To get irritated when people who wear expensive clothes sneer at those that don't?

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I just think it's so rude, snobby and nasty. We can't all afford designer and high end clothing, and it doesn't make someone a total scumbag if they choose to/have to wear cheaper clothes.

DH's friend and his wife both wear designer and high end high street clothes, and dress their 3 year old daughter in the same way. Fair enough, that's their choice and they all always look nice. However it irritates me that they look down on others who don't dress as they do (such as me, DH and our kids!). It's little things like asking where an item DD is wearing is from and if we reply it's from Asda/Next/Tesco they pull a bit of a face and say how they would simply never shop there. They also make a big deal about how they would never shop in Primark as they think it's horrible and that they'd hate anyone to see them going in or coming out of there. They were also once totally disgusted when I said DS's trousers were from a charity shop, and one of them made a jokey gagging noise.

I also used to work with a woman a few years ago who referred to lots of high street shops as "common" and "disgusting" and made a huge thing about only shopping at places like Reiss, Selfridges, Karen Millen etc. She always talked about how great her wardrobe was and how she could never bring herself to shop in the shops that the rest of us shopped in.

These kinds of attitudes really bug me. It's just so nasty and unnecessary. By all means buy clothes wherever you want to and can afford to, but don't assume that anyone that doesn't go to the same places it beneath you!

My annoying Laaandaaan mate (originally from south Wales) with her stupid STUPID sschtudent accent came over to see me a couple of weeks back and smugly told me she'd bought 700 pound Burberry coat. And looked at me like 'what have you done lately?' Well actually you twat I've just given birth to a baby.

I'm bitter. Can you tell.

Really. DD stopped shitting on herself by age 3. Ditto the vomiting and pissing. Plus a cotton sundress for £50 usually washes as well as a £6.99 one.

Having said that, I wouldn't buy supermarket clothes because:

I haven't lived near a 'big' supermarket that sold clothes for the best part of ten years. Travelling to find one would be daft.

I have bought food and my clothes mostly online for the same period of time.

I would rather buy a better item second-hand than a cheaper item new.

Oh and maybedoctor, supermarkets and primark sell more substantial clothing than leggings, although i get your point.

Fools and their money are soon parted.

Whenever I've bought anything a little pricier than usual, I'll still spill food down it/ get it caught on something/ see it go bobbly after just one wash or somehow just generally wish I hadn't wasted my money.

Pag I only have the one DS who is quite hard wearing on his clothes. I can understand an adult buying an expensive coat that they would get a few years wear out of but a rapidly growing child likely to put holes in their clothes? That seems to be a bit of a waste of money.

I suppose I'm looking at a per wear scenario

My cousin and his wife are a bit like this. I just think they sound ignorant and feel sorry for them. I think you have to be pretty dense to think money makes you more important than other people. And pretty dense to waste it on over-priced clothing. Don't waste your energy getting irritated. The issue is entirely theirs.

I do like the cut of high end clothes and the better the quality of the fabric the better the garment hangs. Hides the odd imperfection in the human form. I love clothes and make my own when I have time, though it costs a fortune in time and money if you get quality materials and take the time to tailor it properly.

But I'm also dead cheap.

I buy loads of second hand quality stuff on eBay for high street prices and will wear the same clothes for years, literally until the fall apart.

I have a friend and we just don't understand each other. She probably spends twice what I do on clothes in a year, but where I will buy a few quality pieces and keep them forever she will buy wardrobes full of cheap stuff that gets thrown out after 6 months use. Could be she just enjoys shopping while I hate it.

I've never met anyone that does this. I must be lucky. Or just know cheapos (I can't tell the difference!) :)

Ah nottheop

My boys never went through their clothes quickly and Ds2 would get DS1 stuff.
But DDs stuff rarely wore out and I sold most of it on eBay so got money back. A few times I got more for her dresses than I paid for them. I tend to give it away now. She's not fussed now so it was only a few years.

Most of my DDs clothes are from fairly expensive brands, and I'm sure some people think I'm either a snob or spend a fortune on dressing her, but it's all from charity shops and eBay. I don't buy expensive brands for the snob value either, but because they wash and wear better and can be passed on to my nieces.

I have bought things from Primark but find that they just fall apart and its a false economy.

There is a man that I work alongside who constantly bemoans that he is broke, his life is shit cos he has no money, yet, he will only ever do his weekly shop at M&S and Waitrose, will never buy clothes that have come from the High Street (unless its M&S), they always have to be from some designer or another ("oooo cant believe Ive had to spend another £xxx on a new suit just for work").
He has openly sneered at me for having some work dresses/tops from Primark and Sainsburys ("but you always seem so well dressed, how can you shop at primark!!"). It gets right on my nerves, the sheer amount of moaning he is broke he does, yet is a complete snob who would sooner cut his own bollocks off than set foot in Sainsburys.
So, OP, I sympathise, I really do.

Yanbu but as a pp said they are dicks and if it wasn't clothes they would be snooty about something else. Tbh I am so disinterested in fashion I don't know if someone is dressed in primark or prada

I don't mix in those circles either. There is I guess a pressure to look well, to be slim, well-groomed, to wear stuff that flatters, but I don't personally feel that labels cut more ice than choosing carefully.

YANBU!

I think we are moving forward as a society from the days when people thought designer goods meant prosperity and shopping in the best supermarkets means you have wealth, in the current economical climate its actually the less sensible people that spend money on crap like this.

I have pretty much no money but i work with doctors and consultants every day, they shop in LIDL, use cupons and wear bon marche or Burton. To me people like this use designer goods to mask deep insecurities or emptiness in themselves. I love designer clothes and shoes but try and make sensible choices with mine and my sons clothes and things, when i fancy a treat EBAY is my friend.

Reminds me of a distant relative informing the family he was taking his 4yo son to the Barbour shop. He turned to myself and my siblings to tell us it's a clothes shop. Oh how I bit my tongue!!

I remember a mum from my ds's footy team saying the head of her ds's school telling parents they should buy cheap clothes for an upcoming residential trip because the kids were going to get very dirty. She said. "I know she's right but my (10 year old) ds just won't wear cheap clothes. I had a look in Sports Direct but I just couldn't make him wear clothes from there."

You could just be happy for them and stalk them see which charity shop they take their posh togs to.

I have a shortlist of a couple of really nice charity shops. Apparently the dresses I bought a couple of weeks ago were brought in by the same woman, so they showed me a skirt she had donated. I bought that too. East, Boden and White Stuff, the Boden skirt was unworn, altogether cost me £12.

I shall indeed be showing off my 'new' clothes for a while.

I love fancy clothes.
But wearing them does not make me a better person. It just makes me a more fancily dressed person.

I love clothes. I love fabrics, textures and colours. I will shop anywhere looking for something I like. I very rarely find anything in 'designer' shops, they are selling their image through and through. Very unimaginative take on (generally boring) fashion. Anyone who will only shop at a designer shop probably cannot possibly have given any thought. They're buying an image that may or may not suit them. It's not THEM. They may as well be shop dummies with batteries.

The trouble with that is that high street stores are appalling for some sections of the population.

I went out to look at the sales this afternoon. There was one dress in French connection suitable for me, two in whistles, none in mango, warehouse, etc etc.
There were rails I could chose from in Nicole Fahri, Hugo boss, maxmara, and stuff like issa, DVF etc at two local designer boutiques

My particular quirk is hardly weird - I'm a 10-12 but I need dresses to be knee length. High street shops are shit for this.

I have relitives who are millionaires, genuine millionaires, and almost all of their stuff is from next of tkmaxx.

I agree that it's very reality star/ tasteless to "show off" expensive goods.

"He has openly sneered at me for having some work dresses/tops from Primark and Sainsburys ("but you always seem so well dressed, how can you shop at primark!!")."
Ooh askyfullofstars, that just begs the response "You really shouldn't confuse well dressed with expensively dressed, Malcolm"^ (he sounds like a Malcolm...). Said in a kindly tone but accompanied with an appraising head to toe scan, then a wistful kindly smile.(Passive aggressive? Moi?

To be fair, I also don't think brands like etro, erdem, SM or Vivienne Westwood are especially boring. Love Erdem. I would kill several people for one of those full length gowns.