To find ILs sticking "the" in front of DS's name a bit annoying?

[MaryBerrysBum]

Ever since DS was born my younger BIL decided to use "the" in front of his name when speaking about him. So rather than saying "How's Jack* doing?" He'd ask "How's the Jack doing?"

MIL has picked this up and we've just received our Christmas card addressed to me, DH and the Jack.

This is really starting to irritate me for some reason. AIBU?

*His name isn't Jack but it's similar, trying not to completely out myself in case MIL is a secret mumsnetter.

Send them one from "the Jack" and put a line through "the".

Perfect DrBonnie

My MIL called both my DSs 'the baby' for at least the first year of their respective lives. Fucked me right off! I share your pain. Although, at least, thinking about it, at least your DS has a name

That's weird. It would piss me off so YANBU. But I'm a bit highly strung.

I would tell my DH to have a word. A friendly word, mind you.

Improvement on my FIL, who doesn't bother to get in touch a lot any more, but when he does refers to DD as 'the little girl'.

YANBU. That would annoy the hell out of me too

South and Monstrous that would REALLY irritate me.

I would just start putting 'the' in front of all their names and sign it 'the Maryberry' etc

It is fairly harmless but would irritate me too .

My mum calls my dd or ds 'the child' sometimes when she's speaking to other people and I get irrationally annoyed .

I've just received cards from my Nan who has spelt my 3 year olds name wrong - twice! In two different ways!
I'm actually really annoyed and when writing her card will be putting DD's name in massive writing in black marker and underlined
I second the idea of replying with from "the Jack"

Send one back:- To THE Mil and THE Fil from Mary, Mr Mary and JACK

That's weird, maybe they see it as their pet name for him?

Thanks all, glad I'm not being ridiculous. Fat chance of DH having a word unfortunately werewolf

Don't think it would irritate me that much.

My mum called my nephew Daniel for the first year of his life as she preferred it to his actual name, which is Sam ...... that seriously pissed me off.

Sounds affected. Your BIL probably thinks he is being funny. Doesn't need to be your wet DH having a word. You could tell them.

Sounds like Gavin and Stacey 'Neil - the baby' every time!

I sometimes call my son 'the boy' but that's my choice.

YANBU to dislike this

They probably don't realise how sensitive you are to this and think it's an affectionate nickname, the stupid, evil bastards.

Minnie both my grandparents on either side still can't spell my name correctly after almost 27 years!!

I think it's quite cute.

We actually do this in our family. I've no idea where it comes from, but we like it!

That would annoy me. But my (otherwise lovely) FIL calls DS 'the little whatsisname' which drives me insane. Especially as he's named after him! I would think he's doing it on purpose but after three years he still gets my name wrong (think saying Marie instead of Mary) and when pushed admitted he couldn't remember DH's middle name.

Oh Francesca don't it drives me potty! I couldn't cope with it for 27 years!