Would this even blip on your radar

[quirkycutekitch]

Exp gave DS his Xmas card (1st Xmas since split) DS is 3 - and it doesn't even say son on it!

To be fair technically mine doesn't either it's one from moon pig with his name & photo on it.

I know it's a really minor thing but it annoys me!

Probably a bit

Anyway you said it's the first Christmas that you'll have spent apart so I imagine it still feels a bit raw. Hope you have a lovely Christmas.

I've got a joint birthday party tomorrow - two kids turning 5. I will have to buy two cards to go with their gifts I suppose, as social convention demands it of me. However, I know I may as well set fire to some money, as no 5 yr old gives a toot about getting a card.

I'm actually sending my 2nd cousins Christmas cards. They range in age from 2 - 6. My 2.5 year old loves getting post (my DB sometimes sends her magazines), it was part of a crafty plan to send them cards from 'DD and DS' in the hope that they then might return the favour and send DD & DS a card. DD keeps trying to claim my post so I thought it would be really nice for her to get some cards of her own (she may be an anomaly but will enjoy it). After this thread I realise that I have been both extremely dastardly and really naive over whether or not the 4 and 6yos will even be impressed with getting cards (from DDs reaction to post I was assuming the'd love receiving some of their own).

I have always wondered who buys those individual cards in the shops. Crazy waste of money!!

We must be naff too because we have always had cards from our parents even when we lived with them. However, it won't concern me if I don't get a "Merry Christmas, Daughter" card. So YABU/YANBU.

I am baffled by the personalised-card thing.

I don't know a single person who gives Christmas cards to their own family, full stop. Let alone with 'son', 'granddaughter' etc printed on them.

Then my British in-laws came and they had pre-printed ones for every person in the family.

Complete waste of money as children don't give a toss about cards.

My husband gives me a card every year signed by the cats. I wouldn't mind one that said ALL MY LOVE AND DEVOTION FOR ETERNITY..LOVE Mr.Quick

I am trying hard not to do any more of the whole Christmas card thing than I have to.

I've never given them to my children. I'm there for them, give them loads of pressies etc. No need for Christmas cards.

The only reason my parents and sister get them now is because we don't live near each other and won't see each other usually. As children growing up though we never bothered.

Wow, I never knew who actually bought those cards. Have been looking at them puzzled for years: "to a wonderful aunt" "for my exceptional nephew" "to a superlative cousin". It was you all along! Thanks, OP.

We started getting Christmas cards from our parents when we got older and our main present was some cash with a couple of token presents. Cards were simply a way of unwrapping cash

We don't do the personalised birthday ones either.

I wonder if is there any 3 year old who is bothered about a card, let alone the words in it... Can he read? Mine could, but he didn't give a hoot anyway.

I'm happy this card business is a dying art.

I always buy my parents(in their 70's) a mum & dad card,but that's where it stops.
DH & I bought each other husband and wife cards about 20 years ago and I get them out every xmas! They are starting to look dated

Please don't compete with your ex to be the 'best' parent & look for ways to put him down. That will damage your son far more than the lack of a card, personalised or not.

We send all 5 of our DC a Christmas card each with son/daughter on.I though all parents did.

asunnytiger I'd send ur dd a card. I've got my friend's children personalised cards too

I'm just wondering why DS keeps coming home from school with cards when no 3 year old cares about cards & the parents of these children know that to be the case?!??

I have committed all sorts of card-related faux pas such as writing MIL's name inside her special £££ 'Mum' card - I should have addressed her as Mum (though she isn't my mum, as dearly as I love her)

I've done that! FIL's bday card, which he received today. Normally DH sorts his side out, but he forgot to fill it out before he left for work and we needed to get it sent out to make sure it would arrive in time. I wrote rather than "dad." I can't actually bring myself to write dad as, besides the fact he's not and it would make me uncomfortable writing it anyway, my dad is dead so the idea of calling him dad instead just upsets me. I do feel a bit bad about it though.

YABVU

I'm thinking about it quirky, but the important thing is that it arrives with the rest of the post for her and it just seems a little bit much to post a card to my own child I'd really like it if my family sent her cards - she'd be really happy with all the cards she was getting and it would help with bonding I think to be able to tell her that Auntie X sent her this one, whilst this was sent from Nana.. (she's taken an age to warm up to some family members, she's still not comfortable with a lot of them so any additional positive experiences to add in connection with them would be good). I'm pretty sure I can't ask without them thinking I'm really PFB/a loon though

I don't want to line the pockets of card stores any more than I have to. The worlds gone mad.

Dh's family go in for the personalised ones so I have to go along with it and wince at the waste of money . Mine get the crappy boxed ones they would also roll their eyes at the waste of money

Sorry I didn't mean you should send her one 'asunnytiger* I mean't I would send her one if u were my friend

Wow. I feel like I am a different species or something. Talk about finding problems where there are none.