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To be late for parents evening

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42bunnytails · 12/01/2015 23:11

DD2 (Y9) has made an appointment with her German teacher.

She hates him, she's absolutely useless at German, gets put in detention and has made no progress in three years.

She's a straight A student at everything else

She's done it purely to see if I can keep a straight face, when she knows I think he's an idiot too.

It's not fair, she knows I had a fit of the giggles watching one of her class just wander off mid bollocking, leaving her parents to hear the end of it.

To make it worse you can see the French teacher trying not to giggle too

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/01/2015 15:48

If she is getting detentions for chatting in class, she is not a little angel.

42bunnytails1 · 15/01/2015 15:53

One day my -little precious- sometimes stroppy, but incredibly determined not so little madam will be your grand child's primary head teacher!

ilovesooty · 15/01/2015 15:59

Oh really?

This is the respectful child who reads out attendance letters from school in a "dramatic, sarcastic voice" whole you condone that behaviour?

You're deluded and blinkered.

ilovesooty · 15/01/2015 16:02

And if you think that's poor form you could think about how clearly you show yourself and your "cool" parenting and lack of respect for what it is and how you facilitate your daughter's behaviour.

VictorineMeurent · 15/01/2015 16:08

SuburbanRhonda , no I can't but they do like independent thinkers.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/01/2015 16:09

And when she is a primary head teacher, how will she feel about rude, discourteous, disrespectful pupils who disrupt their schoolmates' learning, I wonder. Will she have a conspiratorial giggle with them, and to hell with the education of the majority?

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 15/01/2015 16:11

Well, let's hope she has plenty of time to adapt herself to my (future!) grandchildren's unique learning styles then! We wouldn't want any irony showing its hand there, would we?

ilovesooty · 15/01/2015 16:13

Will she read the attendance letters out in a "sarcastic dramatic voice" before they're posted?
Will she shrug her shoulders when a child wanders off on a school trip because her elder sister did it and her mother condoned it?
Will she giggle away with parents of little precious who didn't want to conform to group norms and cancel little precious ' detentions?

UptheChimney · 15/01/2015 16:20

that respect for authority is not a given and although it should be assumed in the early stages overall it must be earned

But what that implies is that a 14 or 15 yo assumes that they have the knowledge & life experience to judge whether or not their teacher has earned their respect.

Which is bonkers.

42bunnytails1 · 15/01/2015 16:29

No, she'll understand that some children need extra support and understanding. That everyone can not be good at everything and that sometime humour can diffuse a difficult situation.

Had she not joked about that attendance letter she would have burst into tears.

If you had read that comment in the context of the thread, rather than just searching my username (which I still believe is considered very rude on here). You would have realised the whole thread agreed that automatic attendance letters for DCs who like school and are genuinely ill are incredibly counter productive and stir up a lot of bad feeling.

42bunnytails1 · 15/01/2015 16:45

Now I'm afraid I have to be a "cool mum" (DDs have just come back and ROFL at that suggestion) and do some HomeWork Shouting.

Oh and DD2 first words to me this evening were "I got a sub level higher in the German test today" and she even spoke some German to me.

Whatever you lot think, she does care just a bit. Far too little and far to late for German, but that doesn't matter.

All any Y9 mum wants is for their child to care about what comes next year and beyond. And what ever you lot conclude about my parenting style, I know it works. I have seen DD1 get good GCSEs and making a good start at A level despite written work taking her far longer than it should.

And I know DD2 will do well too.

ilovesooty · 15/01/2015 16:56

I agree that automatically generated attendance letters can be counterproductive but the schools are driven by government targets.
My issue is that you are disrespectful to the school and collude with your daughter to behave likewise. Just about everybody in the thread agrees but you won't acknowledge that.
And you started the thread, obviously imagining with your lack of adult self awareness that people would agree with you and find it funny. You take no responsibility for that.

SuburbanRhonda · 15/01/2015 17:09

DD2 first words to me this evening were "I got a sub-level higher in the German test today" and even spoke some German to me.

What a coincidence! That after 3 years of making no progress at all she suddenly turns it round just as you get a drubbing on MN.

Who'd have though it.

42bunnytails1 · 15/01/2015 17:52

I knew you wouldn't believe me.

That, of course is the best thing about coincidences, people don't believe them.

LancashireTea · 15/01/2015 18:11

It is situations like this that make my job so bloody easy...

You shouldn't bother to see that member of staff if it is going to be such a hilarious waste of time. If she was in my class, I wouldn't be too impressed with the support we were getting from home.

And as for school trips, having organised a fair few myself, there would be hell to pay if your DD decided to wander off from one of mine. She certainly wouldn't be allowed to go on another one again whilst she attended our school!

BitOutOfPractice · 15/01/2015 18:18

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jimmycrackcornbutidontcare · 15/01/2015 18:22

Started reading this thread and felt like the OP was 13 and became embarrassed and uncomfortable.

SuburbanRhonda · 15/01/2015 18:35

Who said they didn't believe you, OP?

Why would that thought even come into your head?

kinkyfuckery · 15/01/2015 18:54

Wow, what a heap of bullshit.

OP Grow up and teach your little angle some respect and decency! You might need to get someone else to teach you first, by the sounds of things.

Lottiedoubtie · 15/01/2015 19:22

I believe your DD came home and said/did that.

It is a hell of a lot more plausible than her leaning absolutely no German in the last 3 years.

But generally yes, I'm with bitoutofpractice

42bunnytails1 · 15/01/2015 19:47

Nope, I shan't "grow up" I shall bask in my new found status as a "Cool Mummy"

I've never been called cool before. I rather like it.

echt · 15/01/2015 19:51

Er… it's not a compliment, OP.

It roughly translates into "rather desperate parent trying hard to be friendy
-wendy with their child, when what they need is good parenting".

HTH

ilovesooty · 15/01/2015 19:54

No definitely not a compliment. But an adult with normal self awareness would know it's what echt said. Only someone pretty insecure would be so desperate.

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QueenTilly · 15/01/2015 21:41

Right. That's enough internet for today.