Would this even blip on your radar

[quirkycutekitch]

Exp gave DS his Xmas card (1st Xmas since split) DS is 3 - and it doesn't even say son on it!

To be fair technically mine doesn't either it's one from moon pig with his name & photo on it.

I know it's a really minor thing but it annoys me!

[TheCowThatLaughs]

I had a friend who always chose cards for me because the verse inside was meaningful and it said to a wonderful friend or something similar on the front. I choose cards because I like the picture and I do really like ones with a verse in. She used to be upset because I skipped past the rhyme and just read the "to X from Y" bit, but it didn't occur to me to bother reading it until she told me she was hurt by it.

[FreeSpirit89]

My DS has had a card for Xmas every year since birth so it would gripe me. But were a family where cards with mum/grandparents/sister/daughter/son are the done thing! It would bug me a lil not enough to worry about though

I guess it's exes choice.

[Frogme]

I never bother reading the rhyme either, unless it is the end bit of the joke on the front. Dh's family choose by the rhyme but some of the horrible fronts covers have been corkers.

[formerbabe]

It would never occur to me to give my DC Christmas cards!

[BramwellLovesSnowflakeBiscuits]

I hate cards that say son/daughter/aunt etc on them very nearly as much as I hate ones that say to my girlfriend/wife, even for birthdays I think they are horrible, but then I also really hate Christmas cards that have nothing to do with the nativity on them and am generally a grouchy cow.

[Gubbins]

My family only do Christmas cards for family members we won't be seeing, so we all send them to my sis in Australia and she to us, but there would be no cards between the uk based siblings. My children will often make cards for family members but that's because they love any opportunity to get the glitter out.

My mum never used to give us birthday cards until hours (or even days) after we got our presents because she had to find time to write a long and very personal message inside. My grandfather would label Christmas presents with a funny (ha ha, not odd) little pen and ink cartoon of us with the gift. That's what a personal card means to me, not one that's just been taken of the 'lovely daughter' shelf.

But your moonpig one sounds lovely, and has taken effort and thought on your part. A 'Dear Son' card wouldn't necessarily show that, whereas a blank card of his favourite TV/storybook character and with a loving message written inside would.

[Evergreenredandblue]

Yabu. Grow up

[zukiecat]

I have always given my daughters Christmas cards that say "Daughter" on them, for me, not doing so would be really weird, and as for not giving them a card at all, well each to their own, but that's even weirder!

Only on mumsnet have I heard of parents not giving their DC cards.

I love buying cards though, I can spend weeks looking for, and choosing the right card. Not just for my DC, but for cards for anyone who is special to me.

[zukiecat]

Sorry, forgot to add that XH usually just sends a generic card from a box, and we don't care or mind about that, but I couldn't imagine me doing that!

[PrincessOfChina]

Bit weird. I only send Christmas cards to people who don't live in my house. And even then my Mum, Bro etc just get ones from the pack.

[Bearlet]

A bit off-topic, but this seems like a good place to ask people who care about cards:

Do "card people" find it inappropriate to receive cards with fine art prints on them (without pre-printed greetings, just the sender's handwritten message) for birthdays and other special occasions?

I don't really do cards and am a bit puzzled by the whole concept. (Especially handing over cards in person that don't actually have a message in them beyond "Happy Birthday! Kate x" - can't you just say "happy birthday", as you're standing right in front of me?)

When I do send cards, I tend to choose blank cards with art prints on them, as I find them more tasteful than the garish/twee/jokey "special occasion" ones in the shops. But I've noticed that other people don't seem to do this, so I wonder if they take offence at my overly neutral ones?

What about handmade cards? I've never used cards as an outlet for my creative energy (as I am not a card person), but I am fairly crafty, so could see myself getting into it. Someone upthread said that "no one can complain about a child's handmade card"... what about an adult's handmade card? Weirder or less weird than a blank art card?

[CocobearSqueeze]

A card is a card. You sound like PIL, they want specific cards with mam/ dad on them! Not happening! Everyone gets the same card from our family.

[quirkycutekitch]

Thanks for saying my card sounds lovely gubbins - both cards have the same cartoon character on them (one of his favourites) and his is bigger than mine and there is a nice message inside - so on balance they are probably as nice as one another

[quirkycutekitch]

bearlet I would be greatful for any card for my birthday no matter what the design - and if u made ur own I would think that would be a much more special card than one bought off the shelf (my friend did this a few years back and I have kept those).

[Gubbins]

No, Quirky, you still win because you created your's yourself. It sounds like ExP is still doing pretty well though .

My family and I all tend to go for blank arty cards, Bearlet. And when I've received hand made cards I've been over the moon.

[PenelopePitstops]

OP I am the reverse of you. I judge people who send son cards WTF is the point. My mother in law (not married) always sends one to her dear sons girlfriend, freaking wierd if you ask me!

[OTheHugeManatee]

Nothing wrong with a fine art print, I think they are much more tasteful and understated personally.

I used to judge people who did those cards with 'Husband' or 'Son' or whatever on. I still think they're naff. But DH's family all do them and I'm resigned to it now

[Redglitter]

You're 'winning Christmas' op because of a card??

Wow! Just wow!

[NobodyLivesHere]

In the nicest possible way OP, you are bonkers. Especially at the ? thing, I dont acknowledge unborn foetuses at all on my cards.
The school/nursery ones are because the world is insane. No kids of 3 care.

[Sallystyle]

I loved getting a special card from my mum saying 'daughter' when I was a kid. We only stopped doing it a few years ago. I don't get my kids one at all.

[TheNewSchmoo]

You are not being unreasonable. You're being ridiculous.

[DespicableBeans]

Wow, op is getting a hard time here.

I think you are being a little sensitive, but I can't say yabu as it obviously matters to you. However, nearly everyone I know buys personalised cards, so it's normal for me.

For those asking about 3 year olds caring about a card, I guess they don't but I keep all my cards to my daughter so she can look back at them when she's an adult. I have all the cards my parents kept for me and it's nice to know that when they're gone, I'll be able to reread them and remember those Christmas memories. Maybe I'm just sentimental though.

[fairgame]

I get where you are coming from OP as my family are big on sending cards to each other with son/mum/daughter/cousins etc etc on them. It's a bloody expensive tradition.
But i think that YABU. The main thing is that his dad cared enough to bother getting him a card, it doesn't really matter whether or not it says son on it.

[Alconleigh]

Yeah I'm in the specific relationship cards are naff camp. I freely admit this is mostly snobbery.....the ones I have seen are always ugly as sin and seem to be designed to add weight to somewhat tenuous relationships 'happy birthday to a lovely step nana' etc.

Having said that I find cards such as 'Jesus loves you. Everyone else thinks you're a cunt' hilarious, so I'm not in any real position to cast aspersions.