MIL going to christening she is not invited to...

[pepperfish]

MIL is the true definition of overbearing, but today was quite a cracker, even for her!

So she was telling us today that she's off to a family christening that she's not invited to. Christening is due to be small and personal with just Grandparents and a few friends from what I hear. We know she's not invited because she has been quite vocal about how much she dislikes the mother of the baby and that she's 'a mental case'. She refuses to call the baby by the proper name as she hates it, and if she has to say it, it's said with a sarcastic tone, even in front of the parents. She's already been to visit the baby (4 hour round trip) after being asked not to as it wasn't convenient and received an icy shoulder from the mother, and awkward one from the father, much to her disgust.

The christening is in a different country and shes actually gone and booked flights and a hotel.

DH and I were totally and .

AIBU to be giddily awaiting the resulting fireworks?!

8 years of biting my lip at all the daft and insensitive things she's done for DH's sake. This is going to be good.

Maybe 'not convenient' as nowhere for her to stay, lots of other visitors at the time, going somewhere themselves or

Not wanting to put up with her calling the child by a different name because she doesn't like the given one, calling the child's mother 'a mental case' kind of 'not convenient'.

Sorry - pressed send too soon. Didn't mean to sound snippy at Floggingmolly!

I meant, that's what came to mind when I read 'inconvenient'.

She was asked not to visit the baby as it was inconvenient? What's that about?

What's wrong with that?!

Good grief! How entitled is that??!!

I would alert the parents so that they can secretly change the date!!

Can you warn the parents??

Technically, I did come uninvited to my nephew's christening when I was living in the UK and it did involve travelling almost 3 hours by plane each way.

We are very relaxed about these things, and my sister supposedly didn't invite me because it involved travelling from a different country and she assumed I'd not go.
She did travel to meet my baby and wasn't invited either, though. :)

Warn them!

I think your DH is right not in saying not to get drawn in. Can you imagine the fallout if you warn them, her plans get thwarted and she finds out you are involved. Keep out it and let her show herself up.

She was asked not to visit the baby as it was inconvenient? What's that about?

Well, judging by this MIL's personality, it sounds like a delicate way of saying "Please don't darken our door because we can't stand you"

Holy moly! I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that one! Is it Ireland by any chance!?

Bloody hell

It will be like the christening scene in Sleeping Beauty.

I think it's astonishing that MIL is prepared to go to such trouble, time and money to inflict herself upon people she actively dislikes (YET AGAIN) purely to piss them off. That's pretty twisted!

Ha ha- YES! Hatespiders that's exactly what I was thinking

seaoflove - that's partly how I translated it too... however the official reason given was that mother of child was recovering from post CS infection. I'm not making this up I swear!

I have plenty of bonkers conkers examples of other things she's done & said, but I'm a bit scared if I say too much I'll out myself if any of family members are on here. But there is another thread on MN about her as one poster remembered (I'm on my phone and can't look back through replies to find your name, sorry!)

I will have a think about other examples of crazy MIL moments I can give you without risking caught out!!

Do you think she'll get through customs with that cauldron?

Why let pesky things like an ocean and a lack of invitation stop you attending a baptism you're set on going to.

She'll have to pay excess baggage for the broomstick.

I would have to warn the parents (as in casually drop it into a conversation that MILfromhell is going)! Wow, she sounds like a horrible woman.

Ok, at risk of burning my cauliflower cheese, here's one...

When we told her we were getting a dog, she cried. We asked why she was crying. She said she wouldn't be able to come and visit us anymore. We asked why on earth not?!

She replied something along the lines of: "because I won't be able to go and visit {another baby, her friend's daughter's child who she sees regularly} in case I pass something on to him!"

I'm a vet nurse and my animals are kept strictly up to date with their flea and worming treatment. It took everything I had to keep a straight face.

Marking place too please update on her return

Hope you got the dog.

How long do we have to wait until the christening? Is it soon?

that's the sort of thing my dad would have done. is she lonely/mental health problems etc? the odd things that people do, eh.