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MIL going to christening she is not invited to...

211 replies

pepperfish · 17/01/2015 19:47

MIL is the true definition of overbearing, but today was quite a cracker, even for her!

So she was telling us today that she's off to a family christening that she's not invited to. Christening is due to be small and personal with just Grandparents and a few friends from what I hear. We know she's not invited because she has been quite vocal about how much she dislikes the mother of the baby and that she's 'a mental case'. She refuses to call the baby by the proper name as she hates it, and if she has to say it, it's said with a sarcastic tone, even in front of the parents. She's already been to visit the baby (4 hour round trip) after being asked not to as it wasn't convenient and received an icy shoulder from the mother, and awkward one from the father, much to her disgust.

The christening is in a different country and shes actually gone and booked flights and a hotel.

DH and I were totally Hmm and Shock.

AIBU to be giddily awaiting the resulting fireworks?! Grin

8 years of biting my lip at all the daft and insensitive things she's done for DH's sake. This is going to be good.

OP posts:
Staywithme · 17/01/2015 20:19

Really, really hoping they have given her a false date and she arrives a week late. Grin Or they have decided to have the christening in the MIL country so family can attend and she will arrive to find out they've flown in the opposite direction. [devil smiley]

JoanHickson · 17/01/2015 20:22

I bet she had a nose through a calendar or diary. I have a relative who examined the insides of birthday cards on display.

liquidstateisonthemulled · 17/01/2015 20:23

Imperial GrinGrin

It depends on the church as to whether the Christening is at the end of the service or not. My DD had a seperate CofE service because the church is tiny and added christening guests would mean not enough space for the mostly elderly congregation.

Your MIL is bonkers. Please please keep us updated. and add more examples of her weirdness

CSIJanner · 17/01/2015 20:23

Catholic christenings are usually at the end of mass in front of the entire congregation. Alternatively, you can book a private one with the priest/bishops permission. But even so, if it's the latter as its a quiet one, its a humdinger of a thing to do. It's one thing to blend in, looking like a member of a congregation with wedding hat jauntily to one side and mother of the bride outfit but another to gate crash a private ceremony.

ItsAKindOfRabbit · 17/01/2015 20:25

This rings a bell is it your DH's cousin? You must warn the parents, it's really not on. There's obviously a reason she hasn't been invited and it sounds like she's just going to be spiteful.

Lweji · 17/01/2015 20:25

Not just you, Imperial.

If I was the OP, I'd consider to also travel just to witness it. Or ask someone to film it.

Oh, the months of gossip and piss taking.

Andrewofgg · 17/01/2015 20:25

Well, it's a whole day or more she won't be darkening your door . . . Always look on the bright side of life!

Lweji · 17/01/2015 20:26

Catholic christenings are usually at the end of mass in front of the entire congregation.

Also not always. It varies a lot.

iklboo · 17/01/2015 20:26

She's not going to crash through the doors & down the aisle singing 'It Should've Been Me' is she?

FluffyRedSocks · 17/01/2015 20:28

Blatant placemark !

Lweji · 17/01/2015 20:28

She will probably push the godmother away and take her place.

SmellyFartado · 17/01/2015 20:28

What an entitled arse your MIL is - I would add she's a cheeky fucker to boot. Let them know so they can change the date and not tell her.

flashystars · 17/01/2015 20:29

Watching

Hatespiders · 17/01/2015 20:29

She'll end up head first in the font.

ImperialBlether · 17/01/2015 20:30

This has got to be filmed by someone there. And shared with us all on YouTube, of course.

It's really the story of the wicked fairy godmother in Sleeping Beauty, isn't it? What would she give as her reason for being there?

ForSaleChesterDraws · 17/01/2015 20:30

Wow. And she thinks the mother of the baby is "a mental case"?!?

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 17/01/2015 20:30

Jeez what a weirdo she sounds.

Floggingmolly · 17/01/2015 20:31

She was asked not to visit the baby as it was inconvenient? What's that about?

Hassled · 17/01/2015 20:31

Bloody hell - that's some MIL. I really think you do need to warn the parents of the baby though. It won't be a case of you getting pulled into it or meddling - it'd just show that you/your DH aren't responsible or party to her madness.

ladygracie · 17/01/2015 20:32

No, not just you imperial!
Updates are essential. She sounds bonkers!

Corabell · 17/01/2015 20:33

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Familyguyfan · 17/01/2015 20:34

My grandmother went to a funeral she wasn't invited to. She didn't like the person who had died, she just wanted to be there and be a pain. She had a door slammed in her face. Well deserved in my opinion.

MaryWestmacott · 17/01/2015 20:37

Flogging - I assume on that day/during that visit for the parents to the UK (if it was a drive, not a flight that time), but was one of those people who decided it was convenient day for them so went regardless of the plans the parents had for that day...

OP - Please let the parents know, you can say that you don't want them to say that it was you that told them - and see if you can get them to shift the date by a week - ideally a week earlier so it's done before she arrives Grin

BoredChurch · 17/01/2015 20:37

Are you sure it's true, it sounds soooooo extreme. Are you sure you are not being hoodwinked?

ImperialBlether · 17/01/2015 20:37

Floggingmolly, it sounds as though the couple were trying to be polite when they said her visit would be inconvenient. What they probably meant was, "Please don't come otherwise we will be rocking in a dark corner for many months."