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Ungrateful SIL?

56 replies

hopingforamiracle · 03/01/2015 11:37

I'm so angry. I'm ill and spent all day yesterday (12-10pm) making SIL daughter a cake. the cake was a disaster so I made a slightly different one but still the same theme. SIL has said she's gutted and is demanding pictures of the cake to see what it looks like because her other friend has made a cake which she said she hates. My brother has shouted at me telling me to send photos of the cake and called me mentally retarded. I haven't had time to send photos and don't want to because i know she will turn her nose up at it. I'm going to take the cake to the party today because I spent £30 on ingredients. AIBU?

OP posts:
misskangaandroo2014 · 03/01/2015 11:40

In all honesty I wouldn't go to the party. What a horrid pair!

DaisyFlowerChain · 03/01/2015 11:42

Did she pay you to make the cake? If so, wanting to see a pic before the party is fine and I don't see the objection.

If it's your gift, then she either accepts it or takes her own along with her.

Name calling is not on.

Original poster
hopingforamiracle · 03/01/2015 11:44

the cake is a gift

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JeffVaderRunsTheDeathStar · 03/01/2015 11:45

Plonk the cake in front of her and walk out. Ungrateful swines.

wowfudge · 03/01/2015 11:46

What??? Have they asked you to make something specific you have made successfully before or are you good at these sorts of things so they've asked you to bake a cake?

Whatever is going on, your brother needs to get some manners and an education speaking to you like that. Your SIL is not much better, but if it's the special cake for the party I can understand where she might be coming from.

clam · 03/01/2015 11:46

You're ill, you say? Excellent excuse not to go to the party at all. Result!

TheLastThneed · 03/01/2015 11:47

I wouldn't send a picture and would just take the cake along...how ungrateful!

Icimoi · 03/01/2015 11:47

I wouldn't go if I were you. Keep the cake for yourself and ask some friends round to help you eat it. And explain slowly and carefully to your brother that he is a total arsehole.

Nomama · 03/01/2015 11:48

No. Ring back, tell them if they want the cake they can come and get it, it will be in a bag on the doorstep.

Go to bed with a lemsip/hot chocolate and sod them.

alpacasosoftsnowgentlyfalling · 03/01/2015 11:48

I would just tell her to go fuck herself !

Ohfourfoxache · 03/01/2015 11:49

I agree - take the cake and walk out.

What a cow Shock

And your brother is no better.

ihatethecold · 03/01/2015 11:49

I'd shove the cake in her face and walk out.

ButEmilylovedhim · 03/01/2015 11:50

She got another person to make a cake too? How has she managed to get people to do favours for her? Her and your brother sound beyond awful. A normal person would be so so grateful. £30 is a lot of money. I would stay at home and eat the cake myself, which I'm sure will be delicious.

LadyLuck10 · 03/01/2015 11:53

It takes a minute to take a picture and send. If you told them the first cake was a disaster, they understandably want to see if the second one will be too. The name calling is not on but I can see how frustrating you are by not giving them any information about it.

Spartak · 03/01/2015 11:56

What are you on about ladyluck? It's a gift. They should be grateful even if it looks shit.

Spartak · 03/01/2015 11:56

Which I'm sure it doesn't OP. Can you send the cake along with someone else, then switch your phone off?

LadyLuck10 · 03/01/2015 11:59

If this is the birthday cake the you would want to know how it came out?

ShipwreckedAndMerrilyComatose · 03/01/2015 11:59

I'm another one who doesn't understand why there are two cakes!

Give your brother the cake to take and stay at home!

Spartak · 03/01/2015 12:02

Unless it's the SILs 18th or something and it's a huge family gathering then why does it matter what it looks like?

ApocalypseThen · 03/01/2015 12:03

Why are you blaming your sister in law rather than your brother for this?

Cobain · 03/01/2015 12:05

I would be more upset at your brothers language than photos of a cake.

claraschu · 03/01/2015 12:07

?
You spent 10 hours making a disastrous first cake??
You the made another at 10 pm?
It cost £30 in ingredients?
Intriguing

Can we all see a picture?

TheLastThneed · 03/01/2015 12:09

If someone made me a cake as a gift, I wouldn't demand to see a picture in advance...

Username12345 · 03/01/2015 12:11

I'd be furious if someone spoke to me like that, family or not.

Do you often allow yourself to be treated like that, hopingforamiracle?

GlitzAndGigglesx · 03/01/2015 12:12

They can collect it the cheeks. Did she want everyone making cakes so she could see whose was the best or something?

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