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DS dressing up as Elsa

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MyIronLung · 01/01/2015 23:17

Today DS (3) got an Elsa (from Frozen) dress. He loves it! He was walking around saying that he was so pretty and singing (trying to) Let it go Grin
Before this hes never shown any interest in any kind of dressing up but recently, while watching Frozen, hes been commenting on how pretty and sparkly Elsas dress is and that he would like one.
I think he looks so lovely in it. He has no concept of 'boys and girls toys' so to him it's just dressing up. (He also has typically 'girly' toys such as a kitchen, necklace threading beads ect).
He's a 'typical' boy. Boisterous, loves lego, cars, trains, monsters and now Elsa.
My step dad on the other hand is not impressed. He would deny it but he's very homophobic, to him I think he sees it as a gateway dress!

I just wanted To ask, aibu to let DS have and enjoy this dress < disclaimer...I don't think I am Grin>

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AshesOfRoses · 01/01/2015 23:21

YANBU. Let your DS enjoy it Smile

WorraLiberty · 01/01/2015 23:23

Oh please make it stop...

Yes YABU

Yes he'll catch the gays

Yes your step dad is 100% right

etc etc etc

AshesOfRoses · 01/01/2015 23:24

Oh, I'm obviously missing something...

saoirse31 · 01/01/2015 23:24

tbh I always wonder if parents who want their sons to wear dresses are really trying to stealth boast about how pc they are. howevet I wouldn't think anything negative about your d's.

CaptainAnkles · 01/01/2015 23:25

He's three. He'll either grow out of it or it's the start of an amazing drag queen career.

DomiKatetrix · 01/01/2015 23:26

Ashes I think it's just how often these threads pop up.

Only1scoop · 01/01/2015 23:26

Stealth boast a tad....yes you are so pc with the gender neutral costume....'next'

AshesOfRoses · 01/01/2015 23:27

MY DS wanted pink pajamas (and got them) at that age. He moved on.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 01/01/2015 23:28

Let him enjoy it he's 3. My daughter plays with "boys toys" sometimes such as cars and tractors. No harm

AshesOfRoses · 01/01/2015 23:28

Thank you Kate

BadtzMaru · 01/01/2015 23:29

Did anyone notice there was a princess dress wearing young boy in one of the christmas ads this year, think it was a supermarket one. Made me think of MN every time it came on.

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MyIronLung · 01/01/2015 23:30

Worra
I get it. Stupid question (especially as I don't think iabu) Grin

Quite frankly I find it ridiculous that in 2015 this is an issue for anybody.

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Kittymum03 · 01/01/2015 23:34

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haphazardbystarlight · 01/01/2015 23:34

It's an issue for me and it does make me uncomfortable.

I know that's my issue though.

But I would gently steer DS away from such choices personally!

WilsonWilsonWoman · 01/01/2015 23:37

You're making it your son's issue though by 'gently steering' him away surely? And what happens to gentle steering if he insists he wants to make that choice?

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MyIronLung · 01/01/2015 23:38

Not a stealth boast.

He wanted it, he got it. Nothing to do with me wanting him to have a "gender neutral costume". If he'd wanted a Spider-Man outfit he'd have got that instead and i would've thought he looked lovely in that too. (But I wouldn't have got any homophobic comments from sd about it)

I didn't realise that this was a thing that people boast about. (Must put pics on fb then).

It's simply that sd reaction to it shocked me.

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haphazardbystarlight · 01/01/2015 23:40

Wilson - when I was 4 I wanted to wear boxer shorts to be like my brother! My mum started giggling and said 'no, they are for boys!'

If (and to date he hasn't) DS had asked for an Elsa dress I'd have laughed and said 'no, it's for girls!'

Hardly making it into an issue.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 01/01/2015 23:43

Perhaps its something that gets posted about a fair bit because there are a fair few strange people about who think "the gay" is contagious and make there feelings known when children are just innocently playing.

Sometimes the parent may be wanting reassurance or sometimes they may find the attitude worth poking fun at.

If its not an unusual circumstance and its something that shed loads of 2/3 yo's do then its quite normal so not really a stealth PC/GN boast. Its kinda like trying to boast about a 1999 vauxhall vectra

SnapeChat · 01/01/2015 23:43

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DancingDinosaur · 01/01/2015 23:44

Elsa dresses are really expensive. So for that yabu. (I'm too tight to hand that much cash over for dressing up stuff.) Nothing else.

MrsCaptainReynolds · 01/01/2015 23:44

This could be me, DS3 obsessed with Elsa. The whole pre-school is. Dried him after his bath today and he wanted to wrap the towel around him like Elsa's dress.

PaleoRules · 01/01/2015 23:45

haphazard, how is laughing at him and "gently steering him away"? I would have said that's quite a brutal steer tbh!

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 01/01/2015 23:46

It's a non issue like my 3year old DS insisting on applying lip balm in lipstick shape and insisting it is lipstick to all and sundry that now has to be carried everywhere.

CassieBearRawr · 01/01/2015 23:48

Hazard that is bloody depressing. He should be able to wear whatever the fuck he likes. Christ, I hope for his sake he is a cis gendered hetereosexual or I expect he will struggle with a black and white binary attitude like that.

haphazardbystarlight · 01/01/2015 23:49

There is a difference though isn't there between laughing at a child in a 'nice' way - because they have been cute or funny or sweet - and in a derogatory manner.

My mum certainly wasn't being brutal when she said boxer shorts were for boys - she just found it cute/funny that I wanted to wear them!

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