MIL going to christening she is not invited to...

[pepperfish]

MIL is the true definition of overbearing, but today was quite a cracker, even for her!

So she was telling us today that she's off to a family christening that she's not invited to. Christening is due to be small and personal with just Grandparents and a few friends from what I hear. We know she's not invited because she has been quite vocal about how much she dislikes the mother of the baby and that she's 'a mental case'. She refuses to call the baby by the proper name as she hates it, and if she has to say it, it's said with a sarcastic tone, even in front of the parents. She's already been to visit the baby (4 hour round trip) after being asked not to as it wasn't convenient and received an icy shoulder from the mother, and awkward one from the father, much to her disgust.

The christening is in a different country and shes actually gone and booked flights and a hotel.

DH and I were totally and .

AIBU to be giddily awaiting the resulting fireworks?!

8 years of biting my lip at all the daft and insensitive things she's done for DH's sake. This is going to be good.

To answer JoanHickson's query:

What kind of person behaves like that on a special day of an innocent child.

I offer this:

HTH

I thin part of the Ireland/UK cultural difference on funerals, Icimoi, is maybe in the definition of 'family and friends' - which, in my experience, is far wider in Ireland, extending to people attending the funeral of someone they never personally met because they know one of the dead person's family. Like my example up the thread of childhood neighbours of my mother's (and my mother left her birthplace to move to a city forty plus miles away in 1963 - my grandfather died in 1989) finding someone else to do the milking and getting into clean clothes and driving forty miles to the funeral of a man they met once in 1971. Some of them came both to the removal and to the funeral itself.

Is it fair to say that would be considered unusual in England?

(Sorry for derail - OP, this woman sounds very, very strange.)

I should imagine if there was to be a funeral at some point the future, of any random relative or neighbour, MIL would also turn up to that uninvited. If she finds out its a free for all in Ireland she might emigrate!

Where I live the funeral is just that. There's a wake at a chapel or generic room, and then the body is buried. Nobody is "invited" and everyone is welcome too.

If you have a reception at home after the funeral, then it makes some sense to invite people as you'd have to consider numbers, food and drink.

marks place

Your MIL sounds a card, I almost feel sorry for your DH, as she does sound very over-reactive and impulsive (at best) especially about the dog!

Getting a very comfy seat waking for March

Can't believe we have to wait until March to see how this pans out.... OP your MIL sounds BONKERS.

Out of interest why does she say she wants to go? Is she doing it purely to cause trouble?

My ExMIL would have done this.

Has the christening taken place yet?

Yes OP any chance of an update? Please?!

Oh FFS ... I thought I was getting closure! Should have read the last page first ...

Same here Feckless

I'm just plonking myself down for a hopefully, not too long wait.

Oh i am glad i didnt read this in January! i am far to impatient. I am now hoping OP comes back to tell us what happened!

Just read whole thread, really hoped there would be an update seeing as it was in Active Convos. Bah. Marking place.

Aw boo, no update from OP

Ooh place marking

Well I'll sAy this about her. No denying she's a gutsy strong feisty women.
Talk about the EpithAny of not taking no for An answer.

Tell you what I'd love to be. fly on the wall. When she walks in.
However since when does anyone need An invite into a church. I'll Assume thAt's where the christening is being held.

I kind of admire her spirit and hippo hide.

OP we require a Maleficunt update IMMEDIATELY.

I'm guessing that it would be a bit much to message the OP to remind her of this thread?