Examples of weirdness from inlaws.

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Not sure if I'm posting in the right section but I'm talking about weird, unreasonable or plain bonkers behaviour from Mils, Fils, Sils....the lot.
I could write a book about mine, I don't know where to start.
One example comes to mind of Mil....she totally refused to spell any of my children's names right. When I used to tell her all she would say was "does it really matter".....
I mean what do you say to that.

My FIL used to "accidentally" walk in on me whilst I was undressing - dh (then my fiancé) was living with his parents at the time. He also stared at my tits a lot and kept trying to hug me and kiss me on the lips.

When I had severe morning sickness throughout my pregnancy, he thought it funny to try and make me vomit by showing me a cut on his leg, describing a rich meal he had eaten or thrusting a bucket of dog poos (collected from his garden - he has four dogs) in my face.

When I felt faint following his successful attempts to nauseate me, he thought it would be hilarious to whip out his camera and photograph me.

His family think he is adorable. I think he is a disgusting bell end.

My MIL refused to tell her df while he was very ill not long before he passed that her son and I were expecting their first grandchild because we weren't married .
Nothing compared to the stories here but I always thought it was a bit strange.

oooh thought of another one of my IL's!

They always give us fruit. Always. Whereas most people, upon giving a present, would give wine, chocolates, flowers or such, they will give us fruit. Not a fruit basket or a 'look at these great strawberries we passed on the way up at a side-of-road stall' type thing, oh no. Just common or garden fruit.

I'm not complaining, I like fruit. But it's a bit odd.

One time they asked DH to meet them as they were going on a cruise for a month and asked him to see them off. And as a leaving gift they gave him an apple. It wasn't a posh one or a rare type, just a braeburn.
Last time they came over I got a kiwi. Times before we've had bunches of grapes and a plum.

I'm always tempted to ask them for avocados (my fave) instead but I don't want to come across as ungrateful!
One time I asked DH if they go 'all out' at xmas and give him a pineapple or a melon but he didn't appreciate the joke

AndyWarhol I can imagine that would get wearing but my MIL is the complete opposite until dinner time then it's as you say, do you want another xyz? More abc? But from getting up till 8pm she seems to think any food is being greedy. Well, she hasn't said that but that's how she makes me feel with her comments and offers.

Breakfast when we stayed over Christmas was one slice of medium sliced (so thin) toast. I had to ask for spread for it as she thought I'd want it dry (I appreciate I have awful pregnancy sickness at the moment but probably best to ask what I fancy rather than make me feel like a glutton and asking if I'm sure!) Lunch was a Rich Tea biscuit. Just the one.

By the time I got to my parents' house who'd laid on a huge buffet for the family I couldn't eat anything but plain crisps because my blood sugar level had got so low just the thought of eating anything made me nauseous. And the one good thing about the cyclizine I'm on is that it has helped me eat more normally than my previous pregnancy.

When we lived with my PIL they never had anything in the fridge which you could make into a lunch. They don't eat lunch only breakfast and dinner so made me feel greedy when I bought foods which I could then make into a lunch. If we go out for lunch with them it's a late lunch (which suits DD's naps) say 2.30/3pm then they don't have any dinner in the evening. They just have 2 meals a day. Which is fine (although she's a size 6/8 and has type 2 diabetes so snacks on Rich Tea biscuits ) but it's 'normal' to have 3 meals a day so why make me feel greedy for doing so?!

Other gems including putting soiled nappies in our recycling bin , using an apple corer to grate cheese (!), using DD's play cups, plates and saucers off her toy kitchen as real food/drink receptacles (despite a whole cupboard dedicated to DD's plastic crockery) and wedging unbagged wet nappies between the washing machine and tumble drier (she's looked after DD for a day a fortnight for a year and yet still claims not to know where the nappy bags are kept - in the nappy drawer, with the nappy you got out )

I've started keeping notes so I can remember all the weirdness as when DH gets home he likes to settle down with a cuppa and listen to what his mother has done today. I'm allowed one rant session and then if I remember anything else later I'm not allowed to start on her again. I think that's fair as no one likes to hear ill of their mother but I really need to get her weirdness off my chest! And he does chuckle as I try and make it humour out rather than just a bitching session. He's even started to make jokes in other situations like (puts on his mum's accent) "I couldn't find the so I used the !

Ex MIL, wanted everything I had, when we got keys to our first house, she said we could have their house and all furniture in it if we gave her this house?? WTF? of course I ignored that - but everytime I got a new item of furniturere- eg, fridge, sofa, telly she would rush straight out to buy one too-
It came to a head, when my & EXH, divorced, he bought me out the house, of couse he then sold it to her, she moved in, and EXH stayed there too, living in same house , paying her 'board'money to live in his own house, with the money off the house all in his 'back pocket'!
They are still there now, so when my Dc visit their GP they are going to their old house- My DC all say it looks shit now and its down the fact she doesnt/cant copy of me any more LOL!!!!

wedging unbagged wet nappies between the washing machine and tumble drier

What the actual fuck?

When my parents got engaged, my DDad gave my DM a beautiful engagement ring - a large diamond with a smaller diamond on either side.

His mother promptly went out and bought herself the same ring. Except BIGGER.

nothing too bad here, but my IL's don't seem too keen on me, I'm not sure why.

visiting them consists of standing in their kitchen while MIL chain smokes (yuck). they don't really speak much to me apart from the odd line of strained small talk.

DH and I got married last year. After we told them they didn't mention it once in the run up to the wedding. They then turned up to the registry office ten minutes late. Afterwards they didn't congratulate us/me, but sat in the corner, drank double vodkas like they were going out of fashion til 830 pm, then left, without telling us they were leaving.

there house is brimming with photos of their other 2 DC's who they don't speak to but only 1 of my DH (the only one they still speak to) who constantly runs after them and does them favours.

whenever I suggest to DH that they don't have much time for me, he says I'm being silly and it's nothing personal, "just the way they are".

Trying to swap houses! wtf?

My friend was moving to a bigger house years ago , they were new builds, detached 4 bedrooms.

Her mum then came to see the one next door and wanted to buy it but didn't in the end. She had a 3 bed bungalow told my friend she wanted to move because a child shouldn't have a bigger house than their parents .

Anytime friend bought something for the house or decorated etc her mum did the same.

One night me and ex p had sex in bed (in our own home) then came downstairs to find ex FIL sat on the sofa watching TV! He had just walked in! on another occasion about 3-4 weeks before me and exp split up, exp went out for breakfast with fil and as I needed the car to run an errand at the same time FIL picked him up, I got home and got changed into Pj's for a lazy day, PJ's consisting of a long t shirt and knickers,i was sat on the sofa with my thong on full display (no problem in my own home, or so i thought!) then xp walked in with fil behind him so I said "Ex I'm not decent let me chuck some bottoms on and then come in" ex tried to hold him off but fil just went "oh thats no bother love!" and walked in anyway ranting about his car insurance company I hid what was left of my pride under a blanket and just sat there glaring at fil!
When me and ex first got together(about 3 months into our relationship)upon meeting FIL for the second time BIL was in the house,I'd gone out and gone shopping for myself, BIL made a jokey comment of "ahhh thats girls from cardiff for you! shop till you drop" he meant nothing by it then fil came back with was "well the difference is most cardiff girls earn their own bloody money".... I still have zilch idea what he actually meant by that but i was really offended!
Me and ex had a miscarriage within 8 months of being together (I was only 18 at the time, unplanned pregnancy but still devastated) I then got pregnant again at the end of last year, we were discussing how we'd need a larger car as we only had a 3dr citreon, FIL then went "dont go spending too much money now..."
I asked why and he said "Well the nipper might die...." I was like O.O why would you even say that. we swapped for an Audi A4, best thing i've ever done but i still wonder why on earth fil would come out with something like that. me and ex have been split for about a week now but im glad im shot of his family at the very least!

OhFour

Seaoflove my best friend pissed herself when I told her that too! That's the washing machine and tumble drier which are themselves just feet away from two bins. The little bin under the sink (literally next to the washing machine) for smelly stuff like tea bags and food waste and the big pedal bin for stuff like non recyclable food packaging. She had her pick of two bins and chose to stuff the wet nappy between two appliances. Two bins I might add which she has known about for the year she's been looking after DD and two bins I pointed out to her when she used to put the nappy bags in our recycling box (which is literally next to the pedal bin!) We do not have a large cavernous kitchen; it's about 10ft square including cabinets. It's not malicious it's just plain weird!!

Thought of another - not about my own MIL for a change.

My DM's MIL i.e. my dad's mum/my grandma didn't even go to my parent's wedding because my DM was the 'wrong' religion. Which I didn't know about till after she attended my DSis's wedding in the church of the same religion as our DM. And she attended all our weddings in that same religion's church. But didn't go to her own son's. Bizarre. DGF nearly didn't go but snuck in at the last minute against DGM's wishes.

FreeWee My Great Aunt did that as well. Wouldn't go to her son's wedding as it wasn't a 'real' wedding in a registry office. Wouldn't go to her other son's wedding as it was the 'wrong' religion. Went to my parents wedding which was also in the 'wrong' church. So ok to put a smile on her face for her niece, but not her own children.

My XMIL was wierd. Just to the point her priorities seemed wrong. Looking back I think it was controlling. Interestingly my XStepFIL seemed to have great respect for me and treated me extremely well.
It's interesting because he's spanish (Canarian) and her English. They seem to exist in 1950's still where the woman's job is at home and they were treated like the weaker sex/ lower priority etc. MIL was full of cutting remarks for me if we needed childcare because our shifts clashed or when I said something once about being tired. Her helpful comment was "I know - I was a single mum too". Not once did she expect her DS to step up to being a dad. His StepDF though pulled him straight more than once!
I will mention I was a single parent because her DS cheated on me. It wasn't exactly my fault I was a LP!

She also insisted on buying things she said DS loved. How she knew I don't know as he couldn't talk! She insisted on buying him baby food in jars at 16months and feeding him it as its his 'favourite'. When actually he'd have prefer thicken chips and peas!

Nothing as bad as some stories here but there was a definite and obvious presence in the air that she felt if I didn't do it her way I was wrong. In hindsight I'm not sure the fact StepFIL told them I was more than capable and treated me with the intelligence I deserve actually helped!

This is not my MIL but my DM. Me and dp(now DH) were thinking of getting engaged. I confided in her that I wanted a particular style ring. She then immediately went out and got my DF to buy her the exact style ring I had said (and its an unusual style) and paraded at a family party saying it was a 25th anniversary present (2 and 6months years before her 25th anniversary!). My dp in the end got me a different style ring. I love it but still!

I'm in NI and my maiden name was Irish/Celtic type. First dayfof half term holidays and having a nice lie in, MIL (to be then) came banging on my door at 8 o'clock. When I opened the door she barged in and wanted to know if I had "any Papal blood in me" .
Then sat down and told me to make her a cup of tea because we "had things to talk about".
I was back in bed by 8.10

lomega Tue 20-Jan-15 21:13:35

wonderful eccentricity there.

Some of these stories are mouth droppingly awful. Seems like there are quite a lot of mothers who have unhealthy relationships with their sons.
No wonder there are a lot of grown men behaving like children out there!

There was a gripping mini series on about three years ago called The little House.
I think it was shown again recently on ITV 3. It was about a women obsessed with her son, who became seriously unhinged when precious son met a women and got married.
It was actually quite scary but in a good way
Some of the posts on here made me think of it!

Some of these are extraordinary - thank heavens I married a foreigner so my MIL is safely abroad

Mind you, my own DM is absolutely bonkers to make up for it.