That was back when I was much younger and trying so hard to get on with my ex's family, again because my own is difficult

My mil is lovely thank god but my ex's mum used to always talk to me about how wonderful my ex's previous partner was, so pretty, clever, funny, smart and would visibly get the hump with me when I just smiled and nodded and didn't get wound up by it. so weird . My ex would just act like it was a normal conversation to have.

My ex mil once told me how lucky I was because she had seen my husbands penis when he was getting out of the shower once.

When the midwife would call after I had my first child she would shout from the other room "ask her about your stitches" even the midwife spoke to her!

She told me it wasn't as special when your son had a child compared to her daughter.

Loads.......she is a mad bastard.

My FIL walked in on me and my then DP DTD (very obviously) and just stood there having a whole conversation with us as we desperately tried to cover up!
My MIL is another of these obsessed with her sons. If things don't go her way she literally screams, no words just screaming. She blamed me for her 2nd son, my dps brother, blocking her on Facebook. I'd met him about 3 times.
She pinches my dps arm and tells me I'm not feeding him enough. Told me I'm wasteful because I refused to reheat food with mold on it.
She tried to turn up at my labour despite being told a number of times we wouldn't be accepting visitors for a few days because "oh I didn't think it was serious, I just thought it was something witsend wanted and you're my son"
Calls my ds her child, her boy and has referred to herself as mummy to him.
Told me I "wasnt allowed" to have a natural birth when I asked her to elaborate she just said it wouldn't be happening because she said so.
She also insists on messing with me when I'm breastfeeding - yanking my top up, covering D's with a scarf/napkin/thick wool blanket. She also told me I shouldn't be sat in my own house breastfeeding because the curtains were open.
When we moved away for my dps work she bought him a sign saying "you may not be near but you will always return because this is where your heart is, this is your home"
Yeah, I could go on but 🤷

Unhinged people! I’m questioning myself now lol

Not really. My ex MIL was just mean. Nothing specific just mean.

My late MIL was amazing though. I miss her SO SO much, she taught me how to be a great MIL and I get on brilliantly with my own DILs. I love them. They love my sons, they are brilliant mothers and are great on boozy girls nights out lol.

I also have an ex DIL who is lovely too lol.

Warning...this is v offensive...
My 1st MIL on meeting me said "Oh you're a Southerner. I suppose that's 1 step up from going with a black woman"
2nd MI, peering into pan "I dont want to eat that. It will give me diarrhoea." Luckily I never have to see 1st ever again and 2nd lives in New Zealand

current MIL is a dream. absolute angel. ex MIL however was awful. When DD was born I had a bad birth, 27 hour labour and emergency c section at 2am. I lost a lot of blood and had to have a transfusion, so we held off visitors that first morning. She arrived at 7pm visiting time, with my parents all together, and complained and refused to hold DD as she hadnt got to see her sooner! Never once asked how I was.

She forgot DDs first birthday (despite us having a party ON THAT DAY). She then told all the other party guests that it wasnt even DDs real birthday and that was tomorrow. . When I confirmed to someone that "no, its today" she argued with me and called me a liar. I got DDs birth certificate (it was only upstairs) and she said they must have got it wrong as she was born at 2am so clearly they didnt realise the date was wrong.

She wanted to have DD 5 days a week from birth as thats what she had done for her other 2 DILs children. I said no, i would be taking full maternity leave. all hell broke loose. She spent the first 6 months of DDs life begging to have her "alone" and an overnight stay. Eventually caved and she began having DD for 2 hours a week on a Wednesday 9am-11am. She ignored everything I said. Would change DD into clothes she had bought the minute I dropped her off. Would then change her back into my clothes before I collected her. She would steal items of DDs clothes from her changing bag and leave them lying around her house or hang them on her washing line. Later found out she was telling people DD was there 5 days a week. Also had an odd fascination with ignoring the home made food I made DD and feeding her tins of Heinz baby food instead. Apparently she could get them on sale so that made it ok.

She would buy toys and clothes for DD but left them at her house and they were not allowed to leave. But then would get the hump if I tried to gift or sell the old toys and gifts at my house (that I had bought) as "Nanny has nothing for her at my house" and it was selfish of me not to share.

She gave DD £20 on birthdays and christmas. absolutely fine and very grateful. When BIL (her other son) had DN him and his wife lived in the US (we are UK). My DD was 9 by then and MIL declared to her that "DN isnt my real grandson. I dont know him because he lives so far away. We will never have a real bond". She then upped my DDs birthday and christmas to £40 and kept DN on £20. She refuses to see DN when hes over (hes a lovely little boy) and slates their parenting. All because they dont live here. She also likes to plan big events like days out for all her GC for the week before DN arrives for his holidays, twice a year like clockwork. Last year I said we were busy for the Christmas one and could she make it the week after (knowing DN was home then). She said no and pushed it BACKWARDS to November, rather than just move it forward to include DN.

Led everyone to believe she had paid for DDs christening and 1st birthday parties but never contributed a penny (we didnt need it). Would make comments like "ooh, with Nanny around you wont go short" and "nothing but the best for Nannys little one" to people at both parties. Also told a group of my work colleagues that she had just received a pension payout and "it comes in handy for events like today. no budget or expense spared!".

She had a wierd obsession with sticking her finger in DDs mouth, shouting about "checking for peggies". She would stroke her dog then stick her finger in. I asked her not to several times and she ignored me repeatedly.

Everytime I saw her she would repeat "I was there for Xs birth. and Xs. That what Nannies do, they attend the births" like I was an idiot who didnt know this was a worldwide rule. Needless to say she WASNT present for the birth. One DD was born she would repeat "I have the first locks of Xs hair. And Xs. I have the first curls. Because thats what Nannies do. They get the first curls". over and over and over. Guess what else she didnt get?!

Loads more. Im no longer with ex DH so I dont have to deal with her much anymore but I hear her oddities from DD.

Heaven help,us, so many batshit/just plain vile MiLs!

Must have been so,lucky with my lovely MiL (RIP) - after all boys and a very 'male' household, she was so grateful for someone who'd take the slightest interest in her new kitchen curtains.

Yes he did. Snape called Lily a "filthy Mudblood". HTH.

Well wrong thread

MIL does not believe I am legally married to her son and that I changed my name by deed poll.

When I first met her she told DH that he had never had a GF with such small boobs and that I had nice child bearing hips (cheers).

Again first time of meeting asked me how tall I was (5"6) and then told me I was wrong as she was 5"6 and was taller than me even though I could clearly see over her head...she then measured me to see. I was shocked and didn't say anything at the time but did manage to say when she confirmed I was indeed 5"6 that maybe she had shrink with old age.

Showed me her c section scar from where she gave birth to her boy and she had a dress on at the time. Gross.

When I told her my dad had died she told me that it was okay as we weren't that close anyway.

And the cherry on top is!

As myself and DH aren't sure about children yet she has told people I actually can't have children so that when DH meets someone else he can have them.

I have been NC for almost a year now..its bliss!

My MIL is wonderful. Her MIL, however, is a whole different ballgame.

She recently told FIL's care home (he has dementia) that MIL was planning to divorce FIL so all information and questions about his care should go through her.

At Christmas last year she announced that since FIL was in the care home there "was no real need" for MIL to attend Christmas dinner with "FIL's family" - that would be Christmas in our house, MIL's son's house, with her two sons and her various grandchildren.

Also back when the in-laws were getting married the wedding was in MIL's hometown about 25 miles from FIL's. DH's Granny decided she wasn't going about a week before and called the minibus company and cancelled them (PIL were paying, not her). She told them the wedding had been cancelled. She didn't tell anyone she'd done it so on the morning of the wedding FIL's family were all hanging around and had to scramble taxis and cars last minute.

Ok this comment got me thinking: ^^

@seaoflove

My FIL is a boorish arsehole and turned up, unannounced and uninvited, at the hospital shortly after I'd given birth to DD. We were told that visiting hours started at 3pm, and relayed this message. He took it upon himself to ring the hospital, was told 1pm, so he just decided to arrive at 1pm.

I'd needed surgery to repair a third degree tear, and had JUST been allowed out of recovery and down to the ward when he arrived. He went on and on and ON about how wrong we had been about the visiting hours, and complained that no one could tell him which ward I was on when he arrived. Yes, because I wasn't on a fucking ward yet!

I was shell shocked and in pain and he sent DH away. He tried to get him to go home but I shot him a look saying "Don't you fucking dare" so he compromised and went to the canteen. FIL then held the baby and coughed all over her while we sat in an uncomfortable silence punctuated with stupid questions like "Did it hurt?"

If there was anyone on the planet I wanted to see less at that precise moment, it was FIL. He just wanted to be the first to see the baby.

I eventually texted DH and informed him that if he didn't get back pronto I would kill him. His only option was to take FIL to the canteen to get him away from me so they both went back to the canteen, leaving me alone. I was in SUCH a state and needed DH so badly.

FIL basically stole a couple of hours of time we should have had together and alone as a couple. I will never, ever forgive him.

**I agree your father in laws behaviour wasn’t respectable, but your husband is an adult and if not offending his father (which would be unreasonable on his fathers part if he was offended) came first over being with his vulnerable wife, then that’s your husbands problem and in that situation I’d have told my husband to fuck off with his father. I’m very shocked you’re solely blaming your FIL when it was your husband who left you alone and could have said that he needed to be with you.

Ok, off the top of my head:

MIL used to show up at our door with bags of unnecessary fruit because 'you don't feed my DS properly'. He was 29.

She showed up with builders to install a new shoe cupboard that we neither wanted or needed. It didn't fit in the space (she hadn't measured) so she told them to go ahead and carve out the wall to make it fit.

On a different occasion she decided to ask random Polish builders to put up a fence in our garden while we were away. They couldn't get it done in one day so she told them it was fine to stay unattended in our house overnight. My passport and some cash was missing on our return.

She refused to allow me my newborn DS1 back when he was bfing because 'you don't know how to look after him.' No shit!

She threatened to disown my DH when he told her he was moving in with me, then again when he told her he was going to propose and is now confused as to why I don't feel 'like part of the family'.

There's so bloody many! Also she has a disabled badge that her friend (with a legitimate illness) applied for so that she can park in disabled bays, which boils my piss.

Oh jeez I didn’t realise how old some posts were 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

I didn’t know a word played in Scrabble so my MIL told me that if I had ‘just read ALL the books’ maybe I would have known it. All the books! (It’s an old British word and I am not British.)

When the word came up in a book 3 years later I took a screenshot and sent it to a friend announcing that I was done reading, I had read all the books.

Ooh, forgot - the mad woman once (out of the blue) applied for US green cards for herself, FIL, my DH and my kids. Not me.

'It's just in case!' she said. 🤔

Placemarking for a good read later

My Mil offered to come and look at flower girl dresses with me for my five year old niece and my SIL, I let my niece pick which dress she liked out of an option on three, she chose I was happy, my niece was very happy! MIL kindly offered to store the dress at her house, great I thought... fast forward two weeks later she returned the dress and bought the one she liked, I was so cross and still am 6 years later. Our relationship has never been the same again.

My Mil bought me a baby blue Teddy Blair all in one sleepsuit with padded feet. Some of you may remember babies wearing them in the 70's/80's.It had a teddy bear badge on the chest.