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To want to leave selfish manchild based on the last few weeks alone.

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homealone42 · 01/01/2015 17:47

Bit of background. i am a sahm to 3 boisourous boys. 10, 7 and 2. 7 year old is going though process of being diagnosed for some form of behavioural issue. dh works long hours so life is no walk in the park for either of us.
Anyway dh does diy, finances, garden and occassionally cooks, washes up (well maybe once every 2 weeks)and changes the odd nappy. Maybe 40 in 2 years. I do all housework, laundry. 90% childcare including virtually all ds2 toileting needs as he has toileting issues.
Anyway in the last month dh has received a sunbstantial bonus say 4k approx. He has purchased generous presents for dc and tbf spent a tiny bit more than usual on me and purchased a few small additional gifts for himself. Yet at the same time he has been moaning about grocery bill. I pointed that that this includes some clothing purchase for dc, nappies,wipes, pj pants and cleaning materials etc. i said if he doesn't like it he should give it a try. His reply was just we need to empty freezer before yadda yadda.
So dh has been at work 3 days over xmas period. these days have been much shorter but he hasn't adjusted what he does at home to compensate. ie sat on his arse most evenings whilst I do bulk of cooking, cleaning kitchen, bedtime etc. He was heard on the phone telling sis that he was going to chill as he had worked 3 days already this week. I felt like saying well I have worked 7.
Well today dh said he was going out to buy longer shelves to display an item he collects. So obv we have enough money for this but have to economise on groceries. I also asked him to get a few essentials as he was going out. He came home with drinks for himself and ds but none of the drink I like. Healso brought a big bar of choc than only he likds.
Tomorror he is taking older 2 to panto with his mum so we have money for that. We also have money for £80 worth of computer games. His excuse was that he had allocatted £250 to buy the latest console but as his mum got it for hhim so he wzs going to buy some games.
I am married to a selfish manchild aren't I?

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Mrsjayy · 06/01/2015 14:50

Im not sure what a lot of these posts are about yes your husband works no I don't think because ypu are a sahm ypu should vbe doing everything and he can lounge about playing games he doesn't sound a manchild he sounds a bit lazy and expects you to be on duty with the children so he can relax and do te good bits did he enjoy the panto btw. Just because a partner paent works doesn't mean they can't lend a hand so you can both sit on your arse , the moaning about the food shopping dh does that so he does the food shopping he is a smug git when he gets a bargain but least he does it . You need to talk to your husband if he thinks you are happy running after everybody he is going to let you do it all.

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Mrsjayy · 06/01/2015 14:51

Sorry typos.

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Mrsjayy · 06/01/2015 14:56

I don't think some posters respect sahp at all they think we are lucky rich and pampered to have the privelage to sah most do it because it works for their families but this isn't working for you really is it you sound knackered