Would this even blip on your radar

[quirkycutekitch]

Exp gave DS his Xmas card (1st Xmas since split) DS is 3 - and it doesn't even say son on it!

To be fair technically mine doesn't either it's one from moon pig with his name & photo on it.

I know it's a really minor thing but it annoys me!

[ASunnyTiger]

Very unreasonable, sorry. It's not for you to determine whether your ex needs to give his son a Christmas card that specifically says "son" on it, or even if he needs to give his son a Christmas card at all. Lots of people don't give Christmas cards to close family members and that's their right. Just because your family happens to do so that doesn't make you right or mean your taste in what the Christmas card should look like and what it should say supersedes your ex's preference.

[VanitasVanitatum]

She was writing a name. The question mark was because your unborn child did not yet have a name.

Wow OP, seriously, this is so judgemental. If people don't show care and sentiment in exactly the way you prescribe it's not good enough? I really think you need to think about your approach, you are not the only arbiter of correct expressions of holiday joy.

[Trills]

You should be grateful that someone who is not yet born was included AT ALL.

[AnnieLobeseder]

I have always wondered who actually buys those Christmas cards with Mum, Son, Nan etc on them. Now I know!

[quirkycutekitch]

Oh - his family do it as well - don't worry, as well as that he'll have 2 sets of grandson cards - one great grandson - a nephew one.

[drbonnieblossman]

It wouldn't be an issue if it didn't say 'son', for me.

But I'm surprised people don't give their children Christmas cards. Have done so since first Christmasses and always with 'son' and 'daughter'.

[pictish]

? is cute and chummy.
You're too hard to please by far.

[quirkycutekitch]

So would people have a different point of view if it was DS's birthday card?

If on his bday he just got him one that said 'happy birthday' no son - no 4?

[ilovepowerhoop]

I have never given cards to my children and my mum and siblings get one out of a pack of cards rather than individual ones bought specially for them.

[ilovepowerhoop]

He has made an effort to get a card, what more do you want?

[TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge]

Why not? My son has had Mario and Sonic birthday cards from me because he would love them.They didn't need 'son' on.That's more for the parent imo to feel it's nice rather than the kid caring,they don't mind,ds would much rather have 'Have a super sonic birthday' than 'Happy Birthday Son' and a crummy picture.

It doesn't matter,surely?

As for the question mark for unborn baby,I think that's cute!How could you possibly be annoyed with that?

I also think it's people that don't give their kids cards that are weird but each to their own

[pictish]

Nope.
I think you attach way too much importance to greetings cards. My mum never bought me a card with 'daughter' on it in my life. I didn't know it mattered.

[ASunnyTiger]

I'm not. Within my family me, my mum, and my sister give cards. My 2 brothers don't. I mentioned family (not specifically referring to his, I was talking generally) as there can be a culture within a family that means they either all do or all don't do something. But since every person within a family is still a free thinking individual it's still perfectly ok - even if every single other family member does it - for that 1 person to decide not to.

I really don't understand your concern over whether a card specifies the type of familial relationship on it. When I pick out a card I look at the overall design and go with what I think will be most appreciated by that person, I don't immediately limit myself to the 'daughter' cards.

[AnnieLobeseder]

No, OP, what was written (or not) on the front of a birthday card would not bother me either, OP, as long as an effort was made to write a nice message inside and the gift was thoughtful/appropriate. A parent's love for their child is not measured by whether the front of a card contains a prescribed combination of words and numbers.

[quirkycutekitch]

The questions mark thing is annoying because it's like saying - I have no idea what that it. When it's my very special unborn son - who is not a question!

[pictish]

Same here Tiger - by keeping your options outwith the twee mum, son and nan cards, you actually end up with something far more personal to the individual it's for imo.

[pictish]

Jeez get over yourself.

[AnnieLobeseder]

Sorry, not sure why I "OP"d you twice there!

[BobsTaintedLeftLeg]

I have 4 DC, eldest being 18 and I've never sent them a christmas card of any sort.

I just asked her about it, and she looked at me like I was off my head!!

Unless a card (of any sort) comes with money enclosed, kids really aren't bothered by them I find!

[AlmaMartyr]

I wouldn't notice. My parents have never given me a card with 'daughter' on, pretty sure they do love me though I've never bought personalised Christmas cards, only occasionally bought personalised birthday cards if it's the card I like best. Sorry, I think YABU. It's nice that you do this but lots don't.

[quirkycutekitch]

think other people on here are more annoyed than me about the very existence of personalised cards!!!

[mamapain]

Firstly I think this obviously has to be taken in the context of a family who do give individual cards to each person, surely the fact that you don't is irrelevant. It's like someone saying to all the christmas related posts, "well we've never celebrated christmas so it's not actually a big deal, get a grip".

I give mum/husband/son/sister etc cards, I like doing it and spend a long time choosing them but yes the card doesn't always say Mum, or Dad or whoever, it may just be a lovely card I think they'll like so on that front yabu.

[Bowlersarm]

OP, you are a very demanding family member with your question mark grumbles and wanting relationship status printed on a card. Stop it, or you'll drive the lot of them mad.

[TooHasty]

what sort of a plonker buys individual Christmas cards?

[ladydepp]

I have never purchased one of those family cards and I have definitely never given one of my dc's a Christmas card. I am slightly fascinated by this new world I am being introduced to on MN .

Does it not get quite expensive buying all these individual cards? I buy cheap packs of Christmas cards and try to bulk buy birthday cards too. The only family specific cards I buy are for Mother's Day. My dc's birthday cards might have their age on but often won't, and would never have "son" or "daughter".

Cards are the first thing I would give up if money was tight!